Hey all, a single mom here with a 2 years old sweetheart... Staying in the east...
Anyone to meet up over the weekends?
Hi Vchuasy,Hi bubba mama, where do u usually hang out
Thanks for sharing and your encouraging words! Bubbamama.com is about what you just said.. loving ourselves... taking good care of ourselves before we even take better care of our kids.As we move forward don’t forget to love yourself. Self-love is one of the most important gifts a person can give oneself. If you do not love yourself chances are nobody else will, including your ex. Let me repeat: If you do not love yourself nobody else will, including your ex. The biggest mistake single parents make is self-neglect. How does this happen? You over or under eat, you don't drink water, you don't get enough sleep, you worry about everything, you are angry at the world, and etc, so consequently you are just a mess. Sometimes it's just easier to neglect yourself than do the things which will make you feel and look better. Some of us go to the other extreme and self-indulge while neglecting our children and everyone else; that's called selfishness.
Secondly, I wish we put much effort to raising our self-esteem and changing our self-image is very important to the task as single parents. You have to believe you deserve it before it can be effective. If you think you are supposed to be a doormat then you will do everything in your power to remain a doormat. In other words, we tend to be the person we see in our minds; no matter how much we want to be someone else. If you don't see yourself as a confident, vibrant, intelligent person, capable of loving and caring your children, guess what? You won't be.
Self-image is how you see yourself so if you've always believed you were nerdy, dumpy, stupid, bad, overweight or a failure in relationships, then this is what you will be. It will not change until you change your perception of yourself. It is nobody's job but yours. Change your beliefs and you change your life. See yourself as healthy, smart, and capable and this is what you will be. You just have to want it bad enough, and then you will have it.
LET GO FOR IT!