confuselostsoul
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Hi mummies, been thinking for months to get out of this marriage.. and decided to seek some help..
I've been married 2years now.. reason was shotgun married (sadly).. After got married (was about 5months preg) , 3weeks later he cheated on me.. I caught him, he beg and beg.. I think i was stupid enough of not to ask any more details of what he have done with that woman..end up i forgive him for the sake of unborn baby but if i wasnt preg, i would def leave him.. From this time i have lost much trust in him..
Nvm, 2 months later or so ( about 7-8months preg), caught him again.. but only thru his sms-es with that woman (same woman).. confront him and that woman, same sh*t.. he cried, begged, promise bla bla bla bla............................. again i forgive him.. totally lost my trust in him..
Baby came, things changes even more.. he didnt help much, no initiative is the word.. Everyday i have to scream and shout at him. Nothing works.. No sex no cuddle no kisses no holding hands (miserable!) till baby about 15months old..Asked him about sex, gave me reason he scared im still in pain.. :we2shocked: I give up in the end..
I started to dress up,go to gym, go out with friends.. clubbing.. and also go out to work.. Nw he starting to worry but still let me do wat i want.. 2 huge quarrel in less then 2months which leads to me asking to go separate way.. but he beg to ask me to try out again.. Which i did try and he too..
I know he have been trying very hard but I dunno why my feeling towards him not the same anymore..I would get angry with little things he do.. I don even let him touch me.. I really don't wan my baby to have a broken family but i just cant face him and deceive myself. I know i might sound selfish, but its really torturing to stay with someone you dont love and yet have to pretend (infront his family). I got nothing.. not much saving.. no house.. dunno where should i go if i were to ask for separation. Parent house is def no no for me.. But i really want to leave him for good.. I don wan to waste his time too..
I hope someone could advise me how should i do here? like what is my next steps after i ask for separation? Please dont ask me to go marriage counseling, im not keen.. I have really made up my mind to leave him..
Thank u..
I've been married 2years now.. reason was shotgun married (sadly).. After got married (was about 5months preg) , 3weeks later he cheated on me.. I caught him, he beg and beg.. I think i was stupid enough of not to ask any more details of what he have done with that woman..end up i forgive him for the sake of unborn baby but if i wasnt preg, i would def leave him.. From this time i have lost much trust in him..
Nvm, 2 months later or so ( about 7-8months preg), caught him again.. but only thru his sms-es with that woman (same woman).. confront him and that woman, same sh*t.. he cried, begged, promise bla bla bla bla............................. again i forgive him.. totally lost my trust in him..
Baby came, things changes even more.. he didnt help much, no initiative is the word.. Everyday i have to scream and shout at him. Nothing works.. No sex no cuddle no kisses no holding hands (miserable!) till baby about 15months old..Asked him about sex, gave me reason he scared im still in pain.. :we2shocked: I give up in the end..
I started to dress up,go to gym, go out with friends.. clubbing.. and also go out to work.. Nw he starting to worry but still let me do wat i want.. 2 huge quarrel in less then 2months which leads to me asking to go separate way.. but he beg to ask me to try out again.. Which i did try and he too..
I know he have been trying very hard but I dunno why my feeling towards him not the same anymore..I would get angry with little things he do.. I don even let him touch me.. I really don't wan my baby to have a broken family but i just cant face him and deceive myself. I know i might sound selfish, but its really torturing to stay with someone you dont love and yet have to pretend (infront his family). I got nothing.. not much saving.. no house.. dunno where should i go if i were to ask for separation. Parent house is def no no for me.. But i really want to leave him for good.. I don wan to waste his time too..
I hope someone could advise me how should i do here? like what is my next steps after i ask for separation? Please dont ask me to go marriage counseling, im not keen.. I have really made up my mind to leave him..
Thank u..