Hi. I'm contemplating a separation. But my biggest hesitant is, will my girl ever blame or forgive me for choosing to leave her daddy. Her daddy has betrayed me 3 times, before, during n after pregnancy. Every time I confront him, the turn the tables on me, and made it all my fault. His parents gives me emotional n mental pressures during n after pregnancy, even until now. I always have to watch what I say, in case IF they ever think that my words doesn't sound good to them, they will "cry n feedback" to my husband that I'm a bad daughter in law. In short, I cannot be myself anymore. I dont't have my freedom & rights anymore. I have to live by his family's rights.
My girl is 3yo. She super close to me, not close with daddy. On a typical weekend, you imagine, you can always find me shuttling between playing happily with my girl in the living room, kitchen, laundry and housework. Her daddy will be sitting in front of his computer with headphones on. Or even if I have to ask him to babysit her while I shower, he would sit on the sofa with eyes fixed on the tv, and she will be playing on the floor in front of him. YET, he puts the blame on me that his daughter is not close to him.
There's so much to narrate about the problems n stresses that he n his family has given me, but I dont't wanna bore everyone on it.
I just wish some mummies would share with me how you cope when your child ask for his/her daddy? Or if some single mummies have been single for a period of time, how do you cope when your child goes to school? Do they get upset with you because they dont't have a daddy? Do they blame you for leaving daddy? Do they get mocked in school for being daddy-less?
I can put up with any hardships that may come, but I cannot take take it if my girl ever hates me IF I leave her daddy.
Btw, I'm a full time working mother, and currently I have single handedly planned my girl's life, which includes her daily routines, playtime, school, feeding n grooming her, basically bringing her up without his help.
Please advise.
My girl is 3yo. She super close to me, not close with daddy. On a typical weekend, you imagine, you can always find me shuttling between playing happily with my girl in the living room, kitchen, laundry and housework. Her daddy will be sitting in front of his computer with headphones on. Or even if I have to ask him to babysit her while I shower, he would sit on the sofa with eyes fixed on the tv, and she will be playing on the floor in front of him. YET, he puts the blame on me that his daughter is not close to him.
There's so much to narrate about the problems n stresses that he n his family has given me, but I dont't wanna bore everyone on it.
I just wish some mummies would share with me how you cope when your child ask for his/her daddy? Or if some single mummies have been single for a period of time, how do you cope when your child goes to school? Do they get upset with you because they dont't have a daddy? Do they blame you for leaving daddy? Do they get mocked in school for being daddy-less?
I can put up with any hardships that may come, but I cannot take take it if my girl ever hates me IF I leave her daddy.
Btw, I'm a full time working mother, and currently I have single handedly planned my girl's life, which includes her daily routines, playtime, school, feeding n grooming her, basically bringing her up without his help.
Please advise.
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