Dear all, I have been reading the forums and I know a lot of people hate their mils! Me too! I really cannot take it!!!
She is a tough nut to crack. I have a 6 mo baby and she doesn't know how to take care of her yet she is jealous that I am letting my own mom take care of her when I am going for holiday soon... So I decided to bring baby along with us for the holiday! And she got angry and told me off for bringing her so far away! Every little thing she gets jealous!
When hub and I got our own place to stay, she was jealous and told me off and scolded me for 'psychoing' hub to live apart. I kept quiet then.
Just about 10 months back when I was expecting my first baby she brought up the topic again n scolded me for staying apart. This time I told her off nicely that it's best to stay apart. I want to have my own space and baby needs her own space. Of course she then told me off again and say that I was mean and didnt respect her ...I really wanted to tell her I need some sanity...
Te problem is that I realize after my baby is born she gets jealous over her son doting his own daughter, jealous over the son doting me more! And I just hate her more and more! To the extent that I am thinking of divorcing my hubby so that I won't see her face anymore.
I did have a good talk w my hubby over his own mother but hubby's logic is let her rant all she wants and we will just decide what is best for baby and our own family. She cannot stop us just because she is jealous!
In fact because of her jealousy, she has already caused her eldest son to divorce.
Nowadays she acts so pitiful infront of my hubby. And I really worry one day I might end up having to stay w her under the same roof! She still cannot take it that I manage to convince hub to live apart. And whenever she sees me, in front of hubby she will treat me v nice but behind my hubby, she will talk loudly at me and scold me for little things that I did! The mental pressure she is giving me is tremendous!
She doesn't treat me badly infront of the son. And she wants my daughter to respect her and play w her but my daughter doesn't like her. Baby cries whenever she carries!
she force me to call her mummy when I called her mother. I refuse at first and got scolded for not calling her mummy. And when my hub calls my mum "mummy", she got jealous and told her son cannot CALL my mum "mummy"!!!
What kind of ridiculous logic is that?????
Now my baby learns to babble and her first word is "mama"! I am so happy to hear that so i told everyone and she insist my baby to babble "baba"!!!! Everytime she comes to my place she will tell my baby to say "baba"!!! What the hell!?!?
There are a lot of other issues w her... Now how do I stop myself from hating her so much? I don't want to cause a rift between hub and me, but at the same time I really can't stand her!
My fil is a v nice person but I think he got influenced by mil too. I will really break down if I have to stay w her... I even have nightmares of her forcin is to divorce or stay w her!!!
That's how the bil and sil got divorced anyway....
What should I do all the mamas and papas? (
She is a tough nut to crack. I have a 6 mo baby and she doesn't know how to take care of her yet she is jealous that I am letting my own mom take care of her when I am going for holiday soon... So I decided to bring baby along with us for the holiday! And she got angry and told me off for bringing her so far away! Every little thing she gets jealous!
When hub and I got our own place to stay, she was jealous and told me off and scolded me for 'psychoing' hub to live apart. I kept quiet then.
Just about 10 months back when I was expecting my first baby she brought up the topic again n scolded me for staying apart. This time I told her off nicely that it's best to stay apart. I want to have my own space and baby needs her own space. Of course she then told me off again and say that I was mean and didnt respect her ...I really wanted to tell her I need some sanity...
Te problem is that I realize after my baby is born she gets jealous over her son doting his own daughter, jealous over the son doting me more! And I just hate her more and more! To the extent that I am thinking of divorcing my hubby so that I won't see her face anymore.
I did have a good talk w my hubby over his own mother but hubby's logic is let her rant all she wants and we will just decide what is best for baby and our own family. She cannot stop us just because she is jealous!
In fact because of her jealousy, she has already caused her eldest son to divorce.
Nowadays she acts so pitiful infront of my hubby. And I really worry one day I might end up having to stay w her under the same roof! She still cannot take it that I manage to convince hub to live apart. And whenever she sees me, in front of hubby she will treat me v nice but behind my hubby, she will talk loudly at me and scold me for little things that I did! The mental pressure she is giving me is tremendous!
She doesn't treat me badly infront of the son. And she wants my daughter to respect her and play w her but my daughter doesn't like her. Baby cries whenever she carries!
she force me to call her mummy when I called her mother. I refuse at first and got scolded for not calling her mummy. And when my hub calls my mum "mummy", she got jealous and told her son cannot CALL my mum "mummy"!!!
What kind of ridiculous logic is that?????
Now my baby learns to babble and her first word is "mama"! I am so happy to hear that so i told everyone and she insist my baby to babble "baba"!!!! Everytime she comes to my place she will tell my baby to say "baba"!!! What the hell!?!?
There are a lot of other issues w her... Now how do I stop myself from hating her so much? I don't want to cause a rift between hub and me, but at the same time I really can't stand her!
My fil is a v nice person but I think he got influenced by mil too. I will really break down if I have to stay w her... I even have nightmares of her forcin is to divorce or stay w her!!!
That's how the bil and sil got divorced anyway....
What should I do all the mamas and papas? (