Hi, I know in laws problems are endless. I just need to have an outlet to vent my frustration or perhaps mummies out there can give me some advice.
Staying with in laws had so far been ok till the baby arrives. Conflicts do arise but we give and take. Issue is I feel that I have little time with my child especially now that I am back to work. mother in law helps to take care during the day which I am very grateful and I appreciates her help. However, when I am home at night or during weekends, she will still be around playing with my baby. I dont't seem to have that 'alone' time to bond with my baby. She already spent 80% of the time with him alone and I only have that 2-3 hours with him before he goes to bed everyday. Similarly for weekends. She is always there to look at him, talk to him when I play with him and baby will be distracted away from me. I can't seem to be able to 'take care' of my baby the way I would like to without interference or comments from my in laws. I try to hide in the room with my baby alone. However, he tends to feel frustrated after some time in the room and cry to go outside and see things and my in laws will come and carry him away thinking that I do not have the ability to coax him.
I know there are pros and cons to staying with in laws. Household chores are taken care of most of the time. However, I still envy those couples that do not stay with their in laws when you can have your 'baby' time alone at night and after putting baby to bed still able to enjoy some 'couple' time alone. I have difficulty balancing this with in laws staying together. Any mummies out there can share their experiences with me?
As what some people say, mother in law is jealous of the daughter in law for 'snatching' their son away whereas daughter in law is jealous of mother in law for 'snatching' their child away. What an irony. :embarrassed:
Staying with in laws had so far been ok till the baby arrives. Conflicts do arise but we give and take. Issue is I feel that I have little time with my child especially now that I am back to work. mother in law helps to take care during the day which I am very grateful and I appreciates her help. However, when I am home at night or during weekends, she will still be around playing with my baby. I dont't seem to have that 'alone' time to bond with my baby. She already spent 80% of the time with him alone and I only have that 2-3 hours with him before he goes to bed everyday. Similarly for weekends. She is always there to look at him, talk to him when I play with him and baby will be distracted away from me. I can't seem to be able to 'take care' of my baby the way I would like to without interference or comments from my in laws. I try to hide in the room with my baby alone. However, he tends to feel frustrated after some time in the room and cry to go outside and see things and my in laws will come and carry him away thinking that I do not have the ability to coax him.
I know there are pros and cons to staying with in laws. Household chores are taken care of most of the time. However, I still envy those couples that do not stay with their in laws when you can have your 'baby' time alone at night and after putting baby to bed still able to enjoy some 'couple' time alone. I have difficulty balancing this with in laws staying together. Any mummies out there can share their experiences with me?
As what some people say, mother in law is jealous of the daughter in law for 'snatching' their son away whereas daughter in law is jealous of mother in law for 'snatching' their child away. What an irony. :embarrassed: