Divorced Mum

[Excited hubby]

I always feel that asking couples to divorced is a bad thing to do. But since things have happened life still goes on. Try to talk to those lawyers recommanded first. Not always you need to pay that much. You may want to consider separation first, think its cheaper. its just that you have to wait 3 years or something.....consult someone, talk to people. Important thing is your peace of mind and baby's safety.

Take care.

 

[pineappletart]

Sad becos i pity him for going thru these, a bit of heartache when think that he is being locked up and handcuff......but when i thought of the way he treat me when he gets angry, i hate him.......mixed feeling....also becos feel heartache for my son too......

if only people whom we love can "do the right things", love us, protect us, be responsible to us, etc... then it would all be a happy ending. but of course, nothing's in our control sometimes.....

 

[SunShine07]

I always feel that asking couples to divorced is a bad thing to do. But since things have happened life still goes on. Try to talk to those lawyers recommanded first. Not always you need to pay that much. You may want to consider separation first, think its cheaper. its just that you have to wait 3 years or something.....consult someone, talk to people. Important thing is your peace of mind and baby's safety.

Take care.

thanks Excited hubby......I would think its better i ask for divorce straight away, cos i dun wanna give any more hope to this man

 

[SunShine07]

if only people whom we love can "do the right things", love us, protect us, be responsible to us, etc... then it would all be a happy ending. but of course, nothing's in our control sometimes.....

pinappletart, i can only say that i 'love' the wrong man.....i dun blame anyone or whatever.....i chose to be with him in the first place, so i have to bear all the consequences....i still feel blessed to have a son so lovable.......:tlaugh:

 

[Ting]

pinappletart, i can only say that i 'love' the wrong man.....i dont blame anyone or whatever.....i chose to be with him in the first place, so i have to bear all the consequences....i still feel blessed to have a son so lovable.......:tlaugh:

i feel u my dear, same thoughts as u, now i think abt it, maybe i dun even love him at all, it was cos of pin then i tried living with him, but end up, also cannot take it n kick his sorry ass out of our lives.
i immediately cut off ALL TIES with him, so as to not give him any hope too, he did try his luck, but failed terribly cos i only feel resent towards this person.
even now when he sees me, he tries to be nice n friendly towards me, but im still cold n avoid him!

 

[SunShine07]

i feel you my dear, same thoughts as you, now i think about it, maybe i dont even love him at all, it was cos of pin then i tried living with him, but end up, also cannot take it n kick his sorry ass out of our lives.
i immediately cut off ALL TIES with him, so as to not give him any hope too, he did try his luck, but failed terribly cos i only feel resent towards this person.
even now when he sees me, he tries to be nice n friendly towards me, but im still cold n avoid him!

ya true, infact he was the one who keep saying that he don't wan my son to go with a father...blah blah blah......but, end up when i agreed to go with him, he ugly self surface again!:nah:

Luckily my family was there to help me........and he keep thinking that they trying to break us up! siao! dun know what's in his blardy brain.......i dun wan me to listen to anyone except him, then i realised that becos he knows that i am super soft hearted and will convince me somehow.

 

[hotfudge]

Hi, i'm new here.. i too agree that family support is the best support ever.. without them, single mummies like us will be stressed out...

 

[lynnie85]

Sunshine07, I have no idea what you have been thru but I'm glad that you took out such a courage to decide what you want in future... And you must jia you for yourself and for your son!! And I und that feeling of loving the "wrong guy" but am blessed with a lovely son too.

I have the thot of divorce as well, it's just that I'm thinking should I just wait another 2 years then go for divorce( as my marriage is still less than 3yrs) or shld I go for straight divorce (which my colleague told me can be done as his fren who is a lawyer is specialised in divorce cases)...Hesitating still as firstly didnt want to waste money in it, secondly the thot of my hb now enjoying his singlehood and most of the expenses are out frm my side (as sometimes, too much thing to keep a record or dun have the recipt when buy stuff for my son), just feel to get the alimony from him.

Btw, abit side track. How much alimony are we suppose to get from hb? And can we ask for maintance fee for the child when we are still married?

 

[Ting]

the amt of alimony n maintenance fee u get depends on how much your hubby earns.
and also, the expenditure of your kid wil also be taken into consideration like daily expenses, sch fees etc to be split into 2, if im not wrong. it would be best to seek professional advice from a lawyer.
IMO, i dont think u would be able to get maintenance fee from your hubby if u r still married. a child is the responsibilty of both parents, but it also depends on how u communicate to pay for the expenses of your child. ie, if the mum is a SAHM, cant expect her to pay for the kid's expenses.

 

[vivienshoshanna]

Hi all, finally after so many things happen to my marriage life, i really decided to get a lawyer to divorce. Anyone can recommand one, i am financially tight as i need to take care of one 2yr old son. Can it be made by monthly installment?

I wonder if next time my son register for school or kindergarten, do i have to let the teacher knows that i am divorce, will they treat my son differently? I am now employing a maid based on marry status, am i still entitled to have the subsidy?

As long as your son is doing great in school, I think there's nothing to worry about, but even if there's an effect to your so, the teachers should understand him, because he's only a child.

 

[Avrinmom]

please, can I get the lecture's number from you too? I really need help.

My ex is a heavily debt person. He also has his bad spending habit. I though once we sold the flats and got divorced, most impt, I got he full custody of my gal. I am safe.
Never that I expect, he still have on going thingy to get into my life. He kept having late payments since 2009, well to consoled myself atleaswt each mth after rounds and rounds of chasing...I managed to get the full amount . But recently, he ask me to share half of his liabilities-he only pay half of the alimony to my gal. I do not agree and advised him to go thru proper channel- go to FC. Then we talk abt amount reduced. But he ignored, transfer half the amount. then next transfer half of the half ( worst), This time Lagi worst . Not informing me at all!!!!
I do not care of the amount already but ..I want to have her surnmae changed cos I feel unsafe for my gal...Eventually he MAY be a big burden to my gal when she grows up. I do not mind the trade in of geting the surname changed and not gettting any alimony from him..
From the start , he did not give me any alimony or provide shelter at all.
So I need an aggressive lawyer to send my intention to him...she didnt wan to pick up my call.
pleaase help,...