The night before my caesarean, we had a big argument. I forgot what we quarrelled about already but he just didn’t think of me and our baby inside. He made me cry so hard. I was so sad I went to sleep on the floor alone. I carried my hospital bag all the way from my house to the ward. The nurses noticed it and asked me to put my bag on the floor. I refused. He didn’t say a word or maybe didn’t even noticed. When I was being pushed in the OT, no words were spoken. What kind of husband or man is this?
The following week after my caesarean, he told me to take turns at night to feed baby. Wow.
He called me an old mother dog, “lao mu gou” because of my breast. It’s because of the pregnancy right? How cruel. but he thought it was funny. I am already feeling pretty low confidence because of some body changes and he couldn’t be more sensitive.
slippery floor, rainy days, uneven steps, etc. never offered his arms for support when i was heavily preggy. ok never mind so be it lor. what disgust me was when we were at the gynae's consultation room, he pretended to hold me arms so bloody tight when i had to step down one bloody step.
Wanted to fill in some forms, turned to me and asked me when is the date that we got married. I was shocked. So I replied, “The date of @*#^@#^”. He then opened the envelope and took a look at the marriage certificate. “Oh, xx of June, 1 day before your birthday.”. I was in BIGGER shock. I said, “You really forgotten?” He said, “No what, you forgot yourself. I asked you, you also couldn’t answer me.” I said, “No, I didn’t answer you because I thought you were joking! You were the one who chose the date because you said its easy to remember because its 1 day before my birthday!”
WITH HIS EYES WIDE AND BIG, still denying.... “No lah, I just needed to confirm the date what. What’s wrong??!!” I said, “Why you deny?? Just admit that you forgotten lah. Why so many excuses??” Pointing at the marriage cert, he told me that he just needed to know the year. With him buay song, scolded me, “YOU JUST WANT TO NAIL MY FAULT”. Like what the fuck. I don’t know how he reason things. He forgot. He deny. I sad. I ask. I want to nail his fault??? What nonsense??
How many excuses can you guys spot already?
No matter what we may argue about, it always gets messy because of his denial, ego and imagination.
Once, saw a porn history at his laptop.(i was at week 36 preggy) Asked him, deny and GOT ANGRY WITH ME?? Like what the (@(*!!@???? Shouldn’t he convince me or something?? Ok never mind. Deny again. Said it was his colleague who had borrowed his laptop, surfed it. Before this excuse, he said it mustve been the free movie website who had ENTERED IT in his com. YA right.
I also watch movie from that website, why it never happen to me? And even if there is, it should be pop up or what right? How could it be in his history. Don’t know what to tell me liao, quickly went to delete his history. Every time i lend his laptop, there’s always no history. I said why so strange, you told me YOU ALWAYS make sure you delete your history after u do internet banking what.
Why this afternoon after u paid some bills, u didn’t delete leh?? “AIYA I FORGOT LAH!” full of BS. I should’ve quickly find out the date of viewing the website before he deleted it away. Cause since he said it was his colleague who surfed it. (his last day at the office before his leave so i would’ve known the truth) Another bs story. Who would surf porn at a busy MRT station???????????????????????????? IM NOT STUPID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maid issue.
Who left the door unlocked? He did. Even though maid was the one who did it. My story too long already so forget the details. Bought food for the maid, never even ask me if I want anything. Whatever the maid done, he’s always covering up for her. One day, he kept showing me unhappy face. I kept trying to lighten up things, but he still buay song. Said he got headache. Fine.
I offered medicine. Rejected. I offered pepsi. Drank. Still not happy i don’t know why. So he went to take a nap. Woke up, still cant be bothered with me. AS SOON AS HE STEPPED out of our bedroom, saw the maid at the staircase, I heard talking and laughter. When he came back, I asked him what was the conversation about. He told me he joked with the maid if she wanted to take care of the baby, and both of them laughed.
Wth. I said, whole day kept showing me face, i was like a dog kept trying to talk to him but get only, “hmm. Ahh.” I don’t think they have anything going on, or at least i feel so. He once told me if i think that the maid looked like an ape. I said he’s being mean.
He has been very unreasonable lately. He never coax me, not even in the slightest bit. He said self-soothe. I told him what??? I just wanted some love and concern from you and u told me to self soothe?? We haven’t hug nor kiss for many months already. And one night when i wanted to kiss his lips, he like, HMM, WOW. Pretend to lick and enjoy it. So pretentious right? he told me how to feel. Don’t feel this don’t feel that. Your too sensitive. You shouldn’t this. I had enough.
His sleep is more important than me. It’s been only less that 3 weeks after my op but he had shown his temper to me because he had to wake up at times to feed the crying baby. Asked me not to eat this or that, I thought ok at least he still cares. Then I suspect something. But I had to ask in a sly way cause he’ll never ever admit. True enough, it’s not because of me nor my confinement, he’s worried about. But because I’m breast feeding our baby! I am such a happy wife! He started smoking near me after delivery. Ya, you guessed it. Because baby is no longer in me. So hack care. Used to say, “eh eh, I’m smoking, don’t come near me.” How worthy am I!
Told me he’s going to have sex the next day. Gonna get some condoms blah blah blah. I said anything lah. He kept saying he’s gonna to gonna to. Ok lor. Whole day kept talking about it. Ok next day arrived already still talking about it. Then suddenly some time in the afternoon, said, “ i think lets not do it today. I don’t feel good with the baby in the room.” Actually I already see it coming lah. I no longer interest him already what. I said forget your excuses lah.
When will the baby NOT be in the room and who will take care of her??” He said my mom. I said ya ya, you know she played mah-jong whole night now knocked out in her bedroom. You don’t want to have sex then just say. Why give excuse. Then he said, “ok lah if you want it then i’ll go get condoms.” WTF. Now its me??? I said not like i die die want to but don’t give excuse if you’ve lost the mood lah! Damn funny.
thanks for reading my crappy married life. feel betta now.
The following week after my caesarean, he told me to take turns at night to feed baby. Wow.
He called me an old mother dog, “lao mu gou” because of my breast. It’s because of the pregnancy right? How cruel. but he thought it was funny. I am already feeling pretty low confidence because of some body changes and he couldn’t be more sensitive.
slippery floor, rainy days, uneven steps, etc. never offered his arms for support when i was heavily preggy. ok never mind so be it lor. what disgust me was when we were at the gynae's consultation room, he pretended to hold me arms so bloody tight when i had to step down one bloody step.
Wanted to fill in some forms, turned to me and asked me when is the date that we got married. I was shocked. So I replied, “The date of @*#^@#^”. He then opened the envelope and took a look at the marriage certificate. “Oh, xx of June, 1 day before your birthday.”. I was in BIGGER shock. I said, “You really forgotten?” He said, “No what, you forgot yourself. I asked you, you also couldn’t answer me.” I said, “No, I didn’t answer you because I thought you were joking! You were the one who chose the date because you said its easy to remember because its 1 day before my birthday!”
WITH HIS EYES WIDE AND BIG, still denying.... “No lah, I just needed to confirm the date what. What’s wrong??!!” I said, “Why you deny?? Just admit that you forgotten lah. Why so many excuses??” Pointing at the marriage cert, he told me that he just needed to know the year. With him buay song, scolded me, “YOU JUST WANT TO NAIL MY FAULT”. Like what the fuck. I don’t know how he reason things. He forgot. He deny. I sad. I ask. I want to nail his fault??? What nonsense??
How many excuses can you guys spot already?
No matter what we may argue about, it always gets messy because of his denial, ego and imagination.
Once, saw a porn history at his laptop.(i was at week 36 preggy) Asked him, deny and GOT ANGRY WITH ME?? Like what the (@(*!!@???? Shouldn’t he convince me or something?? Ok never mind. Deny again. Said it was his colleague who had borrowed his laptop, surfed it. Before this excuse, he said it mustve been the free movie website who had ENTERED IT in his com. YA right.
I also watch movie from that website, why it never happen to me? And even if there is, it should be pop up or what right? How could it be in his history. Don’t know what to tell me liao, quickly went to delete his history. Every time i lend his laptop, there’s always no history. I said why so strange, you told me YOU ALWAYS make sure you delete your history after u do internet banking what.
Why this afternoon after u paid some bills, u didn’t delete leh?? “AIYA I FORGOT LAH!” full of BS. I should’ve quickly find out the date of viewing the website before he deleted it away. Cause since he said it was his colleague who surfed it. (his last day at the office before his leave so i would’ve known the truth) Another bs story. Who would surf porn at a busy MRT station???????????????????????????? IM NOT STUPID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Maid issue.
Who left the door unlocked? He did. Even though maid was the one who did it. My story too long already so forget the details. Bought food for the maid, never even ask me if I want anything. Whatever the maid done, he’s always covering up for her. One day, he kept showing me unhappy face. I kept trying to lighten up things, but he still buay song. Said he got headache. Fine.
I offered medicine. Rejected. I offered pepsi. Drank. Still not happy i don’t know why. So he went to take a nap. Woke up, still cant be bothered with me. AS SOON AS HE STEPPED out of our bedroom, saw the maid at the staircase, I heard talking and laughter. When he came back, I asked him what was the conversation about. He told me he joked with the maid if she wanted to take care of the baby, and both of them laughed.
Wth. I said, whole day kept showing me face, i was like a dog kept trying to talk to him but get only, “hmm. Ahh.” I don’t think they have anything going on, or at least i feel so. He once told me if i think that the maid looked like an ape. I said he’s being mean.
He has been very unreasonable lately. He never coax me, not even in the slightest bit. He said self-soothe. I told him what??? I just wanted some love and concern from you and u told me to self soothe?? We haven’t hug nor kiss for many months already. And one night when i wanted to kiss his lips, he like, HMM, WOW. Pretend to lick and enjoy it. So pretentious right? he told me how to feel. Don’t feel this don’t feel that. Your too sensitive. You shouldn’t this. I had enough.
His sleep is more important than me. It’s been only less that 3 weeks after my op but he had shown his temper to me because he had to wake up at times to feed the crying baby. Asked me not to eat this or that, I thought ok at least he still cares. Then I suspect something. But I had to ask in a sly way cause he’ll never ever admit. True enough, it’s not because of me nor my confinement, he’s worried about. But because I’m breast feeding our baby! I am such a happy wife! He started smoking near me after delivery. Ya, you guessed it. Because baby is no longer in me. So hack care. Used to say, “eh eh, I’m smoking, don’t come near me.” How worthy am I!
Told me he’s going to have sex the next day. Gonna get some condoms blah blah blah. I said anything lah. He kept saying he’s gonna to gonna to. Ok lor. Whole day kept talking about it. Ok next day arrived already still talking about it. Then suddenly some time in the afternoon, said, “ i think lets not do it today. I don’t feel good with the baby in the room.” Actually I already see it coming lah. I no longer interest him already what. I said forget your excuses lah.
When will the baby NOT be in the room and who will take care of her??” He said my mom. I said ya ya, you know she played mah-jong whole night now knocked out in her bedroom. You don’t want to have sex then just say. Why give excuse. Then he said, “ok lah if you want it then i’ll go get condoms.” WTF. Now its me??? I said not like i die die want to but don’t give excuse if you’ve lost the mood lah! Damn funny.
thanks for reading my crappy married life. feel betta now.
