tinkerball
Active Member
MIL and me
I hav this prob which hv been bugging me for the past few months. Me n my family rarely communicated with each other at hm. After i married and moved out though things start to improve and i make it a point to visit them at least once a mth. My hubby's family had been great especially my MIL. This gave me a feeling of family warmth which i never had with my own family. We did discussed before that after we got our own flat we will get our parents in law to stay with us. My opinion changed though after i spent my confinement period at my in laws place. I cant stand her constant nagging though i know thats typical of old ladies. Though she's been great with my newborn son i don't agree with certain method of her handling babies. 4 example using cloth dabbed in baby's urine to clean out whitish infection in his mouth. My son rarely fed at night after he gets older and my MIL hav been telling every1 that my son has not been drinking enough milk and this in turn make me feel as if i have not been doing my job well as a mother. There is lots of other issues as well... My son is 15mth old now. What can i do then if he refuses his milk? Her method of educating her children is thru the gentle manner. Me however hav my own methods of discipline once he grows up and i dont wish to have her interference if we happens to live under one roof in future. Now i find it a dread to go over to MIL's place. Instead of being happy like i used to be now all i felt is resentment towards her. I do want to hav a nice talk wif her but old people, we knw are more sensitive and might feel hurt as result. My hubby is timid and i cant turn to any1 else for advice.
I hav this prob which hv been bugging me for the past few months. Me n my family rarely communicated with each other at hm. After i married and moved out though things start to improve and i make it a point to visit them at least once a mth. My hubby's family had been great especially my MIL. This gave me a feeling of family warmth which i never had with my own family. We did discussed before that after we got our own flat we will get our parents in law to stay with us. My opinion changed though after i spent my confinement period at my in laws place. I cant stand her constant nagging though i know thats typical of old ladies. Though she's been great with my newborn son i don't agree with certain method of her handling babies. 4 example using cloth dabbed in baby's urine to clean out whitish infection in his mouth. My son rarely fed at night after he gets older and my MIL hav been telling every1 that my son has not been drinking enough milk and this in turn make me feel as if i have not been doing my job well as a mother. There is lots of other issues as well... My son is 15mth old now. What can i do then if he refuses his milk? Her method of educating her children is thru the gentle manner. Me however hav my own methods of discipline once he grows up and i dont wish to have her interference if we happens to live under one roof in future. Now i find it a dread to go over to MIL's place. Instead of being happy like i used to be now all i felt is resentment towards her. I do want to hav a nice talk wif her but old people, we knw are more sensitive and might feel hurt as result. My hubby is timid and i cant turn to any1 else for advice.