apollo
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Sry mummies, i know i've been ranting so much even since i gave birth. but i don't know who to turn to =(
My parents dote me alot, always want to decide everything for me, afriad that I will get cheated easily. They are always very protective towards me.. But sometimes, it's getting too over that I'm getting breatheless...
I got married at the age of 19, gave birth to dear son at 21... To them I'm still a kid, which I agree too, cause after being a mother, I know how a parent thinks.
But they really CARE too much!!!
My mum forbids me to bring dear son out!!! Even with hubby also cannot, unless we going back to in-laws' place...
Whenever my friends asked me "where's your baby?" whenever I go find them, I feel so lousy cause I dont't even have the 'right' to bring dear son out!
Ytd, hubby and me went to taka toy fair, bought 5 toys for dear son... All so cheapand can learn music, ABC, 123, animals etc... my mum gave me a BIG SCOLDING just now!!!
She said dear son only 2mth old, dont't need any toys... I told her is on sales and he can learn through playing. she snapped at me saying that he's too young for toys and I dont't have to buy and keep... But I think 2-3 mths later I can start introducing him those toys alrdy...
I also bought a set of 'your baby can read' vcd and books for dear son. I think she will ask me soon "how much" and why I let dear son watch all these when he's only 2mth old... I really dont't know how to ans her...
She said I'm wasting money to buy so much toys for him! Frankly, I bought only 5 for him, it's the boxes that seems like I bought ALOT! I'm dear son's mother, I dont't have the say to bring him out, I cannot buy toys for him???
Even my in-laws also keep saying that we should bring dear son out more often to let him get used of the crowd. Why my in-laws can be so open minded and my parents can't???
I'm very stress whenever I wanna buy something. I will tell my hubby "what if mum scold and scream at us again?"
My hubby also feel very pissed whenever my mum scold us for the things we bought. She feels that, we're married alrdy so I gonna give up making-up, buying clothes etc... hubby should give up his hobbies too...
Hubby suggested next time if we wanna get something BIG, place them at my in-laws' place 1st and when dear son can play alrdy, then bring home....
And later we're going down to town again. Mum said she's very tired and expect us to come back by 8pm. I suggested why not we bring dear son along so she can rest welll, she said a firm "NO!" But our time is very limited, how to come back by 8pm???
Before I got preg, and alrdy MARRIED, she will keep calling mine or hubby's hp to ask "what time your coming back??? very late alrdy!" when it was only 7pm!!! Sometimes better , 8pm then calll....
my cousin date me out next week and we agree to bring both our babies out. She is quite good in taking care baby and I thought I can FINALLY bring dear son out alone BUT my mum gave me 3 choices:
1. my hubby must follow
2. leave dear son at home
3. she follow
My hubby's schedule can't fit so in the end, I choose to let her follow cause I really want to bring dear son out to let him see the world outside...
As for my dad, he dont't allow me to bathe dear son alone... He MUST be there when I bathe dear son... I told him I once bathe dear son alone before and I HAVE TO LEARN!! He just dont't trust me... There was once, I proof him wrong, I bathe dear son when he went out to buy things... When he's back, he was shocked.. I thought after that I can bathe dear son alone alrdy but NOPE, he still continue to 'supervise' me...
As i have inverted nipple, if i wanna latch on dear son, i gonna "pump out" my nipple 1st but dear son very impatient so I just pump out and keep in the fridge, next feed then give him. My dad keep say pump out alrd all nutrients no longer there, might as well dont't feed.. I agree, latching on is always the best. when I told him my condition can't successful latch on dear son everytime, he said "that means you're not suitable bf-ing, stop bf-ing!"
What' that nonsense???!!! even Thomson Medical Center's LC encouraged me to pump out the milk for dear son when he can't latch on and even though latching on is the best! When I told him what pediatrician, gynae and LC told me, he said "all are nonsense"
my mum keep say ds don't like my bm. I told her no matter he lik or not also must drink! even a lil also better than nth... She said 1 day drink ard 200ml, might as well don't rink.and said fm is the SAME... when i told her it's NOT the same, she'll replied "you also never drink bm before also grow up so well. drink fm baby will be fatter!" Is FAT and chubby so impt than being healthy???
I know they mean well. The reasons they do all these is because they really love me and dear son alot and they also dote my hubby alot too. but I think they are too over-protective alrdy!
I really love them, love staying with them, love their care & concerns, but how to let their concern be normal instead of too over?
My parents dote me alot, always want to decide everything for me, afriad that I will get cheated easily. They are always very protective towards me.. But sometimes, it's getting too over that I'm getting breatheless...
I got married at the age of 19, gave birth to dear son at 21... To them I'm still a kid, which I agree too, cause after being a mother, I know how a parent thinks.
But they really CARE too much!!!
My mum forbids me to bring dear son out!!! Even with hubby also cannot, unless we going back to in-laws' place...
Whenever my friends asked me "where's your baby?" whenever I go find them, I feel so lousy cause I dont't even have the 'right' to bring dear son out!
Ytd, hubby and me went to taka toy fair, bought 5 toys for dear son... All so cheapand can learn music, ABC, 123, animals etc... my mum gave me a BIG SCOLDING just now!!!
She said dear son only 2mth old, dont't need any toys... I told her is on sales and he can learn through playing. she snapped at me saying that he's too young for toys and I dont't have to buy and keep... But I think 2-3 mths later I can start introducing him those toys alrdy...
I also bought a set of 'your baby can read' vcd and books for dear son. I think she will ask me soon "how much" and why I let dear son watch all these when he's only 2mth old... I really dont't know how to ans her...
She said I'm wasting money to buy so much toys for him! Frankly, I bought only 5 for him, it's the boxes that seems like I bought ALOT! I'm dear son's mother, I dont't have the say to bring him out, I cannot buy toys for him???
Even my in-laws also keep saying that we should bring dear son out more often to let him get used of the crowd. Why my in-laws can be so open minded and my parents can't???
I'm very stress whenever I wanna buy something. I will tell my hubby "what if mum scold and scream at us again?"
My hubby also feel very pissed whenever my mum scold us for the things we bought. She feels that, we're married alrdy so I gonna give up making-up, buying clothes etc... hubby should give up his hobbies too...
Hubby suggested next time if we wanna get something BIG, place them at my in-laws' place 1st and when dear son can play alrdy, then bring home....
And later we're going down to town again. Mum said she's very tired and expect us to come back by 8pm. I suggested why not we bring dear son along so she can rest welll, she said a firm "NO!" But our time is very limited, how to come back by 8pm???
Before I got preg, and alrdy MARRIED, she will keep calling mine or hubby's hp to ask "what time your coming back??? very late alrdy!" when it was only 7pm!!! Sometimes better , 8pm then calll....
my cousin date me out next week and we agree to bring both our babies out. She is quite good in taking care baby and I thought I can FINALLY bring dear son out alone BUT my mum gave me 3 choices:
1. my hubby must follow
2. leave dear son at home
3. she follow
My hubby's schedule can't fit so in the end, I choose to let her follow cause I really want to bring dear son out to let him see the world outside...
As for my dad, he dont't allow me to bathe dear son alone... He MUST be there when I bathe dear son... I told him I once bathe dear son alone before and I HAVE TO LEARN!! He just dont't trust me... There was once, I proof him wrong, I bathe dear son when he went out to buy things... When he's back, he was shocked.. I thought after that I can bathe dear son alone alrdy but NOPE, he still continue to 'supervise' me...
As i have inverted nipple, if i wanna latch on dear son, i gonna "pump out" my nipple 1st but dear son very impatient so I just pump out and keep in the fridge, next feed then give him. My dad keep say pump out alrd all nutrients no longer there, might as well dont't feed.. I agree, latching on is always the best. when I told him my condition can't successful latch on dear son everytime, he said "that means you're not suitable bf-ing, stop bf-ing!"
What' that nonsense???!!! even Thomson Medical Center's LC encouraged me to pump out the milk for dear son when he can't latch on and even though latching on is the best! When I told him what pediatrician, gynae and LC told me, he said "all are nonsense"
my mum keep say ds don't like my bm. I told her no matter he lik or not also must drink! even a lil also better than nth... She said 1 day drink ard 200ml, might as well don't rink.and said fm is the SAME... when i told her it's NOT the same, she'll replied "you also never drink bm before also grow up so well. drink fm baby will be fatter!" Is FAT and chubby so impt than being healthy???
I know they mean well. The reasons they do all these is because they really love me and dear son alot and they also dote my hubby alot too. but I think they are too over-protective alrdy!
I really love them, love staying with them, love their care & concerns, but how to let their concern be normal instead of too over?
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