sharonyi66
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Every morning, before hb sent me to work, we will drive to the nearest mamashop to buy 'The New Paper' and also to buy my breakfast which is few shops away.
*while I'm buying paper and breakfast, he will be waiting for me in the car*
This morning, I wanted to buy Mac breakfast (abit further down the road) and beside mac, there's also mamashop selling newspaper so I told him.....
Part 1~
Me: Today I wanna eat mac, we go there then I help you buy newspaper too.
Hb: Can help me buy paper 1st? (at the usual mamashop which we always buy from) After that then drive you to mac. I can read paper while waiting for you to buy yr breakfast
Me: Go mac there then I buy for you la, so I no need to walk up and down.
Hb: I'm your hb leh, can you 'chi hou' me?
Me: *In joking tone* I'm your wife leh, can dun bully me?
Hb: What bully you? Walk abit more cannot meh? You've already done very minimum as a duty of a wife.
Me: *Keep quiet coz by then, already reach the usual mamashop. Get down the car and help him buy the paper.*
Part 2~
**Inside the car, both keeping quiet. Reached mac and I went to buy my breakfast but inside my heart I keep thinking of the word he said 'You only done very minimum as a duty of a wife.' I dunno why the more I think, the more sad and gek sim I feel... What does he mean by that?? Until I buai tahan liao, my tears seems like bursting out already so.....**
Me: What do you mean by I only done very minimum duty as a wife??
Hb: I never mean anything, I'm just saying I want you to help me buy paper.
Me: If you dun mean anything, why do u have to say me until like that? Have I not done enough??
Hb: You are just being over sentitive.
**After that, both of use quiet keep on the way until I reached office. Never say 'byebye' either**
I'm still thinking (until now) why must he say I only done very minimum as a wife?? What have I not done to his so-call 'maximum'??
(ME) Everyday (Monday - Friday) after work -> reach home at 630pm -> bathe -> eat dinner -> (take over tasks from mil) look after Inez (6mths old baby) and Fayth (5yrs old), play with them, feed Inez milk, coax Inez to sleep (by then is already 10+pm) -> express my B-milk -> sleep at 11+pm -> 3am Inez wake up for milk -> 6am Inez wake up for milk -> 7am I wake up express B-milk and prepare for work.
I'm so shag and tired at work...
(HB) Everyday (Monday - Friday but surely got 2 nights he will be out for entertainment till wee hours) after work -> reach home at 630pm (hb will fetch me from work) -> eat dinner -> watch soccer, read paper, play with Inez (only when I need to go pee or do something else), read story book for Fayth (only when Fayth keep asking hb to read for her) THEN SLEEP as early as 8+pm IF THE NIGHT BEFORE HE WAS HOME IN WEE HOURS.
My ILs is 'off' on weekends..
Saturdays, I have to work till 1pm while he's off. I reached home -> lunch -> look after the kids all the way while hb, nap -> watch soccer -> read paper -> nap until 5+pm then we go out dinner. Sometimes I really too tired and need a nap, I will ask my maid to help look after the kids and took a short nap.
Sundays, (ME) teach Fayth do homework, look after Inez. (HB) teach Fayth do homework only if I need to do something else, nap, nap, nap. Night rountine same as Mondays to Fridays..
*While I'm typing till here, I really wondering WHAT HAVE I DONE NOT ENOUGH?!!*
I fall sick on 2 Sundays. 1st Sunday, he leave me, maid and baby at home while he bring Fayth and ILs to granny's house for dinner and mahjong till 3am! I'm running a temperature of 38 degree yet have to coax Inez to sleep and even wake up to feed her milk.
You all might ask why I didn't leave Inez to maid? Coz maid already look after Inez the whole day (without clearing much of her house work) when I'm sleeping after taking my medicines. So I have to look after in order for maid to clear the work, somemore maid has to wake up at 6am...
2nd Sunday, again, he wanna leave me and baby at home but this time maid is off so SIL will be at home with me. I so pissed and i told him off..
Me: You very 'zhe er' leh, I'm having fever yet you still leave me at home with baby.
Hb: Got SIL help you mah...
Me: SIL dunno how to handle Inez, how can she help??
End up, mil was home with me BUT she's doing housework (mil can't stand house messy or dirty de) while (back to the square 1) I'm looking after Inez with my very weak body...
I took mc the next day, hoping to rest more.. Hb sent a sms telling me: If you're feeling better, look after the kids. Mum and dad very tired, let them rest.. Oh my, how and what do you feel upon seeing the sms???? I am still but not yet recovering and there instead of asking me to rest more, ask me to look after the kids... Ok fine, I look after them with the help of my maid..
I really really really wondering AGAIN that...have i not done enough?? Does he mean that I no need to cook, no need to wash, just need to look after the kids so this is the 'minimum' of what I suppose to do???
I am a human, I need rest, own time too. Whenever (once every 2/3weeks) I wanna meet up with my bff for dinner so some shopping after work, hb will sure tell me to go home early and look after them as ILs need to rest. Hey. come on, I know ILs are old and they get tired easily but please, I need some of my own time too!! Somemore I purposely choose to meet up with my bff when hb is at home so he can help my ILs.. I did anything wrong or being too much?? Even I go out with my bff, the latest I will home is 10+pm... Unlike him, always home at wee hours.
I told him before, if he's not going to help me to look after the kids, then his parents will do it. If he dun heart pain his parents, then go ahead and leave the kids to them while I still go ahead to meet my friends. I NEED FRESH AIR TOO!!!
In what or which way I've not done well as a wife or as a mother???
Sorry for my long ranting.... I'm really feeling very sad, gek sim and disappointed that such words can come out from hb's mouth.. :embarrassed:
*while I'm buying paper and breakfast, he will be waiting for me in the car*
This morning, I wanted to buy Mac breakfast (abit further down the road) and beside mac, there's also mamashop selling newspaper so I told him.....
Part 1~
Me: Today I wanna eat mac, we go there then I help you buy newspaper too.
Hb: Can help me buy paper 1st? (at the usual mamashop which we always buy from) After that then drive you to mac. I can read paper while waiting for you to buy yr breakfast
Me: Go mac there then I buy for you la, so I no need to walk up and down.
Hb: I'm your hb leh, can you 'chi hou' me?
Me: *In joking tone* I'm your wife leh, can dun bully me?
Hb: What bully you? Walk abit more cannot meh? You've already done very minimum as a duty of a wife.
Me: *Keep quiet coz by then, already reach the usual mamashop. Get down the car and help him buy the paper.*
Part 2~
**Inside the car, both keeping quiet. Reached mac and I went to buy my breakfast but inside my heart I keep thinking of the word he said 'You only done very minimum as a duty of a wife.' I dunno why the more I think, the more sad and gek sim I feel... What does he mean by that?? Until I buai tahan liao, my tears seems like bursting out already so.....**
Me: What do you mean by I only done very minimum duty as a wife??
Hb: I never mean anything, I'm just saying I want you to help me buy paper.
Me: If you dun mean anything, why do u have to say me until like that? Have I not done enough??
Hb: You are just being over sentitive.
**After that, both of use quiet keep on the way until I reached office. Never say 'byebye' either**
I'm still thinking (until now) why must he say I only done very minimum as a wife?? What have I not done to his so-call 'maximum'??
(ME) Everyday (Monday - Friday) after work -> reach home at 630pm -> bathe -> eat dinner -> (take over tasks from mil) look after Inez (6mths old baby) and Fayth (5yrs old), play with them, feed Inez milk, coax Inez to sleep (by then is already 10+pm) -> express my B-milk -> sleep at 11+pm -> 3am Inez wake up for milk -> 6am Inez wake up for milk -> 7am I wake up express B-milk and prepare for work.
I'm so shag and tired at work...
(HB) Everyday (Monday - Friday but surely got 2 nights he will be out for entertainment till wee hours) after work -> reach home at 630pm (hb will fetch me from work) -> eat dinner -> watch soccer, read paper, play with Inez (only when I need to go pee or do something else), read story book for Fayth (only when Fayth keep asking hb to read for her) THEN SLEEP as early as 8+pm IF THE NIGHT BEFORE HE WAS HOME IN WEE HOURS.
My ILs is 'off' on weekends..
Saturdays, I have to work till 1pm while he's off. I reached home -> lunch -> look after the kids all the way while hb, nap -> watch soccer -> read paper -> nap until 5+pm then we go out dinner. Sometimes I really too tired and need a nap, I will ask my maid to help look after the kids and took a short nap.
Sundays, (ME) teach Fayth do homework, look after Inez. (HB) teach Fayth do homework only if I need to do something else, nap, nap, nap. Night rountine same as Mondays to Fridays..
*While I'm typing till here, I really wondering WHAT HAVE I DONE NOT ENOUGH?!!*
I fall sick on 2 Sundays. 1st Sunday, he leave me, maid and baby at home while he bring Fayth and ILs to granny's house for dinner and mahjong till 3am! I'm running a temperature of 38 degree yet have to coax Inez to sleep and even wake up to feed her milk.
You all might ask why I didn't leave Inez to maid? Coz maid already look after Inez the whole day (without clearing much of her house work) when I'm sleeping after taking my medicines. So I have to look after in order for maid to clear the work, somemore maid has to wake up at 6am...
2nd Sunday, again, he wanna leave me and baby at home but this time maid is off so SIL will be at home with me. I so pissed and i told him off..
Me: You very 'zhe er' leh, I'm having fever yet you still leave me at home with baby.
Hb: Got SIL help you mah...
Me: SIL dunno how to handle Inez, how can she help??
End up, mil was home with me BUT she's doing housework (mil can't stand house messy or dirty de) while (back to the square 1) I'm looking after Inez with my very weak body...
I took mc the next day, hoping to rest more.. Hb sent a sms telling me: If you're feeling better, look after the kids. Mum and dad very tired, let them rest.. Oh my, how and what do you feel upon seeing the sms???? I am still but not yet recovering and there instead of asking me to rest more, ask me to look after the kids... Ok fine, I look after them with the help of my maid..
I really really really wondering AGAIN that...have i not done enough?? Does he mean that I no need to cook, no need to wash, just need to look after the kids so this is the 'minimum' of what I suppose to do???
I am a human, I need rest, own time too. Whenever (once every 2/3weeks) I wanna meet up with my bff for dinner so some shopping after work, hb will sure tell me to go home early and look after them as ILs need to rest. Hey. come on, I know ILs are old and they get tired easily but please, I need some of my own time too!! Somemore I purposely choose to meet up with my bff when hb is at home so he can help my ILs.. I did anything wrong or being too much?? Even I go out with my bff, the latest I will home is 10+pm... Unlike him, always home at wee hours.
I told him before, if he's not going to help me to look after the kids, then his parents will do it. If he dun heart pain his parents, then go ahead and leave the kids to them while I still go ahead to meet my friends. I NEED FRESH AIR TOO!!!
In what or which way I've not done well as a wife or as a mother???
Sorry for my long ranting.... I'm really feeling very sad, gek sim and disappointed that such words can come out from hb's mouth.. :embarrassed: