I believe it's the way you educate your DH. I keep feeding my DH with the correct info through books & articles. Thus sometimes i dun have to speak up, he will correct my ILs himself when he see them doing things they shouldn't. Plus i will not say complaining but just sharing your point of view with your DH will strengthen your relationship instead. I believe it's the way you put it & the tone of voice you use when discussing the issue. Just listen & forget might probably lead to more anger down the road.
Dealing with In Laws
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I believe it's the way you educate your DH. I keep feeding my DH with the correct info through books & articles. Thus sometimes i dun have to speak up, he will correct my ILs himself when he see them doing things they shouldn't. Plus i will not say complaining but just sharing your point of view with your DH will strengthen your relationship instead. I believe it's the way you put it & the tone of voice you use when discussing the issue. Just listen & forget might probably lead to more anger down the road.
that is only good when hubby side you and reads and understand. my hubby, dnt really read, and dnt really listen, and then hor, everything also keep quiet. let them say. let them do kind. :nah:
pity-ful lor me. sometimes i feel like im the only one against the world.
i can tell him, explain , show him, pass him books, but he wont really take it in lor.
pity-ful lor me. sometimes i feel like im the only one against the world.
i can tell him, explain , show him, pass him books, but he wont really take it in lor.
rocket science
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rainypink, i 100% understand how you feel. i'm in your position too, and sometimes, i feel like packing my bags and running away. after all, i have the means to support myself and i don't need to keep getting attacked by husb n MIL!
sick and tired of their old wive's tales. i also tell, explain and show him the books i've read but he just brush me aside.
i feel like it's always me vs. THEM..
sick and tired of their old wive's tales. i also tell, explain and show him the books i've read but he just brush me aside.
i feel like it's always me vs. THEM..
SH74
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mayb try to get the gynae or PD to say things to hb. fr a 3rd party. sometimes my hb dun listen to me also. then i get my sis to say it. but naturally la, when got chance. if not, will make hb paiseh.
if still stubborn, then let things happen. once their son sick 'cause hb follow mil method, then they'll feel bad. that time my mil say want cook stock for porridge for my boy, which is good. but in her stock, she put so many stuff which my boy has nv tried b4. my mil ask my hb, n he said ok w/o asking me 1st.
aft eating, my boy kena serious diarrhoea n fever for quite a while. i suspected it's the food. but my hb not happy. so when we see doc, i ask doc is it due to food allergy. doc found out wat was in the stock. told us most prob is due to the stock.
since then, my hb will ask me 1st. but sometimes he still doesnt. then i'll say str in his face that if my boy fall sick again, i wont take care at nite. 'cause taking the nite shift most shiong.
if still stubborn, then let things happen. once their son sick 'cause hb follow mil method, then they'll feel bad. that time my mil say want cook stock for porridge for my boy, which is good. but in her stock, she put so many stuff which my boy has nv tried b4. my mil ask my hb, n he said ok w/o asking me 1st.
aft eating, my boy kena serious diarrhoea n fever for quite a while. i suspected it's the food. but my hb not happy. so when we see doc, i ask doc is it due to food allergy. doc found out wat was in the stock. told us most prob is due to the stock.
since then, my hb will ask me 1st. but sometimes he still doesnt. then i'll say str in his face that if my boy fall sick again, i wont take care at nite. 'cause taking the nite shift most shiong.
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Working mummySG
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hi rainypink,
We did went back MIL place on CNY eve, after that didnt go as husband is buzi. I tried call MIL to chit chat bt her attitude is so bad, slam my ph. MIL never called so ... ...anyway, hus is saying will go back again 1 wkn. hope nothing SERIOUS will happen.
working mummysg...
that's very good. :tlaugh: At least on your part, you did go and visit them. I mean dont give them extra excuse to sort of like complain you, right?
At least you tried. so if anything were to happen or when things go worst, you can stand up for yourself and declare that you have tried your best already.. Clear conscience.
jiayou!
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that's very good. :tlaugh: At least on your part, you did go and visit them. I mean dont give them extra excuse to sort of like complain you, right?
At least you tried. so if anything were to happen or when things go worst, you can stand up for yourself and declare that you have tried your best already.. Clear conscience.
jiayou!
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raeka
Member
My IL is always acting so hack care for her grandson but back of me n hubby kept complaining to her sis that was our "ah yi" GOsh... cannot stand..
so busy liaos still have to handle this Stupid thing..
UNlike my mummy so easy going ...
So i learn my lesson , will call to concern and telling her how's her grandson doing . Very free then can bring him down for her to see..
so busy liaos still have to handle this Stupid thing..
UNlike my mummy so easy going ...
So i learn my lesson , will call to concern and telling her how's her grandson doing . Very free then can bring him down for her to see..