Am I a petty Wife??
*Married 6yrs living in 4-rm flat without in-laws,
*5yrs girl,
*Employed a maid,
*Does not own family car.
husband contribution to joint account 80% of his monthly salary for maint.
when not enough then i will top up from my side.
And, husband kept $720 for Transport=$150, Meal$350, Insurance=$220.
Disapproved husband contribution to in-laws = $0.
I am a buyer so my job requires me to travel almost every week..and follows with couple of rest days.
husband job is standard office hr(5 1/2day) including ad hoc weekend exhibition.
husband has no hobby; no entertainment, no drink, no smoke and no night outing with friends.
Everyday husband finished work at 6pm and got home at 745pm.
*Mother help out regularly when i was out of town.
I have to decide everything at home, services to engage, which enrichment centre, taking kid to clinic, etc.becoz husband always make me angry with his wrong choices or take short cut or stupid ideas.
Monthly expense on my girl, Pediatrician for mild asthmatic,Therapy for mild hyper active,Chinese Doc and medical冬蟲草 and Vitamins, school bus, K1 school fee, CL enrichment, Story books, exercise book, Clothes, Food, Fruit,
etc.
During my rest day, i will starts my girl study revision EL, Maths or Chinese at 730pm. After husband home, dinner and shower (815pm), always claims no time to study with her. Yet, he would play with his her until 9pm. Then switch attention to me...until 10pm when i went to bed. He cont. his office reports until 12am before going to bed.
Weekend, was the only time for us (if i were in town). Yet, when i am out of town, this father instead of helping to revise study with girl, he will switch on TV and watch with his girl.
Everyday, in order to have a decent meal with husband, i have to struggle with hunger since he got home at 745pm. Many times, I gave up and eat dinner without waiting for husband.
I am like a "Maid".
I have to bring girl for therapy, attend enrichment, clinic,
I have to revise school work with girl,
I have bring back more $$.
I am like a "Money-Tree".
husband used my money to pay lunch or dinner at Rest, to buy furniture, home renovation, COV.
husband is treat this house like hotel-81.
1. Wake up to work,
2. Come home to eat, computer and sleep,
3. Weekend TV,
4. Free sex once every quarter.
husband always say that he has a job and has to work, never show concern and play active role to take care of this family.
Lately, I were so mad that i slapped him a few times. He just stand there didn't defend or hide.
Left him slept in the study room.
Since he is not contributing and sharing my burden,
I dont't want this man, he dont't deserve to stay in this house.
Please help advice what can i do??
How to show him to improve... Divorce ??
*Married 6yrs living in 4-rm flat without in-laws,
*5yrs girl,
*Employed a maid,
*Does not own family car.
husband contribution to joint account 80% of his monthly salary for maint.
when not enough then i will top up from my side.
And, husband kept $720 for Transport=$150, Meal$350, Insurance=$220.
Disapproved husband contribution to in-laws = $0.
I am a buyer so my job requires me to travel almost every week..and follows with couple of rest days.
husband job is standard office hr(5 1/2day) including ad hoc weekend exhibition.
husband has no hobby; no entertainment, no drink, no smoke and no night outing with friends.
Everyday husband finished work at 6pm and got home at 745pm.
*Mother help out regularly when i was out of town.
I have to decide everything at home, services to engage, which enrichment centre, taking kid to clinic, etc.becoz husband always make me angry with his wrong choices or take short cut or stupid ideas.
Monthly expense on my girl, Pediatrician for mild asthmatic,Therapy for mild hyper active,Chinese Doc and medical冬蟲草 and Vitamins, school bus, K1 school fee, CL enrichment, Story books, exercise book, Clothes, Food, Fruit,
etc.
During my rest day, i will starts my girl study revision EL, Maths or Chinese at 730pm. After husband home, dinner and shower (815pm), always claims no time to study with her. Yet, he would play with his her until 9pm. Then switch attention to me...until 10pm when i went to bed. He cont. his office reports until 12am before going to bed.
Weekend, was the only time for us (if i were in town). Yet, when i am out of town, this father instead of helping to revise study with girl, he will switch on TV and watch with his girl.
Everyday, in order to have a decent meal with husband, i have to struggle with hunger since he got home at 745pm. Many times, I gave up and eat dinner without waiting for husband.
I am like a "Maid".
I have to bring girl for therapy, attend enrichment, clinic,
I have to revise school work with girl,
I have bring back more $$.
I am like a "Money-Tree".
husband used my money to pay lunch or dinner at Rest, to buy furniture, home renovation, COV.
husband is treat this house like hotel-81.
1. Wake up to work,
2. Come home to eat, computer and sleep,
3. Weekend TV,
4. Free sex once every quarter.
husband always say that he has a job and has to work, never show concern and play active role to take care of this family.
Lately, I were so mad that i slapped him a few times. He just stand there didn't defend or hide.
Left him slept in the study room.
Since he is not contributing and sharing my burden,
I dont't want this man, he dont't deserve to stay in this house.
Please help advice what can i do??
How to show him to improve... Divorce ??
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