Dogs and the newborn?

[aliceyao226]

Hi mummies:

Anyone keeping the dog and having new born baby at the same time?

I just gave birth to my daughter last week, and my in-laws are driving me nuts...

They are forcing me to give up my dog which i had deared for 6 years. They even want me to pick between my dog and my husband. Isnt it unreasonable?

My husband's aunty would just bring her two teenagers to my house unannounced and enter my room without knocking my door. All she do is to check if i am gonna give my dog away. They r really getting on my nerve. When I need to breastfeed my baby, she would allow her son to just SIT on my bed and continue with the TV. She even trying to interfere my breastfeeding. She said I am C-section, so i shouldn't have any milk to breastfeed, cuz she didnt have. WTH??

I am feeling so stressed up and helpless.... I dont know how long more I can stand their uneducated behaviors. Seeing my husband being stuck in the middle, it kills me... all I can do is hug him and cry.....

My family kept dog as pet for more than 20 years and there were no problem at all....

Anyone has any suggestion??

 

[apollo]

I once read from somewhere that actu if u ALREADY has a dog at hm b4 giving birth, it will somehow helps to 'build up' ur baby's immunity when she is borned, sth like getting used to it once she comes back hm. Some ppl say dog fur is not good for babies but i think it only applies to those who bring hm the dog sometime AFTER the baby comes hm.

And if ppl INSISTED that you have not enough milk, PROOF THEM WRONG!!! =)

 

[AngieTan]

Hi,


I know how bad it is for you right now cos I own pets too and in a much worser situation than you, being that I have to "defend" 2 dogs and 3 cats... Yes, I have too many I admit but people don't understand that we can't exactly just throw them out or give them away as there are feelings and bonds built already... Sigh... =(

Besides, as far as I am concerned, there is no "scientific" proof to show that pet fur is detrimental to a baby's health... Unless it can be proven that it does, please stop bugging me on getting rid of them, for goodness sake... IN FACT, research has shown that babies who are living with pets around in the house builds a better immune system than other kids... I don't know why people go on and on about things that has NOT BEEN PROVEN but yet choose not to believe what has been proven...

Then there is the asthma thingy... I have asthma since I was young and that was not due to any pet fur or whatever... So again, not proven... When I asked my hubby if our son have asthma (touchwood), would he think it's the pets? He readily said yes and in an angry manner... I told him, don't forget that his mummy has asthma and it can be inherited so please do not be so ready to blame the pets YET AGAIN... =.=

I know it's difficult for your hubby to be stuck in the middle but how is he with your dog? If he can stand firm for you, then it will be much easier for you... For me, I am alone on this "battle" for my pets... But so far whoever asked me whether I should just give my pets up, I just said "no way" and they stopped asking... Let's hope it stays as that and no more questions... It's really not easy... Having a baby and still need to take care of so many pets... So you should be glad you only have one dog! Ha! =P

I do get really tired and frustrated cos my baby isn't exactly very easy to deal with (FYI, he is 3 months+ old) ... Constantly wanting attention, crying, can't sleep on his own... And on the other hand, my pets are demanding for my attention too... It's really sad to see my dogs so sad and bored so I really hope this phase will pass soon and I can persuade my hubby to let the pets into the bedroom to sleep with us again when our baby is older...

I know it's not easy but being a fellow animal lover and in the same boat as you, I will tell you to hang in there and do not give up... I pray that someday the people in our lives will understand how we feel... We can only hope... Brace on girl! Jiayou jiayou jiayou! =)

 

[aliceyao226]

I once read from somewhere that actu if u ALREADY has a dog at hm b4 giving birth, it will somehow helps to 'build up' ur baby's immunity when she is borned, sth like getting used to it once she comes back hm. Some ppl say dog fur is not good for babies but i think it only applies to those who bring hm the dog sometime AFTER the baby comes hm.

And if ppl INSISTED that you have not enough milk, PROOF THEM WRONG!!! =)

Yeah... they r just dont wanna believe in what have been proven... argh... its really driving me nuts....

 

[aliceyao226]

Hi,


I know how bad it is for you right now cos I own pets too and in a much worser situation than you, being that I have to "defend" 2 dogs and 3 cats... Yes, I have too many I admit but people don't understand that we can't exactly just throw them out or give them away as there are feelings and bonds built already... Sigh... =(

Besides, as far as I am concerned, there is no "scientific" proof to show that pet fur is detrimental to a baby's health... Unless it can be proven that it does, please stop bugging me on getting rid of them, for goodness sake... IN FACT, research has shown that babies who are living with pets around in the house builds a better immune system than other kids... I don't know why people go on and on about things that has NOT BEEN PROVEN but yet choose not to believe what has been proven...

Then there is the asthma thingy... I have asthma since I was young and that was not due to any pet fur or whatever... So again, not proven... When I asked my hubby if our son have asthma (touchwood), would he think it's the pets? He readily said yes and in an angry manner... I told him, don't forget that his mummy has asthma and it can be inherited so please do not be so ready to blame the pets YET AGAIN... =.=

I know it's difficult for your hubby to be stuck in the middle but how is he with your dog? If he can stand firm for you, then it will be much easier for you... For me, I am alone on this "battle" for my pets... But so far whoever asked me whether I should just give my pets up, I just said "no way" and they stopped asking... Let's hope it stays as that and no more questions... It's really not easy... Having a baby and still need to take care of so many pets... So you should be glad you only have one dog! Ha! =P

I do get really tired and frustrated cos my baby isn't exactly very easy to deal with (FYI, he is 3 months+ old) ... Constantly wanting attention, crying, can't sleep on his own... And on the other hand, my pets are demanding for my attention too... It's really sad to see my dogs so sad and bored so I really hope this phase will pass soon and I can persuade my hubby to let the pets into the bedroom to sleep with us again when our baby is older...

I know it's not easy but being a fellow animal lover and in the same boat as you, I will tell you to hang in there and do not give up... I pray that someday the people in our lives will understand how we feel... We can only hope... Brace on girl! Jiayou jiayou jiayou! =)

I am half lucky i guess... My husband understand how important this dog is to me.... She is the only thing my sis left for me b4 she left to UK... and he knows how close I am to my sister... but at the same time, his family is very firm with the decision of giving the dog away... so he is kinda stuck in the middle...

No matter what I will hang in there... no way i am giving away my dog.. I am not as heartless as them...! THANK YOU!!

 

[stonston]

1. Are you staying in your own house or their house? If you are staying in your own house, they can nag all they like, they have no right to force you to give away your dog. If you are staying in their house, consider temporary fostering until baby is slightly older.

2. Is your dog confined or allowed to roam? My dog was confined to the kitchen and was not allowed to go near my boy without our supervision. We also did alot to 'introduce' baby to the dog (give baby's handy to let her smell, etc).

3. Is your dog obedience trained and allowed to socialise with kids often? Some dogs are more aggressive towards children because they don't understand how children play with them. Proper training and socialising will solve this. Also, how much does your dog listen to you? If your dog does not obey your commands, you might have trouble convincing others that this dog is 'worth keeping'.

4. How often do you clean your house and how do you clean it? Since you have a dog AND newborn, I would say, invest in a good water-based vacuum cleaner. Vacuum on a daily basis to minimise any fur/dust flying around.

Anyway, there's a hokkien saying... lap sap jiak, lap sap dua... which means that you grow up in dirty environment, also can grow up what....

My dog is a medium sized breed. My boy had no problems with her. In fact, all the kids that come to my house love to play with her (even those who are scared will wanna pet with our supervision).

My dad did mention how to have dog & baby in the same house, my mum just shoot him,"last time you grow up in kampung also got alot of dogs everywhere what."

If you are staying in your own house, JUST BE FIRM. YOUR HOUSE, YOUR DOG, YOU DECIDE.

 

[Ashbaby]

U should just ignore them totally and if the house is urs chase them out. The dog, baby and hubby is yours who are they to ask u to chose.

My son love my dog to bits and my dog love my son to bits too. My dog will alert me when my son make the slightest sound.

 

[corrinne]

She said I am C-section, so i shouldn't have any milk to breastfeed, cuz she didnt have. WTH??

When your baby is going for check-up, bring her along once. Get your gynae to tell her and prove she is wrong.

 

[pkshl]

i had c-sect & i breastfeed my son. His aunty doesnt ve milk doesnt mean other mums wont ve milk. Tell her everyone is different.

my dog was with me even b4 i was pregnant. she was my best companion during my pregnancy when my hubby was working late. even now my son love her so much, will play with her & even disturb her. My mil juz reminded me to keep clean at home cos ive a dog & baby. my hubby & his family knows that i love my dog too much to give her away. they did mentioned once to me to give her away but i said i will keep clean at home so dun worry.

Are u stayin on yr own? if yes pls ignore all unnecessary remarks from yr hubby side.

 

[Frenchkitty]

We have 2 dogs - and they are not the small toy breeds. One is a border collie, the other is a sheltie. Both of them sheds alot.
But they have been with us even before we got married. Of course we didnt give them away when we had our baby.

Since the very first day of his life at home:

You can see my son is very attached to his "sidekicks"

Of course with a baby, our dogs' lifestyle had to undergo modifications - we now shave them down, they no longer share our beds, they go for lesser outings to the beach/park.

 

[apollo]

We have 2 dogs - and they are not the small toy breeds. One is a border collie, the other is a sheltie. Both of them sheds alot.
But they have been with us even before we got married. Of course we didnt give them away when we had our baby.

Since the very first day of his life at home:

You can see my son is very attached to his "sidekicks"

Of course with a baby, our dogs' lifestyle had to undergo modifications - we now shave them down, they no longer share our beds, they go for lesser outings to the beach/park.

ur son is so sweet!! still noe hw to 'sayang' the dog..

 

[pkshl]

frenchkitty= yr son so cute to sayang dogs. my son sometimes like to pull my dog's ear. & shes so much smaller(chihuahua) den him yet want to bully her -_-

 

[BeingSingle]

Yah..i grew up with dogs, my dad has a mini schnauzer, i have 2 toy poodles...i am also being criticized for not wanting to give away my dogs..but how can i give them away? they are also my 'babies'!!

alot of children grew up with dogs! there is no scientific prove that dogs are not good for babies..i fully agree that if the doggies are there since day 1, your baby will develope an immunity towards the dog(s).

also, its scientifically proven that children that grew up with furry little friends are more loving and caring and responsible. also very nuturing...ask those who are opposing to the dog to think about that for a change!

 

[AngieTan]

We have 2 dogs - and they are not the small toy breeds. One is a border collie, the other is a sheltie. Both of them sheds alot.
But they have been with us even before we got married. Of course we didnt give them away when we had our baby.

Since the very first day of his life at home:

You can see my son is very attached to his "sidekicks"

Of course with a baby, our dogs' lifestyle had to undergo modifications - we now shave them down, they no longer share our beds, they go for lesser outings to the beach/park.

OMG Woman! It's you??? This is Angeline here lah! Hahahaha... Didn't know you join this forum too... I got a pleasant surprise when I saw the pics and thought the 2 lovely dogs and the wonderful looking boy looks very very familiar and the photos too! LOL!

 

[Frenchkitty]

OMG Woman! It's you??? This is Angeline here lah! Hahahaha... Didn't know you join this forum too... I got a pleasant surprise when I saw the pics and thought the 2 lovely dogs and the wonderful looking boy looks very very familiar and the photos too! LOL!

Angeline! yah it's me HEHE. Nice surprise! Matt looks like angkukueh stamp from Marc hahahaha. Exactly the same!

 

[camom]

She said I am C-section, so i shouldn't have any milk to breastfeed, cuz she didnt have. WTH??

My best advice is.... Ignore her and do what you deem fit.

I had c-sec n I am still bf my son. He's already 28 mths old.

 

[Jaschy]

We have a chihuahua but we send her to my in laws place since my baby is born.. my hubby and i both agree that maybe we sld just separate the baby and dog since baby is still newborn and immune system is still weak and my dog actually shed a lot of fur .. but we will bring the dog back once the baby is older say abt 3-4 months
My MIL also keep insisting that i can only bring the dog back when baby is abt 1 yrs old and cannot let the dog stay here.. can only bring him back for a while.. i cannot be bothered with her and just say no we will bring the dog back when baby is abt 5-6mths ( actually i wanted to bring my dog back when my girl is abt 3-4 mths.. just to make my MIL shut up now..=P)
But now after confinement i tink we will bring my girl over to my in law place and sometimes bring the dog over so as to let baby get use to him slowly.. i miss my doggy sooooo much until sometimes i cry when i tink of him...=(

 

[Jaschy]

Hi mummies:

When I need to breastfeed my baby, she would allow her son to just SIT on my bed and continue with the TV.

My mother in law also..she would just sit there and watch me when i am pumping out my milk and say wah so little milk ar.. you must do this and that so you got more milk .. and keep talking to me when i am breast feeding..

The worst thing is when there are vistor ( my sister in law mother ) and when i am pumping milk.. she will allow the guest to come in and bid goodbye when i am in the mist of pumping and nake!!! OMG i almost fainted..:elvis:
now i feel that my breast is so exposed to everyone cos my mother in law will just bring guest (female) into my room even when she knows i am pumping my milk!i feel that there is no privacy for me at all now... so sianz..

 

[angiebaby]

wah why all the monster seems come from husband side? lucky i already told hubby when i give birth, my parents will be in the house stay with me and our side got no more relatives in sg, but all i think is your charater, it depends how strong you are, like my sister in laws sometime will say you have dogs how to have kids, i just talk back my hubby is ML with me, not my dogs, so why cant i have kids? yes im rude but nobody dare to accuse me anymore or comment on my dogs anymore since then.

if anyone else come to my house ask me give my dogs away, sorry you will be in the "unwelcome list" and ban from entering my house. its my house, my hubby my dogs my baby, its my kingdom, cant rule the world nor the office but at least i rule my own house.

be strong and stand on your ground, stop crying as it wont help, if they ask you to choose, say you wan both, it is your life, not theirs, you can only choose not to have in laws or relatives but nothing else. and ask your hubby to be strong too, his parents, he should go and settle them, why let the parents come and asking you? he should be your shield, instead of stuck in middle and do nothing.

 

[pkshl]

We have a chihuahua but we send her to my in laws place since my baby is born.. my hubby and i both agree that maybe we sld just separate the baby and dog since baby is still newborn and immune system is still weak and my dog actually shed a lot of fur .. but we will bring the dog back once the baby is older say about 3-4 months
My mother in law also keep insisting that i can only bring the dog back when baby is about 1 yrs old and cannot let the dog stay here.. can only bring him back for a while.. i cannot be bothered with her and just say no we will bring the dog back when baby is about 5-6mths ( actually i wanted to bring my dog back when my girl is about 3-4 mths.. just to make my mother in law shut up now..=P)
But now after confinement i tink we will bring my girl over to my in law place and sometimes bring the dog over so as to let baby get use to him slowly.. i miss my doggy sooooo much until sometimes i cry when i tink of him...=(

during my confinement, i miss my chihuahua so much i cried everyday. cos my dog was boarding at a friend's house during my confinement period, i got worst when he told me my dog was homesick & had fever, i was so sad cos i miss her so much, finally my hubby told me to bring her back 1week before my confinement ended. now, my son will play with her & they look so cute playing together :001_302: