kaitlynangelieca
New Member
Dear Mummies,
I'd like your opinion here. No worries as there are no right or wrong answers.
I have a daugher born in 2003 and is in p1 this year.
Me and hubby only wanted 1 kid when we conceived her. we felt that it was financially draining to raise a child. After having her, we went through a rough patch, jobs were unstable for both of us and the marriage was rocky. After all the storms had died down, we decided to try for a 2nd kid. By which time, I was 35 years already. I managed to conceived twice but both ended in miscarriage. It took me a long long time to get over that. For months, every time I talk to ppl, would feel conscious that I was the only one in the whole wide world that has only one child.
I will be 37 in a few months time and am wondering whether or not I should make another attempt. Altho I still feel that it is a more ideal situation if I could have another child, I am worried that I will not be able to carry the baby to full-term again. Also fear of morning sickness. Am much older now and I am aware that there will be tremendous discomfort.
Now that my gal is in p1, there are other things to worry about. I am a kan cheong mother and want her to do well. I make sure I coach her on her spelling and ting xie weekly.
I have been seeing the chinese doctor on and off and Thong Chai Medical. Its reached a stage where I am asking, what am I doing all this for? whats wrong with just having one? Ppl try to make me feel guilty by saying that my dd will feel pressured in the future. I don't buy that frankly. I think u could have 8 kids and none of them want to take care of you. I am the kind of mother that wants to ensure I can foot my daughter's uni fees in the future so I guess with all that in mind having one child is ideal because I can give her the best and devote all the finances to her.
Am I thinking too much? What do all of you think?
I'd like your opinion here. No worries as there are no right or wrong answers.
I have a daugher born in 2003 and is in p1 this year.
Me and hubby only wanted 1 kid when we conceived her. we felt that it was financially draining to raise a child. After having her, we went through a rough patch, jobs were unstable for both of us and the marriage was rocky. After all the storms had died down, we decided to try for a 2nd kid. By which time, I was 35 years already. I managed to conceived twice but both ended in miscarriage. It took me a long long time to get over that. For months, every time I talk to ppl, would feel conscious that I was the only one in the whole wide world that has only one child.
I will be 37 in a few months time and am wondering whether or not I should make another attempt. Altho I still feel that it is a more ideal situation if I could have another child, I am worried that I will not be able to carry the baby to full-term again. Also fear of morning sickness. Am much older now and I am aware that there will be tremendous discomfort.
Now that my gal is in p1, there are other things to worry about. I am a kan cheong mother and want her to do well. I make sure I coach her on her spelling and ting xie weekly.
I have been seeing the chinese doctor on and off and Thong Chai Medical. Its reached a stage where I am asking, what am I doing all this for? whats wrong with just having one? Ppl try to make me feel guilty by saying that my dd will feel pressured in the future. I don't buy that frankly. I think u could have 8 kids and none of them want to take care of you. I am the kind of mother that wants to ensure I can foot my daughter's uni fees in the future so I guess with all that in mind having one child is ideal because I can give her the best and devote all the finances to her.
Am I thinking too much? What do all of you think?