PILs staying together with me has make it ever so easy to hear words like "cos they stay with u ma", "cos u r at home ma" Gradually their parents became mine. FIL's very sick, I dun tk care of him physically except occasionally lend a hand to assist him to the room.
When there's a need for someone to help "dispensed" PILs' daily medicines cos MIL gets confused, they conveniently spoke in the same tone "cos u stay with them ma".
When came the need to employ maid (maid issues) to help with taking care of FIL to ease MIL's burden, I conveniently became the one running ard looking for suitable ones cos they staying with me ma...
When nurse/doc from HCA Hospice Care were brought in to come assess FIL on weekly basis, I became the one who shld wait at home n inform all FIL's children of the outcome of the review cos they stay here with me ma.
To mk things worse, all these were done with a "cos u r the DIL" thinking thus no appreciation cos I'm the DIL.
How's one supposed to feel when u r neither a nurse nor a doc but to face a sick, frail man everyday....I'm not a cold blooded living dead...I'm a human being...Am I wrong to feel stressed to hv to go thru tis everyday thou I'm not required to tk care of him?? It doesn't matter whether he's my father or his...there's a sick man tt I hv to face everyday tt they can all choose not to c.....
Their daughters...they all hv their own good enuff reasons not able to spend more time with them...their son, my dh has his good enuff reasons to come home late, to stay out with frens....but who am I?? An outsider staying together??? They rather not c him often to ease them the heart pain of seeing him sick...While I'm stuck at home all day expected to be all ready to do watever to help n dh conveniently turn around n asked y the hell I feel stressed??? Cos I'm not taking care of FIL n I'm not his dd then y am I stressed??? Am I telling him tt I feel sad when I c FIL like tt?? DH actually say tt....Wat the....
Nowadays, I could be waking up to c ppl sitting in my living rm. They were all relatives of dh, here to visit FIL. I kn FIL's sick n ppl wanna visit him when they can...But I'm oni asking for my own privacy oni...Couldn't MIL at least let me kn when she kn someone is coming over...OK if I'm sleeping, forget it, but if I'm not, y can't she juz tell me??? Apparently, it's wrong for me to tink so too...I'm wrong bcos FIL's very sick n ppl can juz come in n out whenever they like...wrong bcos I told my own dh abt my dismay tt was meant to b a passing remark...well i kn nothing's gonna change juz bcos i dun like it....
OK I'm juz EVIL to all of them OK?? Y r they all like tt??? Y tell me I'm not obliged to do anything while they can yet come to me with questions like "Y r u not at home??", "How come u dunno he fell down??" ....
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When there's a need for someone to help "dispensed" PILs' daily medicines cos MIL gets confused, they conveniently spoke in the same tone "cos u stay with them ma".
When came the need to employ maid (maid issues) to help with taking care of FIL to ease MIL's burden, I conveniently became the one running ard looking for suitable ones cos they staying with me ma...
When nurse/doc from HCA Hospice Care were brought in to come assess FIL on weekly basis, I became the one who shld wait at home n inform all FIL's children of the outcome of the review cos they stay here with me ma.
To mk things worse, all these were done with a "cos u r the DIL" thinking thus no appreciation cos I'm the DIL.
How's one supposed to feel when u r neither a nurse nor a doc but to face a sick, frail man everyday....I'm not a cold blooded living dead...I'm a human being...Am I wrong to feel stressed to hv to go thru tis everyday thou I'm not required to tk care of him?? It doesn't matter whether he's my father or his...there's a sick man tt I hv to face everyday tt they can all choose not to c.....
Their daughters...they all hv their own good enuff reasons not able to spend more time with them...their son, my dh has his good enuff reasons to come home late, to stay out with frens....but who am I?? An outsider staying together??? They rather not c him often to ease them the heart pain of seeing him sick...While I'm stuck at home all day expected to be all ready to do watever to help n dh conveniently turn around n asked y the hell I feel stressed??? Cos I'm not taking care of FIL n I'm not his dd then y am I stressed??? Am I telling him tt I feel sad when I c FIL like tt?? DH actually say tt....Wat the....
Nowadays, I could be waking up to c ppl sitting in my living rm. They were all relatives of dh, here to visit FIL. I kn FIL's sick n ppl wanna visit him when they can...But I'm oni asking for my own privacy oni...Couldn't MIL at least let me kn when she kn someone is coming over...OK if I'm sleeping, forget it, but if I'm not, y can't she juz tell me??? Apparently, it's wrong for me to tink so too...I'm wrong bcos FIL's very sick n ppl can juz come in n out whenever they like...wrong bcos I told my own dh abt my dismay tt was meant to b a passing remark...well i kn nothing's gonna change juz bcos i dun like it....
OK I'm juz EVIL to all of them OK?? Y r they all like tt??? Y tell me I'm not obliged to do anything while they can yet come to me with questions like "Y r u not at home??", "How come u dunno he fell down??" ....
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