arghhhhhhhhhhhh in laws ....

[shidajat]

i can sympathize with you..and i think you're super duper awesome for living with the in-laws. i can never do that.
though we have our own place, my mom would stay with us monthly for 9-10 days..and it's the thing that i drag the most. she always thinks i am not giving the best for my baby, and not doing the best for him. she always thinks her ways are the way to go. (i.e. she'd put my baby under the sun to sun him every morning, even though he sweats like mad, and his eczema flares up due to the heat..she doesnt care. she thinks he needs the sun and only morning sun is good. afternoon sun isnt.
she'd force my baby to walk all the time to exercise. he is not allowed to sit down and play with a toy, or stand next to the toy box choosing a toy. he has to be walking all the time as though he's on a treadmill.
i know she thinks that my baby is her 'do-over', another chance of her raising a child. but my goodness, i wish she would bugger off already..and leave us alone.

 

[cinx]

though we have our own place, my mom would stay with us monthly for 9-10 days..and it's the thing that i drag the most. she always thinks i am not giving the best for my baby, and not doing the best for him. she always thinks her ways are the way to go. (i.e. she'd put my baby under the sun to sun him every morning, even though he sweats like mad, and his eczema flares up due to the heat..she doesnt care. she thinks he needs the sun and only morning sun is good. afternoon sun isnt.
she'd force my baby to walk all the time to exercise. he is not allowed to sit down and play with a toy, or stand next to the toy box choosing a toy. he has to be walking all the time as though he's on a treadmill.
i know she thinks that my baby is her 'do-over', another chance of her raising a child. but my goodness, i wish she would bugger off already..and leave us alone.

problem with my in laws is .. they always want to monopoly the baby, but thankss god ... they knew nothing about raising him ... so i could just shut them off by saying 'doctor said ok' or 'doctor said no'

but with my mum hhauahhahaha ... i got the same problem ... she take care 3 of us by herself ... so she complain a lots when she saw me take care of my son, telling me to do this and that ... and why i didn't do what she did before

so yes i understand how you feel too .... but since it's my mum so i can tolerate her more ... but still sometimes bit annoying ... they're time is different then ours, but they still think they're living in it

 

[crescent]

i was ok with my PIL... but not after i give birth to my DD... i oso very pissed with them!.... here's my story...

my mom come over to do my confinement for me...during my confinement stupid PIL EVERYDAY/NITE oso come over! then once my hubby or my mom open the hse door, them will chong to go into my room to see bb... no knock or anyting! somemore they not only go in see lor.. as the bb cot is on my side of the bed, they will practically sit on my side of the bed to see DD... everynite oso like tat for my whole confinement! been hinting my hubby but useless bum just keep quiet & tinks there's nuthing wrong wif tat... can still ask me back 'what's wrong wif tat?' Damn bloody pissed!
cos pil helps to buy food over for my mum to cook for me, so he will bring over in the morning... once my mum open the door he will just chong in to my room to see bb dun care whether i'm still sleeping or wat , no knock or anything... so after a few times if i know he's coming over in the morning, i purposely ask my mom to close the door even if i'm not doing anyting.... even my mum oso complaint, my sis oso buay tahan... if it's her she alr flare up alr....

then the min fil see my ger, he will keep saying 'yeye leh? yeye le lor yeye le lor.... mama leh? mama le lor...' (means, where's grandpa, grandpa come alr.. where's grandma, grandma come alr) even when she sleeping he also will call... then mil keep waiting to wake her up.... always treat her like doll like tat!

they do not have any exp taking care of bb (my hubby was taken care by his ahma) then wana act like know... keep saying tis saying tat... all from the hearsay of others!

bb wana sleep & drinking milk also keep calling her! then got to keep telling them to call her when she wana sleep or drink milk... cos very distracting to her...

everytime complaint to hubby, he's on pil side... tinks nuthing is wrong wif wat they doing.... it's very frustrating to talk to him !

 

[Renzie]

i was ok with my PIL... but not after i give birth to my DD... i oso very pissed with them!.... here's my story...

my mom come over to do my confinement for me...during my confinement stupid PIL EVERYDAY/NITE oso come over! then once my hubby or my mom open the hse door, them will chong to go into my room to see bb... no knock or anyting! somemore they not only go in see lor.. as the bb cot is on my side of the bed, they will practically sit on my side of the bed to see DD... everynite oso like tat for my whole confinement! been hinting my hubby but useless bum just keep quiet & tinks there's nuthing wrong wif tat... can still ask me back 'what's wrong wif tat?' Damn bloody pissed!
cos pil helps to buy food over for my mum to cook for me, so he will bring over in the morning... once my mum open the door he will just chong in to my room to see bb dun care whether i'm still sleeping or wat , no knock or anything... so after a few times if i know he's coming over in the morning, i purposely ask my mom to close the door even if i'm not doing anyting.... even my mum oso complaint, my sis oso buay tahan... if it's her she alr flare up alr....

then the min fil see my ger, he will keep saying 'yeye leh? yeye le lor yeye le lor.... mama leh? mama le lor...' (means, where's grandpa, grandpa come alr.. where's grandma, grandma come alr) even when she sleeping he also will call... then mil keep waiting to wake her up.... always treat her like doll like tat!

they do not have any exp taking care of bb (my hubby was taken care by his ahma) then wana act like know... keep saying tis saying tat... all from the hearsay of others!

bb wana sleep & drinking milk also keep calling her! then got to keep telling them to call her when she wana sleep or drink milk... cos very distracting to her...

everytime complaint to hubby, he's on pil side... tinks nuthing is wrong wif wat they doing.... it's very frustrating to talk to him !

Why not ask your husband if he likes people disturbing him when he's sleeping?
Likewise at this stage, your baby needs milk and sleep most of all, if she keeps being distracted or disturbed how to have enough of both?

Secondly, you need your privacy when you sleep. He may think that its ok, but its NOT ok for you. Have a proper talk with your husband, because what he thinks is ok is NOT ok for you.

 

[kujiramama]

i was ok with my parent in law... but not after i give birth to my dear daughter... i also very pissed with them!.... here's my story...

my mom come over to do my confinement for me...during my confinement stupid parent in law EVERYDAY/NITE also come over! then once my hubby or my mom open the house door, them will chong to go into my room to see baby... no knock or anyting! somemore they not only go in see .. as the baby cot is on my side of the bed, they will practically sit on my side of the bed to see dear daughter... everynite also like that for my whole confinement! been hinting my hubby but useless bum just keep quiet & tinks there's nuthing wrong with that... can still ask me back 'what's wrong with that?' Damn bloody pissed!
cos parent in law helps to buy food over for my mum to cook for me, so he will bring over in the morning... once my mum open the door he will just chong in to my room to see baby dont care whether i'm still sleeping or what , no knock or anything... so after a few times if i know he's coming over in the morning, i purposely ask my mom to close the door even if i'm not doing anyting.... even my mum also complaint, my sis also buay tahan... if it's her she already flare up already....

then the min father in law see my ger, he will keep saying 'yeye ? yeye yeye .... mama ? mama ...' (means, where's grandpa, grandpa come already.. where's grandma, grandma come already) even when she sleeping he also will call... then mother in law keep waiting to wake her up.... always treat her like doll like that!

they do not have any exp taking care of baby (my hubby was taken care by his ahma) then want to act like know... keep saying tis saying that... all from the hearsay of others!

baby want to sleep & drinking milk also keep calling her! then got to keep telling them to call her when she want to sleep or drink milk... cos very distracting to her...

everytime complaint to hubby, he's on parent in law side... tinks nuthing is wrong with what they doing.... it's very frustrating to talk to him !

Aiyoh, just like my mil! Luckily my fil still ok, not like my mil. Can you imagine my fil had to ask my mil to shutup cos she is too loud?

After confinement they also like to visit during the night because of my fil's work. I told HB to ask them not to visit at night cos it's sleeping time for bb. And I dun want bb to get over-stimulated before bedtime. Say liao no use, they still keep coming. Then I had to be cruel to HB loh. Scold him and tell him that I am the one looking after bb not him or his parents. At night have to soothe crying baby very tiring! Now finally they stopped coming because we went to their house instead. And we can choose the timing.

 

[kujiramama]

Why not ask your husband if he likes people disturbing him when he's sleeping?
Likewise at this stage, your baby needs milk and sleep most of all, if she keeps being distracted or disturbed how to have enough of both?

Secondly, you need your privacy when you sleep. He may think that its ok, but its NOT ok for you. Have a proper talk with your husband, because what he thinks is ok is NOT ok for you.

If the HB or pils is not taking care of the bb they might not understand how tiring it is to take care of one! Just like my HB initially. Scold loh, scold until he gets the idea. lol

 

[minako85]

I hate staying with my in laws too!!!!!!!

Just yesterday night, I was cleaning up for my baby boy... Den suddenly he started crying ... N I realize he's actually pooping.... Den my mother in law just come into my room and ask 'what happen'???? In not a very nice tone.... Being irritated I just replied 'i dunno'...
N when I wiped his face, she came n push my hand away n scold me tt I'm not letting him breath!!! WTF. It's not the first time I handle my baby n I know what I'm doing... I felt so pissed when she push my hand away like tt n scold me.. It's totally uncalled for. My baby cries not because I don't let him breath, he's merely trying to take a poop.
Why must her reactions be so exaggerating???!!??
I know he's her grandson. BUT he's MY SON and I know how to handle him already.
When she push me away n scold me, I did not even say anything I just kept quiet to avoid quarrels when infact I'm boiling inside.
I don't know how I'm gonna be 'nice' towards her after this incident...
She had indirectly shown her dismay at me ytd.. I just feel like 她看我不顺眼. I also can't stand her seriously. What a drama mama.

 

[glam-mummy]

My mil has sweaty plams and arms. So after she carry dear son, behind his neck and head will be quite wet because of her sweat. Its a good thing that I don't stay with her. But when we visit her, she will insist that she wants to help put dear son to sleep when he is sleepy. and every time after visiting her, his ezeama will act up. Told hub, he also don't care. Or to say he even slap me in front of his friends when I told him that dear son need to sleep and with his friends going into the room, he will disturb his sleeping pattern. Even suggesting to him that his friends could come earlier instead of 10 plus 11 at night.

Anyway back to the topic, I guess there is nothing much we can do except to accept. Booo~

 

[2011mummy]

Normal to have diff view & opinion when staying with ILS.. Hubby also Kelian cos sandwich in between.