Kokura
Member
Selp, if those old folks u r talking about are staying together wif u, it is extremely difficult to change their mindset.
Because they may think "as long as they do not see any mould on the food, it is good enough to eat". They do not think about whose stomach the food is going into because they believe in not wasting food. And this in turn could be due to the poverty they experienced as they were growing up.
Imagine 50 years or so of being ingrained by their parents, yes your grandparents, "dun waste food! Very chek ah!"
Fortuntately because you are educated, you know better.
Instead of telling them things like "Are u trying to poison my bb?!"
How about adopting a non-confrontational stance such as "I know the hardship u experienced as u were growing up & it must have been very tough on u.
And yes, I believe in not wasting food AND money."
This first two statement will help u to connect with them in an emotional way & make them more receptive to listening to what u may have to say next.
Next, perhaps u can express ya viewpoint in a somewhat neutral way such as "However as bb tend to have a very delicate stomach, it may be better not to give him/her expired food because if he/she has severe diarrhea, she may need urgent medical care & my hubby & I are really financially tight now."
Express to them what u r really concerned with & the difficulties u may encounter. Due to their past financial hardship, I doubt they will say 'Ok, if ya bb has diarrhea, I will pay for ya medical bills!"
Because they may think "as long as they do not see any mould on the food, it is good enough to eat". They do not think about whose stomach the food is going into because they believe in not wasting food. And this in turn could be due to the poverty they experienced as they were growing up.
Imagine 50 years or so of being ingrained by their parents, yes your grandparents, "dun waste food! Very chek ah!"
Fortuntately because you are educated, you know better.
Instead of telling them things like "Are u trying to poison my bb?!"
How about adopting a non-confrontational stance such as "I know the hardship u experienced as u were growing up & it must have been very tough on u.
And yes, I believe in not wasting food AND money."
This first two statement will help u to connect with them in an emotional way & make them more receptive to listening to what u may have to say next.
Next, perhaps u can express ya viewpoint in a somewhat neutral way such as "However as bb tend to have a very delicate stomach, it may be better not to give him/her expired food because if he/she has severe diarrhea, she may need urgent medical care & my hubby & I are really financially tight now."
Express to them what u r really concerned with & the difficulties u may encounter. Due to their past financial hardship, I doubt they will say 'Ok, if ya bb has diarrhea, I will pay for ya medical bills!"
Oh my so fast!!!
I suddenly wish my baby won't come out so soon! I cannot protect him once he's out. Subject to so many dust and dirt and chemicals and old folks' stubbornness in using harmful stuff / poisonous / expired food on him.
I feel so stressed suddenly. Wish he can stay in my tummy longer.
