Re: Does your hubby let U take control on his finance & how far he letting U Control
Hi Dilys,
Is not i do not want communicate with him. I like chit chat and everytime we back my parents house, we whole family talk an hour during breakfast and is very warm family. But you know what my husband said. " why you family talk so much?" hey...i told him off because his family not talk much and even talk more then few minute, bad word and scolding and argument come out. I dont like stay at my husband parent house because always feel cold war between all the family member. i seldom talk to all their family member unless necessary.
i did not know much about his family member because we work at sin but hometown in KL. Luckly not stay together, only back once a few month.
This morning my son (sick) & my maid (mom medical checkup) go see doctor. i told him about the medical fee and he pretend did not know what i talking about. I ask him for the medical fee, you know what he say? he said " you fork out urself because you had no comittement and like to waster money" . i told him off also,saying husband should pay for all the maintenance. Later, he offer pay for my maid medical fee $30 instead my son medical $58. So, i need to fork our the money myself to pay the medical. Feeling like wanna cry because what kind of husband he look like. He is holding key management position and yet the attitude like this. Sometime, I told him what i want and how much i want, he can just pretend he did not know anything and always say forgot and did not hear i mention before.
Frankly speak, whenever me n my husband go oversea travel, sure have scolding and argue during the travel. I feel not happy to travel with him. i told him, I will never ever travel with him. Usually, when me and my parents travel, we always have a sum money to spend oversea and sure spend until dry but did not use credit card. But when i travel with my husband, he sure say this expensive and that expensive and at the end buy nothing and enjoy nothing. I told him, we had change the money for travel and we can spend that. He said, we can exchange back if we did not use it. THEN WHY CHANGE MONEY!!!!!!!!!!
i will never ever travel with him . Last time he ask me travel to bangkok with his parents. I say no and great him enjoy himself there. You know what happen? My husband and his parents miss the flight (i say this is lesson and laught there). Can not say me evil because myhusband used to be late and everytime is i chase him so he never miss the flight and keep complain still have more time and this is the first lesson he miss the flight. he need stay one more day plus no more money to change. he use credit card to stay in hotel and purch another 3 air ticket back KL. The next day when there reach KL, my husband brother scold my husband because miss the flight & why bring parents go so far for holiday (this is their family culture always blame and scold) and cause he need take leave to take his children (usually his mother taking care the children) due to miss the flight. You know why he miss the flight? IS BECAUSE A CAN OF BEER.........................
he said the beer in thailand is cheap and left one can, he want drink finish it. Later he go to the wrong gate. on the way rushing (running with hand carry luggage) he father fall down. At last there reach the gate, the attendance said can not enter because flight already off. He mother said, why plane did not wait for ppl...hahahahhahahh.......really a family culture there. All brain is block and can not think properly.
Hi kelly80,
If your hubby ...offer to pay for maid salary then say ok... Why keep quiet?I think you should speak up to your hubby & tell him your needs. you need a good communication with him.
For me .. I dont't know it's like you are facing. I am lucky.. that my hubby thinks that a wife should be pampered & love. So I never had to worry about all household expenses, I am not working as I m preggie I got monthly allowance... I got monthly allowance even when I was working last time. Before married, my hubby pays for everything... After married still pays for everything. Now I am preggie.. My hubby still pays for everything for baby... I got 2 new credit cards from him as a gift for "suffering tru pregnancy".
Still ask me if I got enough $ to buy clothes and stuff for baby & myself.. He even mention that not enough just tell him.
I dont't control my hubby"s finance.. He controls it well.. He put some $ for investment, betting soccer ( his hobby),buying gold,buy insurance for us, etc.
I am just lucky that my hubby dote on me & his unborn prince.
dont't envy or jealous.. Different hubby have different mentally.. So you shouldn't be keeping quiet .. He dont't know what you want??? you dont't know how much he can give you .... It all depends on the man"s mentality .. How much & how far he is willing to give.
Jia you ! Try talking to your hubby. If he understands good.. But if don't you got to accept it cos" if a man is like that .. Is like that. Won't change ..
Hi Dilys,
Is not i do not want communicate with him. I like chit chat and everytime we back my parents house, we whole family talk an hour during breakfast and is very warm family. But you know what my husband said. " why you family talk so much?" hey...i told him off because his family not talk much and even talk more then few minute, bad word and scolding and argument come out. I dont like stay at my husband parent house because always feel cold war between all the family member. i seldom talk to all their family member unless necessary.
i did not know much about his family member because we work at sin but hometown in KL. Luckly not stay together, only back once a few month.
This morning my son (sick) & my maid (mom medical checkup) go see doctor. i told him about the medical fee and he pretend did not know what i talking about. I ask him for the medical fee, you know what he say? he said " you fork out urself because you had no comittement and like to waster money" . i told him off also,saying husband should pay for all the maintenance. Later, he offer pay for my maid medical fee $30 instead my son medical $58. So, i need to fork our the money myself to pay the medical. Feeling like wanna cry because what kind of husband he look like. He is holding key management position and yet the attitude like this. Sometime, I told him what i want and how much i want, he can just pretend he did not know anything and always say forgot and did not hear i mention before.
Frankly speak, whenever me n my husband go oversea travel, sure have scolding and argue during the travel. I feel not happy to travel with him. i told him, I will never ever travel with him. Usually, when me and my parents travel, we always have a sum money to spend oversea and sure spend until dry but did not use credit card. But when i travel with my husband, he sure say this expensive and that expensive and at the end buy nothing and enjoy nothing. I told him, we had change the money for travel and we can spend that. He said, we can exchange back if we did not use it. THEN WHY CHANGE MONEY!!!!!!!!!!
i will never ever travel with him . Last time he ask me travel to bangkok with his parents. I say no and great him enjoy himself there. You know what happen? My husband and his parents miss the flight (i say this is lesson and laught there). Can not say me evil because myhusband used to be late and everytime is i chase him so he never miss the flight and keep complain still have more time and this is the first lesson he miss the flight. he need stay one more day plus no more money to change. he use credit card to stay in hotel and purch another 3 air ticket back KL. The next day when there reach KL, my husband brother scold my husband because miss the flight & why bring parents go so far for holiday (this is their family culture always blame and scold) and cause he need take leave to take his children (usually his mother taking care the children) due to miss the flight. You know why he miss the flight? IS BECAUSE A CAN OF BEER.........................
he said the beer in thailand is cheap and left one can, he want drink finish it. Later he go to the wrong gate. on the way rushing (running with hand carry luggage) he father fall down. At last there reach the gate, the attendance said can not enter because flight already off. He mother said, why plane did not wait for ppl...hahahahhahahh.......really a family culture there. All brain is block and can not think properly.
