Hi all,
I am having a really major problem wit my parents in laws. All e while im stayin wit em, but currently im stayin wit my parents after a quaerell tat day... it happened like tis.... all e while i wil make it a pt to visit my parents every wk to bring my baby to let em see. However my in laws is thinkin tat i shd nt go back to 'nia jia' so often. Last wk when me n my dh bring ds bck to my parents place to stay...my mother inlaw called my dh when hes at wrk. she told my dh " yest ur grandma came, n ask ware r we. den i told her said u all go ur wife's parents hse, n grandma said hw can u all go nia jia so often". To me, even if grandma really said tat, do she has to purposely call up my dh n tell him when hes at wrk? y make it an issue? i tink she n my father inlaws r e one who has tis issue.
so on tat day tat she call my dh, we went bck to my in laws place n wanted to discuss tis issue wit em, leavin my ds at my parent's place. (as bringing ds difficult to discuss). when we reach, my dh say need to discuss things wit em, but my father in laws immediately flare up, say " u two want to move to my parents hse iszt?" my dh said to him nicely "no, we jus want to discuss things nicely" And.... MY FATHER INLAWS WALK TO ME N SCOLDED ME SAID "HEY,HOW CAN U ALWAYS LISTEN TO UR PARENTS?" I SAID WHEN DID I LISTEN TO EM? HE ASSUME TAT MY PARENTS TAUGHT ME TO GO AGAINST EM... AND WAD MAKES ME REALLI BOIL IS... MY MOTHER INLAW SAID '" UR FATHER MAYB WONT TEACH U BAD THINGS BUT UR MUM SURELY GOT. ALOT OF PEOLE SAY AH...UR MUM'S LOOK CAN TELL TAT SHE ALWAYS TALK ABT OTHER PPL 'SHI FEI ' AR". And fter she said tis...i got out of control n raise my voice at em. i siad " HW CAN U ALL ACCUSE MY PARENTS? I ADMIT TAT I DID COMPLAIN TO EM ABT U ALL SOMETIMES, BUT MY PARENTS ALWAYS TELL ME TO GIVE IN TO U ALL AS U R ELDERLY N I ALWAYS QUEARELL WIT EM AS I TINK THEY DUN UNDERSTAND MY SITUATION". My mother inlaws keep addin oil to fire n said " i wont believe...im sure ur mum did".
I tink my in laws r really causin my marriage alot of unhappiness... I felt really depressed but im embaress to tell my friends abt it. I need some advise... could anyone kindly me some advise?
I am having a really major problem wit my parents in laws. All e while im stayin wit em, but currently im stayin wit my parents after a quaerell tat day... it happened like tis.... all e while i wil make it a pt to visit my parents every wk to bring my baby to let em see. However my in laws is thinkin tat i shd nt go back to 'nia jia' so often. Last wk when me n my dh bring ds bck to my parents place to stay...my mother inlaw called my dh when hes at wrk. she told my dh " yest ur grandma came, n ask ware r we. den i told her said u all go ur wife's parents hse, n grandma said hw can u all go nia jia so often". To me, even if grandma really said tat, do she has to purposely call up my dh n tell him when hes at wrk? y make it an issue? i tink she n my father inlaws r e one who has tis issue.
so on tat day tat she call my dh, we went bck to my in laws place n wanted to discuss tis issue wit em, leavin my ds at my parent's place. (as bringing ds difficult to discuss). when we reach, my dh say need to discuss things wit em, but my father in laws immediately flare up, say " u two want to move to my parents hse iszt?" my dh said to him nicely "no, we jus want to discuss things nicely" And.... MY FATHER INLAWS WALK TO ME N SCOLDED ME SAID "HEY,HOW CAN U ALWAYS LISTEN TO UR PARENTS?" I SAID WHEN DID I LISTEN TO EM? HE ASSUME TAT MY PARENTS TAUGHT ME TO GO AGAINST EM... AND WAD MAKES ME REALLI BOIL IS... MY MOTHER INLAW SAID '" UR FATHER MAYB WONT TEACH U BAD THINGS BUT UR MUM SURELY GOT. ALOT OF PEOLE SAY AH...UR MUM'S LOOK CAN TELL TAT SHE ALWAYS TALK ABT OTHER PPL 'SHI FEI ' AR". And fter she said tis...i got out of control n raise my voice at em. i siad " HW CAN U ALL ACCUSE MY PARENTS? I ADMIT TAT I DID COMPLAIN TO EM ABT U ALL SOMETIMES, BUT MY PARENTS ALWAYS TELL ME TO GIVE IN TO U ALL AS U R ELDERLY N I ALWAYS QUEARELL WIT EM AS I TINK THEY DUN UNDERSTAND MY SITUATION". My mother inlaws keep addin oil to fire n said " i wont believe...im sure ur mum did".
I tink my in laws r really causin my marriage alot of unhappiness... I felt really depressed but im embaress to tell my friends abt it. I need some advise... could anyone kindly me some advise?