DH's FRDS....

[LoVeS]

Wat will u all react when u knw tis particular frd of dh's often ask ur dh go those "dirty" niteclub? WIll u forbid ur DH b frd wif such ppl?

To me this ppl are Zhu Peng Gou You lor who love to sabo ppl's family. Few days back DH told me 1 of his navy frd(dh is navy regular) ask him go those "dirty" niteclub. I was furious when i heard it coz it like tt frd already knw he is married n ds juz born not long only how can he ask my dh go such place? I told DH dun mix ard wif tis person too much if nt bad influence on dh.

Yes i knw it common to haf such frds but seriously if can avoid by all means avoid lor. My sis n her dh divorce is aso bcoz of influence by frds till he change so much n end up having affairs.

 

[stonston]

my hb had such a fren fm army....i scolded him straight in his face...os give chance...told him he wanna kena aids, pls kena himself, dun involve my hb.....after tt they nvr go out together le...

 

[LoVeS]

i dun haf such to see his tt frd if nt i will SCOLD aso :wemad: DH did ensure me he wont go but it best to stay away frm such kind of frds. ZHU PENG GOU YOU

 

[elsie]

hi loves,

i've encountered this b4.. many of dh's frens like to go such pubs or ktv where there are those thai girls dancing singing etc.. i've told him umpteen times tat i dun like him to frequent such places. but he often gave in to his fren. many of times, i will let him go as i know he's quite stressful abt work. until one day, i cant tolerate anymore n i told him straight in the face.. "do you believe i will call ur fren and ask him to stop asking u to go such places?" he himself wanna see those thai girls but y kept on dragging dh to go with him right? always drag dh along. wads more, he, himself got a GF and he's doing it behind her back. i so much wanted to tell his GF abt it. but guess just leave it to both of them.

a few weeks ago.. i happened to see a pic of dh n a thai girl. i didnt mutter a word just cry straight in front of him. i know its just a pic, nothing to get annoyed about. but i just cant control myself upon seeing that. i know he wanted to explain but i just kept ignoring him. till the next day. he clarified the matter to me. n since then, he stopped goin such places. hopefully, this is not just temporary.

n i cant possibly ask him not to hang out with his frens cos they've been buddies for so many years. i seriously think they can go other 'healthier' pubs instead of tat kind.. but if he does go tat kinda place again... i'll nv give him face again.

p/s:no offence to any thais

 

[mae]

JMHO

I think it is best that you TRUST your dh in this kind of situation. Tell him your views about his friends but don't dictate him to stay away from them. We don't have the right to choose our dh friends. I know for sure your dh have his own way of weighing things & he is old enough to know what is right or wrong. Sometimes the more you restrict the more you get bad results.

 

[LoVeS]

JMHO

I think it is best that you TRUST your dh in this kind of situation. Tell him your views about his friends but don't dictate him to stay away from them. We don't have the right to choose our dh friends. I know for sure your dh have his own way of weighing things & he is old enough to know what is right or wrong. Sometimes the more you restrict the more you get bad results.

Real frd wont teach their frd to go such place especially is married n bb juz born not long only.

 

[LoVeS]

hi loves,

i've encountered this b4.. many of dh's frens like to go such pubs or ktv where there are those thai girls dancing singing etc.. i've told him umpteen times tat i dun like him to frequent such places. but he often gave in to his fren. many of times, i will let him go as i know he's quite stressful abt work. until one day, i cant tolerate anymore n i told him straight in the face.. "do you believe i will call ur fren and ask him to stop asking u to go such places?" he himself wanna see those thai girls but y kept on dragging dh to go with him right? always drag dh along. wads more, he, himself got a GF and he's doing it behind her back. i so much wanted to tell his GF abt it. but guess just leave it to both of them.

a few weeks ago.. i happened to see a pic of dh n a thai girl. i didnt mutter a word just cry straight in front of him. i know its just a pic, nothing to get annoyed about. but i just cant control myself upon seeing that. i know he wanted to explain but i just kept ignoring him. till the next day. he clarified the matter to me. n since then, he stopped goin such places. hopefully, this is not just temporary.

n i cant possibly ask him not to hang out with his frens cos they've been buddies for so many years. i seriously think they can go other 'healthier' pubs instead of tat kind.. but if he does go tat kinda place again... i'll nv give him face again.

p/s:no offence to any thais

Me kinda worry aso not bcoz dh is unfaithful to me go such place but rather he is very soft tend to gif in to ppl if they keep asking him go :frown:

 

[`julee]

this is wad man do ryt? ogle at other gals...
seriously i hav no problem in this. since both of us are night people, and he trust me into letting me go to club with my girlfriends, i don see any prob with him guin to pubs. but believe me by 2am+ i already start calling him, asking him faster come home. and wen i go to clubs, i will call him and tell him i'll be late etc etc.
i agree its the trust. good thing ur dh tells u about it! rather than he duing it at ur back!
im very close to dh frens infact his pals are my pals. and believe me, none of them the guai type..

 

[Leanne]

Sighs. Recently i found out more stuffs bout him. I know what i did was wrong lah. But can't help it. All LIBRANS are flirt. Incl me. I admit.

I went to his computer folder mths ago. Many COMEX IT show girls folders. In 2003-2005. Nvm, he told me people sent him, so he accepted it lor. I accepted his reason.

Days ago, i went to see his IRC folder, his incoming download folder got LOTS of girls' pics inside. I tell you, more than 50 of them! At least 20 of them are naked OR with bikini..

Sighs........................................................................... Make my mood terrible.

 

[huihui]

My DH ask me for permission b4 he go these plcs. Haha.. of coz he only go twice so far, 1 in sgp, 1 in bangkok. He aso report to me wat happen in ter. I trust my hb a lot.

As for the friend who ask him go in sgp, he only bump into him sumtimes at work. Bangkok one is he suggest to his frenz to go.. tink it was those 'tiger' show or sumting la...

 

[mae]

Real frd wont teach their frd to go such place especially is married n bb juz born not long only.

Your dh can always say NO to temptation if he thinks that his friends are bad influences. I think, we cannot blame other people if our dh goes with his friends in a dirty club, because it is he who decides for himself.

 

[stonston]

i accept if my hb surfs porn or ogle @ pretty ladies, but i like to be kept in e loop abt it....i also like to see handsome guys ma...i ogle at wu zun everyday

so far my hb has onli gone ONCE to those type of places once ever since i knew him....n it was purely for business, i trust tt he did not hanky panky (no looks, no money)....hahahahahahahaha......

i dun purposely go check on my hb n his frens....most of his frens r my frens, who r mostly married or getting married....some of them used to visit those places b4 they were attached, but all stopped liaoz....

sometimes living in ignorance is betta.....

 

[mae]

sometimes living in ignorance is betta.....

yeah, what you don't know will not hurt. so don't ask much

 

[jeSsie_Dz]

i belief ur dh can reject it if he feels its wrong to do so.. as his fren cant ctrl or pull him outta house if he rejects him rite??so it still matters with ur own dh afterall..
my dh goes clubbing at least once a week.. sometimes 3 times to the max.. but i think TRUST is most impt.. and we allow each other to have freedom with frens in our own nitelife.. as i do frequent such places(pubs/clubs) too.. everytime he goes to one place he wil inform me as well.. he also rejects them if he feels he has neglect me too much of tat week/month too.. after few times of reject his fren also understand him well le..

 

[XiaoXue]

I really think TRUST is very important.. like for me.. I dun ask where my hubby going when he told me he's meeting his friend for drink.. Be it kpt, karaoke pub, ktv or those boat quay.. doesn't matter.. I believe he know his stand & limit.. where to draw line.. thus I dun ask much.. most importantly.. at the end of the day, he's back home.. =)

 

[LoVeS]

this is wad man do ryt? ogle at other gals...
seriously i hav no problem in this. since both of us are night people, and he trust me into letting me go to club with my girlfriends, i don see any prob with him guin to pubs. but believe me by 2am+ i already start calling him, asking him faster come home. and wen i go to clubs, i will call him and tell him i'll be late etc etc.
i agree its the trust. good thing ur dh tells u about it! rather than he duing it at ur back!
im very close to dh frens infact his pals are my pals. and believe me, none of them the guai type..

there is a diff between pub/club wif dirty niteclubs. I dun mind him going pub or club but not dirty nitelcubs lor. Those niteclubs r gers serving ger wif those kind of things...how can it be the same as me going to clubbing?:nah:

I dun usually ask where he go etc etc juz tt was furious of his frd tt ask him go niteclub. Yes trust is very important but influence impact alot.

 

[EforEileen]

Since its impossible to wan them to break off friendship with those ZHU PENG GOU YOU, its best that not to let ur dh go out often with them.
Its ok to go kopitiam drink kopi tis kind of simple meet up but NEVER let them go nitespots with those "up-to-no-good' frens... Influence cause a big impact on men... Most of them was like, "wat my frens do, I oso do"... tis kind of stupid tinkin... and ended up doin the wrong thing...

 

[LoVeS]

Since its impossible to wan them to break off friendship with those ZHU PENG GOU YOU, its best that not to let ur dh go out often with them.
Its ok to go kopitiam drink kopi tis kind of simple meet up but NEVER let them go nitespots with those "up-to-no-good' frens... Influence cause a big impact on men... Most of them was like, "wat my frens do, I oso do"... tis kind of stupid tinkin... and ended up doin the wrong thing...

yes tat wat happen to my sis's husband which he is used to b a really gd husband n person but now....horrible.

 

[Leanne]

So for my case how? He always said he has good life principles etc. But i found all these! & also those msn history with other women. Keep asking them out to meet.

Then i think back, he also keep asking me to meet via MSN last time. Same method.

Sighs.

 

[LoVeS]

I tink u better haf gd tok wif him abt tis. Unless u wanna "ignorance is a bliss" which for me i dun believe in tis kind of thing. FOr me i rather wan truth although might hurt but at least i knw the truth.