Yes, after 1 week there, I told hubby I'll get post natal depression if I don't go home.Hi Angeldust, so you ended up doing confinement at home? Wise decision! Especially with smokers around, imagine if baby inhaled the smoke. Eeks!
I took epidural too coz my labor was very long. 29hrs!!! I think I would died of pain without it. Every woman's labor is different, so that silly aunty shouldn't act like so knowledgeable and that all births are so easy.
My MIL used to drop alot of hints too by talking to baby. Like 'must come visit granny often so will recognize granny!" I think once a week visit often enough liao hehe. Anyway, I think it's most impt to have papa mama 疼 first! So its ok if 回家没人疼了 只有妈妈爸爸疼 lol. But if tell that to MIL, confirm get slapped lol.
my fil also like that lor, as long we go out together, dinner or shopping, he will hug & carry my son all the way till we are in the car, if my husband driving bus, then he will continue carry my son till we go home then let us bath or feed him. Even when i told my son, "later mummy carry u ok?" my fil will say, later gong gong carry. WTH! Only when i say in a pity voice then he say, ok mummy carry! best is, i am staying in in-laws hse so both in-laws are actually seeing my son EVERYDAY but yet they treat like they super long never see my son like that! When my son is close to my mil, i am upset, my mil still can say, why upset, he will outgrown it and like u wan. then ytd, my son suddenly treat my mil like transparent! not excited when see mil and mil very sad, now she knows how i feel la!sorry but got to rant n need advice if im too sensitive ..my daughter is 13 months now and I quit my job recently to take care of my dd as my hb doesn't allow bb to b put into infant care n my mil took care of her when I was working n i got depression becos i feel my dd doesnt bother abt me. I really regret not quitting earlier as my dd is closest to her n my unmarried sil now. whenever they r around, my dd will only want them n have eyes for them, I'm transparent. it hurts me badly... I do not like to b around w ils as they will hogged onto my dd as if I'm not there. when we have our meals outside, fil, mil n sil will take turns to carry my dd n bring her away where I do not know.when one returns, the next will take over n it goes on until the meal ends. if we continue to shop around, it will continue until we go home. now, my dd doesnt sit long at our dining table n wants to b carried shortly. I really hope to c less of them to spend my time w my dd but my hb will make it a pt for mil to c my dd at least twice or thrice a week not including the compulsory sunday lunch w ils. I had many unhappiness with them ever since the birth of my dd but hb felt I'm being difficult. I feel no one understands me. ..
i am also very stress during my confinement, like u, whenever baby cry, they will came in the room (i closed my door and they just come in without knocking) and kept asking why baby crying. As if i know why my son cry? i need to smooth my son too ma and they always say, don let him cry too long. so my son knows that whenever he crys, will have ppl to carry him lor so kept crying.Other than MIL, i still need to face grand parents in law and this annoying aunty.
I was supposed to do comfinement at in laws house which is home to 5 pax already.
Totally no privacy! And on weekends, they play mahjong n smoke. Last time when I was pregnant already smoking infront of me.
Things won't change now that my baby is out.
Though they are quite harmless and not as crazy as some of ya MILs, but its still taking a toll over me.
MIL nearly dislocated my dog's leg twice, made me so pissed! Where got people grab a dog's leg so awkardly like wanna rip drumstick off a chicken?
When bb cries, I get stressed out not because of the crying but of who in e hse would barge into the room.
Anyway, their whole family have their own ideas and opinions on how I should do my confinement & look after my baby.
And as DIL, I can't voice out as I'll appear rude but keeping quiet will drive me nuts.
Luckily I've moved back home.
Kinda pissed off with this particular aunty too, she talks so much like she darn experienced just cus she has 2 kids.
At e hosp she still exclaim loudly why my mom allow me to take epidural just cus some cow she knows got backache. Oh please, not everyone is the same & so many women take epidurals. Stop forcing ya opinions on me. Furthermore, my mom is working in the labour/maternity ward and she strongly advised me to take epidural.
When I insisted on moving back home, she told my bb 回家没人疼了 只有妈妈爸爸疼. WTF??
And must faster see bb cus no chance already once I return to my own home to do comfinement.
Geez, somemore say so loudly like wanna hint me.
Initially they just cooked sesame oil chicken n rice for me only, no veg! I think I would have gotten constipation if not for my mom who suggested I needed a veg dish too to them.
So now I'm back in my own house, I have to spend more cus catering confinement food but I'm happier.