cmeilim
Active Member
For the past three nites, my 14-month-old boy has refused to sleep in his cot at home, be it during daytime nap or nighttime sleep. He never used to have this problem.
Before this, we had slept over at my mum's place for three nites last week when our flat was undergoing some renovations. At my mum's place, he napped in his cot in the daytime and slept on a mattress on the floor at night and slept relatively well. But when we came back home, his cot rejection begun and every night, he would rather scream for 45min to 1hr straight in his cot if we did not carry him out. For the first night, I relented and let him sleep in our bed with us, but given his thrashing 360-degree style of sleeping, it meant DH and I got no sleep. For the next two nights, it was rounds and rounds of wailing and screaming till he got really tired. Last night, because he cried so much, even after he finally got tired enough to sleep, he didn't sleep peacefully and had short bouts of whining in his sleep.
DH is of the view that DS is just being playful and asserting his stubborn streak in a very persistent manner, that it is not because of some nightmare or any fear of the cot, and that we shouldn't give in to him by letting him sleep in our bed lest it becomes an entrenched habit. Although DS has clearly shown signs of clinginess and separation anxiety recently, this recent round of cot rejection has come totally new and caught us by surprise since he used to be able to play, nap and sleep in his cot on his own without any problems. But for the past three nites, be it after DH has patted him to sleep in his arms or I have nursed him to sleep, the moment we land him in his cot, he would wake up and the screaming and struggling would begin.
Any mummies' toddlers experienced similar situation as above and if so, how old was your child when it happened? Did you manage to find out the cause(s) for it? How did you get around the problem?
Although I have heard of more cases of toddlers experiencing adjustment issues moving from cot to bed/mattress, I am wondering if DS has just outgrown his cot or he is truly being wilful/playful as DH thinks.
Any advice or sharing will be much appreciated by two sleep-deprived parents!!!
Before this, we had slept over at my mum's place for three nites last week when our flat was undergoing some renovations. At my mum's place, he napped in his cot in the daytime and slept on a mattress on the floor at night and slept relatively well. But when we came back home, his cot rejection begun and every night, he would rather scream for 45min to 1hr straight in his cot if we did not carry him out. For the first night, I relented and let him sleep in our bed with us, but given his thrashing 360-degree style of sleeping, it meant DH and I got no sleep. For the next two nights, it was rounds and rounds of wailing and screaming till he got really tired. Last night, because he cried so much, even after he finally got tired enough to sleep, he didn't sleep peacefully and had short bouts of whining in his sleep.
DH is of the view that DS is just being playful and asserting his stubborn streak in a very persistent manner, that it is not because of some nightmare or any fear of the cot, and that we shouldn't give in to him by letting him sleep in our bed lest it becomes an entrenched habit. Although DS has clearly shown signs of clinginess and separation anxiety recently, this recent round of cot rejection has come totally new and caught us by surprise since he used to be able to play, nap and sleep in his cot on his own without any problems. But for the past three nites, be it after DH has patted him to sleep in his arms or I have nursed him to sleep, the moment we land him in his cot, he would wake up and the screaming and struggling would begin.
Any mummies' toddlers experienced similar situation as above and if so, how old was your child when it happened? Did you manage to find out the cause(s) for it? How did you get around the problem?
Although I have heard of more cases of toddlers experiencing adjustment issues moving from cot to bed/mattress, I am wondering if DS has just outgrown his cot or he is truly being wilful/playful as DH thinks.
Any advice or sharing will be much appreciated by two sleep-deprived parents!!!