If you have a disrespectful kid at home, your patience can be put to a test. Being disrespectful can be like raising their voice, refuse to answer despite you sure he can hear you, showing persistent anger on you, walking away during confrontation or showing disrespectful gestures.
If we look into age group, different kids may show behave differently.
Here are the points you should look into to turn your disrespectful kid into a polite angel:
1. Learn to React To Situations
Kids can be disrespectful, defiant or obnoxious for a reason. Sometimes the bad behavior emerges because there was a problem in the first place. Imagine if you didn’t like your kid playing with your lipstick and you reacted by snatching it away, you are actually heating up the situation. With impulse, she may turn disrespectful towards you too. Ever wonder why she was able to reach your personal belongings? Did you keep it at the safe place? Perhaps, you should educate your kid to respect privacy so that she will never reach your personal belongings in the first place. Having said that, should you reacted differently by asking her to hand back your belonging politely and explain with a reason, the situation can easily be salvaged.
2. Polish Your Parenting Skills
Poor parenting can bring up disrespectful kids. Whilst nobody is born as an expert parent, we learn to become better. Looks like we attend workshops before marriage, we sign up for pregnancy and labor classes and our bosses send us for computer classes. But what’s about parenting? Do we pick our parenting skills from nowhere and try to practice it at home by trial-and-error? Parenting skills are to be acquired and the more the learn, the better parent we become. Also, note that the trend in learning ‘how to parent‘ is rising. Parents are going after e-books such as The Happy Child Guide or audio programs called theTotal Transformation Program which empowers your parenting skills in dealing with disrespectful kids. As all the concepts are authored by James Lehman, Child Behavioral Therapist, you too can parent like a pro by applying these parenting methods.
3. Create Harmonious Family Culture
Kids learn by example. Should you treat them and everyone else at home with unconditional love and respect, there’s no opportunity for them to talk back at all. Disallow shows, movies and exposures which mislead them into impersonating bad behavior which they thought was ‘cool’. If your kid happens to pick up disrespectful behavior from school, explain to them that that behavior is not acceptable within the family culture because if he turns disrespectful, he too would lose others’ respect. Remember that respects are to be earned regardless of status in a family.
4. Stay Calm and Resolve Issues
Always remember to stay calm and half the battle is won. If you were to shout back, scold or hit, you aren’t any better than your kid when it comes to respect. Try to resolve any problem you can without power struggle because unsolved issues will only mount up and cause further unpleasantness which may lead to further disputes. So place priority in solving the problem amicably.
Other than bringing the bacon home, it is equally important to fill up their emotional needs. Sometimes, kids need your company to talk things out. Sometimes, it is good to simply share about your day and encourage vice versa. So always talk to each other and build good rapport which enables promising relationships. Being a ‘friend’ to your kid does not amount to losing your parent authority. Instead the closer you are connected to your kid, the more respect you will deserve. This in turn will refrain your kid from becoming disrespectful altogether.
Bottom line, you need to put in extra effort by putting all these together so that your family will be able to operate smoothly everyday.