My mother-in-law, Mdm L rom hell

[babymoo]

Guess wat... My mother in law is the same... She got money to go holiday go buy all shit no money for son to get married. When son in debt no money to help. In the end I'm the one who help but wat she said in the end... She blamed is me who taught my hubby to gamble, controlled him don let him go Hm c parents, taught him to talk bak to parents... When my sister in law give birth... She called my mother n said" u dunno wat evil things ur daughter do behind... Married 5 yrs can't give birth ( when she know problem is with hubby) don let her son go Hm "

And the moment she know I'm moving house, she came to my house to choose wat she wan, even my plants , mirror, wall clock r not spared... Always aiming my branded bags... Saying hw her son ignoring her... Really all these mother in laws r damn shit... Pardon me to say tt... They rather lose a son then to gain daughter...

And yes !!! She's born in tiger... Whom not supposed to step into bridal rm... Nw leaving us with no kids for so many yrs

Omg! Our MIL are so unlike, no kidding! She is born in the year of the Tiger? Mine is.

The car incident is similar. But that's what his dad will do to us. Borrow K's car to go 'cheong'at old men's club and return with empty tank and low cash card value and dirty car. Anyway, L doesn't have a driving license so no excuse for her to use. What's worst, she gets extremely crazy when K bought me a car. So K has his own, and me another car. She was jumping mad! And of course with her sacarstic indirect hints again. K has promised me that my car will not be loan to his dad. Phew. His mother, L has been dropping many hints about his dad borrowing one of our cars, but all these were fallen on deaf ears. K told his mother that they can afford to buy a small Japanese car if they want to. L blamed his dad saying that daddy doesn't want to drive Japanese cars cause daddy used to drive European cars.

Next was the money tree incident. Here we are alike again. I didn't know K never has his Hep B jab when he was young until recently when we underwent the body checkup. Omg! And K told me because that time they couldn't afford it, mummy was poor. Crap! If you read my earlier postings, you were understand why I say she's crap! She's so rich ok but she's just stingy and spend on the wrong things like on her gambling and her slimming sessions at bottomslim and diamond peeling facials (she's still fat ass & still has an irritating face) and shes gets jealous and tell me in the face that im so lucky cos i have husband that supported me when she knows that i uses SKII or even when i go for manicure sessions. Crazy or what?!!

And she always tell us that so and so's son very good, always give the mummy money to play mahjong, so and so's son very good, give the mother the credit card to use. Seriously wonder how much money she requires. K gives her 1.5K every month. Not enough?? Don't forget she sold her HUDC for $900K, bought a 3 bedroom for $200+K, and say renovation works cost her $30K (she uses all the low quality materials, it's all falling apart now when she's only staying there for 3 years). Where did all the rest of the money go to? She has many blue-chips stock, many! I cannot even afford one blue-chip!!

This is how she treat her son. K bought himself a limited addtion half gold Rolex watch many years ago. He already has a stainless steel Rolex that was given to him by grandma when he graduated. His parents were very sore about the new watch. Note that his dad used to have many Rolexs and drives European cars too. So life shouldnt be that bad for them.

This is what happened. After K got his watch, his dad went to buy the same model watch but stainless steel and of course not the limited addition, it cost him 10+K. My husband's new watch cost 12K. And K only bought it for awhile, haven't even worn it for a month. His mother, L for many weeks have been coming out with all excuses for K to swop his watch with his dad. Reason: 1) daddy didn't like it. 2) daddy say the stainless steel doesn't match his gold chunky ring. L claimed that she brought daddy to many jewellery shops to try to look for a suitable white gold ring but daddy didnt like those rings. 3) L said that the stainless steel watch looks younger on K than the half gold. 4) L said that daddy has been pestering her to get K's watch and she said daddy is giving her hell. Then why buy?? Its 10k that we are talking, not hundreds. So they bought it with intentions of swopping with the son?? Please note that his daddy has already a half gold Tag Huer watch. I'm not sure if it's really gold but it sure get that color.

In the end, K said he can lend daddy the watch to wear during CNY. Then the Rolex bracelet too loose. So they have to remove one gold bar. After passing the watch to his dad through L. The watch is now sitting happily on his dad's wrist. No word of returning.

The wedding - old wives tales that people shouldnt sit on a wedding couples brand new bed because it will cause them to always argue and not being able to have a child. Up till now, we kids and K and I always gets into fiery arguments. All because L sat and bounced on my brand new bed because it's a Simmons and she never tried it before? I choose to believe that. Anyway, now that we moved far away from her, the fengshui here is very good. Our moods are so good that K even commented that we are always very happy. Of course she's not happy la.

 

[babymoo]

I'm not staying with her... Later when I reach Hm I key in my 2nd part of story haha... Too lengthy hard to type on phone... We bought a car le... She's so pizzed tt time... The story just nw I type happen 5+ yrs ago... So can u imagine wat I had being going thru?? Haha... Cos of her I hit with depression 2X....

So are you staying together with her now? If no, did you hand her a set of your house keys? Go buy a car but don't let her know. Hide it from her.

 

[babymoo]

after i get married i tot tt my ordeal will end but sorry it doesnt end that. my hubby's brother gt a bitch as gf eventually turned into his wife. she keep eyeing on my hubby cos she noticed wat he wear, got him to send her hm, wanna pay for his 5 figure debts when she is only a gf then. in this world if a gal not interested in the guy will she b so generous n kind to pay for his 5 figure debts??

when cny coming my mother in law without informing us wanna bring his sister in law to my new house without my hubby n my knowledge. i forbid her to come up in the end my mother in law made a big fuss. she came up n qns me non stop saying she did nothing to me why i treat her this way. in the end i got so stressed up that i fainted. i was diagonised with depression following that. all cos of her leaving my hubby n i keep quarrelling after a yr of marriage and causes me to b in depression cos our relationship in strained. my hubby neglected me for 1.5yrs in the end i voice out n causes a divorce to stir up. eventually it was solved.

it was the 2nd time when his gambling debts got so uncontrolled that i went to file for divorce. it was then his mum was so delighted that we wanna get divorce. to get her motive achieve, she don allow us to move to her place cos we intending to sell the house to clear off his debts. in the end when her plan fails, she complains to my mum saying that i caused her son almost suicide and go into depression cos of the divorce. she even put all the gambling debts blames on me, eevrything she can blame she will blame. cannot give birth, son nv go hm, son gamble, watever u can think of. she even say i am rude to her when i nv even tok to her.

so in the end my mum allow us to shift back to her place despite already 5 ppl staying in the 4-rm flat. best part, when wanna move house she come n pick watever she wans, not asking us wat we wanna keep. wall clock, mirror, side table, tv.....n even my plants !!! i cant believe she's so cheapo. at first she agreed to let our boxes shift to her place as my mum place seriously not enuff place to put all my stuffs. on the day of my house moving, house movers come at 11am. at 9+, she changed her mind so sudden and don let our things shift into her place. BEST. after much talking by my hubby she only allow a little boxes to her place but my hubby got to torelate her nagging n complaining abt me for 1hr.

so in the end becos the rest of the boxes can only b placed in my mum living room. she came to my mum place and complain to my mum abt hw dirty the room become and oso hw those boxes had blocked her way tt she cant take her things out. no choice i have to find a storage place for all my boxes instead. she let me waste more $$ to get another batch of movers to send to the storage house and best part is tt place is $300+/mth n i need to place there for 3yrs before my new house is here. on the day we wanna move she change her story again . she ask my hubby if over there arrange oki already a not and actually she can give us more space to put. thank god my hubby by then is already so pizzed with her tt he rejected flat into her face. HAHAA!!! imagine hw overjoyed i am at tt point of time?

now finally we have our own peace at my mum place but i guessed this peace wont last long for cny is coming round the corner again. imagine wat im facing since knowing my hubby which is 7yrs ago........haiz....

 

[peppermint]

Hi peppermint,

This is one of the few times my hubby spoke up for me!! before that, the whole 7 years i was like all of you. Living in my own house but hide in the room. I stopped talking to my MIL 1 year into our marriage, i don't even greet her. At that point, whatever bad happened, my MIL will say i did it. We had a few horrible fights and then i decided not talking to her was the best thing for me.

Hubby had a bad time cos stuck between the both of us but i stood my ground.I told him if he insisted on me talking to his mother, the end result will be me chasing her out of the house!! That woman also very hypocrite!! Dress up until very well, hangbag,earrings all must match! go downstairs only also must put eyeshadow!! She is 63yrs old lo!! But at home like shit! Don't even know how to do housework. if she cooks, i can tell u exactly what she ate cos sure got some drop on the stove or left in the sink. Boil water only my whole stove sure flooded! Stay with me 7 years she hold the broom less then 5 times. i thought she dunno where the broom is lo but in front of my hubby only she will go take it out until once when my sis-in-law came over she go and take broom ,i buay tahan i tell her no need to pretend to sweep la. At home we don't talk but in front of neighbours she will act like my good friend lo! i purposely just walk past her!! thats how bad things were.

She was the reason why i didn't want to have a kid but so called accident and now i have a 2 yr old gal. During my pregnancy she pretend make bird est for me but in my last few months of the pregnany and i was still mopping the floor in my executive apartment she also walk past me what! Rubbish lo!

He own daughter came bk to singapore for 2 years and bought a 3 bedroom condo also never ask her to go stay with her even tough she knows how bad things are with us!! I think she also cannot tahan the mother!

Sorry for being long winded. Must let go wen i get a chance afterall i suffered for 7 years!!! haha! AND NO WAY IS SHE GETTING OUR HOUSE KEYS!

She is not gonna be invited for our housewarmng but unfortunately, my sis-in-law is gonna be back for CNY and will be staying with us so being so insensitive will sure ask the mom over for reunion one!

Hiyo, that L also the same. Everything also must match - in her sense, bad dress sense. Infront of other relatives, she's always behaves like she's very nice and always thinking of me. Twice, she came back from holiday and got me a blouse and she said she bought the same design for grandma, but she gave me the priority to choose the color. Geez, what is she implying? Grandma and me, same age?? I threw the blouse away and my husband is aware.

Whenever we are over at her house on Sundays, she will pretend to be busy with housework. Using some cloth to clean the floor with her feet or should I say just dancing around with it. And she dare to comment that grandma is dirty. grandma said she doesn't do housework, but only on Sunday when we are there.

You know what?? I have learnt how to be as sly as her, although disgusting but it helps because you will anger her even more. Seriously! When my birthday, she will make bird's nest for me (just a bowl). Then she will hint to my husband that she spent a bomb buying bird's nest. In other words, asking for more money from my husband. Then the husband will be soft and think that his mummy so nice to me and give her more money. And my little bowl cost her a bomb?? I know she bought most of it for herself but she use my birthday as an excuse to stock up for herself to eat. Tell you, her complexion is so much better than me, she don't even have open pores!! And actually if I could, I will throw away the bird's nest because she has such a evil heart, I don't know what else she added. When I'm infront of others, I will treat L, that hellish bitch as nice as I could. Like serve her food (I will get her the fattest piece, etc. Which I know she doesn't like but no choice but to eat because other people are looking and it will be rude for her not to eat what the 'thoughful' DIL served her , laugh with her (even so it's so some crappy jokes). Fake but cannot don't do. She do it for others to see, you also must.

Kaykay2009, you shouldn't give others the chance to say that she's right about you that you are not a good DIL even though you are not. These MILs are very good at making up stories to show what a sorry state they are in and people will pity her because they don't really see what actually happened behind closed doors.

 

[peppermint]

Hiyo, that L also the same. Everything also must match - in her sense, bad dress sense. Infront of other relatives, she's always behaves like she's very nice and always thinking of me. Twice, she came back from holiday and got me a blouse and she said she bought the same design for grandma, but she gave me the priority to choose the color. Geez, what is she implying? Grandma and me, same age?? I threw the blouse away and my husband is aware.

Whenever we are over at her house on Sundays, she will pretend to be busy with housework. Using some cloth to clean the floor with her feet or should I say just dancing around with it. And she dare to comment that grandma is dirty. grandma said she doesn't do housework, but only on Sunday when we are there.

You know what?? I have learnt how to be as sly as her, although disgusting but it helps because you will anger her even more. Seriously! When my birthday, she will make bird's nest for me (just a bowl). Then she will hint to my husband that she spent a bomb buying bird's nest. In other words, asking for more money from my husband. Then the husband will be soft and think that his mummy so nice to me and give her more money. And my little bowl cost her a bomb?? I know she bought most of it for herself but she use my birthday as an excuse to stock up for herself to eat. Tell you, her complexion is so much better than me, she dont't even have open pores!! And actually if I could, I will throw away the bird's nest because she has such a evil heart, I dont't know what else she added. When I'm infront of others, I will treat L, that hellish bitch as nice as I could. Like serve her food (I will get her the fattest piece, etc. Which I know she doesn't like but no choice but to eat because other people are looking and it will be rude for her not to eat what the 'thoughful' daughter in law served her , laugh with her (even so it's so some crappy jokes). Fake but cannot dont't do. She do it for others to see, you also must.

Kaykay2009, you shouldn't give others the chance to say that she's right about you that you are not a good daughter in law even though you are not. These MILs are very good at making up stories to show what a sorry state they are in and people will pity her because they dont't really see what actually happened behind closed doors.

And I never like CNY too. Even since I got married, I never enjoyed CNY. 15 days of CNY, I never have a day of my own unless it's a work day. Those off days will have to spend at each aunts and uncles' and now even at the cousins' house!!!! Even so when we all already meet and greet on the first day at grandma's house. The same routine - visit, play blackjack, the rest play mj, go CNY dinner and the lo hei. And the worst part I hate is the MIL tags along at these occasions!! Her face already pissed me off and when she open her mouth... To hell it goes!

Worst is, my husband also insisted that we should invite the same gang over. I always make my MIL play MJ so that she wouldn't walk around and kapo my house. Many times, she insisted on washing the guests' cups for me when I repeated many times that she don't have to. While she's washing, her eyes very busy checking out the things I have in the kitchen. Guess what?? The cups that she washed, there are still lipstick stains in them!

 

[peppermint]

I'm not staying with her... Later when I reach Hm I key in my 2nd part of story haha... Too lengthy hard to type on phone... We bought a car ... She's so pizzed that time... The story just now I type happen 5+ yrs ago... So can you imagine what I had being going thru?? Haha... Cos of her I hit with depression 2X....

Even so I am not staying with her, my weekly ordeal is enough to kill. I have known her for 10 years already and no, I still have nothing good to say about her. And should I get depression during my pregnancy, it's all because of her.

 

[peppermint]

Guess what... My mother in law is the same... She got money to go holiday go buy all shit no money for son to get married. When son in debt no money to help. In the end I'm the one who help but what she said in the end... She blamed is me who taught my hubby to gamble, controlled him dont let him go Hm c parents, taught him to talk bak to parents... When my sister in law give birth... She called my mother n said" you dont know what evil things your daughter do behind... Married 5 yrs can't give birth ( when she know problem is with hubby) dont let her son go Hm "

And the moment she know I'm moving house, she came to my house to choose what she want, even my plants , mirror, wall clock r not spared... Always aiming my branded bags... Saying hw her son ignoring her... Really all these mother in laws r damn shit... Pardon me to say that... They rather lose a son then to gain daughter...

And yes !!! She's born in tiger... Whom not supposed to step into bridal rm... now leaving us with no kids for so many yrs

Great! This is the second Tiger that I know who is a evil MIL. Does she like to play MJ? Mine does. And she goes to illegal gambling cruise at batam and I suspect, she hangs out at the casinos. She goes Genting and star cruise so often and she claimed that she got points to go cos she's some VIP diamond or gold membership.

 

[peppermint]

after i get married i tot tt my ordeal will end but sorry it doesnt end that. my hubby's brother gt a bitch as gf eventually turned into his wife. she keep eyeing on my hubby cos she noticed wat he wear, got him to send her hm, wanna pay for his 5 figure debts when she is only a gf then. in this world if a gal not interested in the guy will she b so generous n kind to pay for his 5 figure debts??

when cny coming my mother in law without informing us wanna bring his sister in law to my new house without my hubby n my knowledge. i forbid her to come up in the end my mother in law made a big fuss. she came up n qns me non stop saying she did nothing to me why i treat her this way. in the end i got so stressed up that i fainted. i was diagonised with depression following that. all cos of her leaving my hubby n i keep quarrelling after a yr of marriage and causes me to b in depression cos our relationship in strained. my hubby neglected me for 1.5yrs in the end i voice out n causes a divorce to stir up. eventually it was solved.

it was the 2nd time when his gambling debts got so uncontrolled that i went to file for divorce. it was then his mum was so delighted that we wanna get divorce. to get her motive achieve, she don allow us to move to her place cos we intending to sell the house to clear off his debts. in the end when her plan fails, she complains to my mum saying that i caused her son almost suicide and go into depression cos of the divorce. she even put all the gambling debts blames on me, eevrything she can blame she will blame. cannot give birth, son nv go hm, son gamble, watever u can think of. she even say i am rude to her when i nv even tok to her.

so in the end my mum allow us to shift back to her place despite already 5 ppl staying in the 4-rm flat. best part, when wanna move house she come n pick watever she wans, not asking us wat we wanna keep. wall clock, mirror, side table, tv.....n even my plants !!! i cant believe she's so cheapo. at first she agreed to let our boxes shift to her place as my mum place seriously not enuff place to put all my stuffs. on the day of my house moving, house movers come at 11am. at 9+, she changed her mind so sudden and don let our things shift into her place. BEST. after much talking by my hubby she only allow a little boxes to her place but my hubby got to torelate her nagging n complaining abt me for 1hr.

so in the end becos the rest of the boxes can only b placed in my mum living room. she came to my mum place and complain to my mum abt hw dirty the room become and oso hw those boxes had blocked her way tt she cant take her things out. no choice i have to find a storage place for all my boxes instead. she let me waste more $$ to get another batch of movers to send to the storage house and best part is tt place is $300+/mth n i need to place there for 3yrs before my new house is here. on the day we wanna move she change her story again . she ask my hubby if over there arrange oki already a not and actually she can give us more space to put. thank god my hubby by then is already so pizzed with her tt he rejected flat into her face. HAHAA!!! imagine hw overjoyed i am at tt point of time?

now finally we have our own peace at my mum place but i guessed this peace wont last long for cny is coming round the corner again. imagine wat im facing since knowing my hubby which is 7yrs ago........haiz....

Oh my, I'm so sorry to hear that. But at least you moved out now and you are staying with your mum.which I doubt she will be able to do much during CNY. Let's hope our CNY will be a better one.

 

[Kaykay2009]

And I never like CNY too. Even since I got married, I never enjoyed CNY. 15 days of CNY, I never have a day of my own unless it's a work day. Those off days will have to spend at each aunts and uncles' and now even at the cousins' house!!!! Even so when we all already meet and greet on the first day at grandma's house. The same routine - visit, play blackjack, the rest play mj, go CNY dinner and the lo hei. And the worst part I hate is the MIL tags along at these occasions!! Her face already pissed me off and when she open her mouth... To hell it goes!

Worst is, my husband also insisted that we should invite the same gang over. I always make my MIL play MJ so that she wouldn't walk around and kapo my house. Many times, she insisted on washing the guests' cups for me when I repeated many times that she don't have to. While she's washing, her eyes very busy checking out the things I have in the kitchen. Guess what?? The cups that she washed, there are still lipstick stains in them!

Haha! All the horrible MIL's seem the same! my MIL like o keep those microwave-able containers and always end up got mold on them cos she never wash them properly.My MIL now that she's renting a room outside, every 1st of the month she will call hubby and ask for the rental $$. not that she's broke but she just thinks its her way of punishing her son! Even when my sis-in-law passed her $3000 when she came back, she told her own daughter off for chipping in when she already made er own son pay for the rent. Mind you lo! my sis-in-law quote high flyer lo, she makes $10k plus/month and is divorced without kids! both hubby and me are working but now we are paying for mortage, her rental and we have a 2 year old daughter to feed lo. she somehow has this mindset that we are very rich but just don't want to give her any $$$. Sis-in-law gives her $1000/mth an hubby used to give her $500/mth when she was still staying with us and everything in the house we pay. The whole 7 years she atying with us never even se her buy a spoon or anything!! Now hubby just pays for rent and refuse t give her any more $$$.

Best is her own brother also know her pattern. don't even wanna let her stay in his house even though he has an extra room. When she shift out he know how to call us and advise us to let her move in say what must be filial etc etc. Then we shoot him back ask him to let my MIL stay with him he say inconvenient lo.Rubbish!!

i very convenient la hor??? lol!

 

[peppermint]

I am glad that I found listeners to share my (and our) stories.

Sometimes, it frustrate me because people doesnt understand the difficult situation we have to go through. They in turn said that we are difficult DILs and who doesn't care for someone who bore and look after your husband all these years. I suppose these are the people who are lucky enough to have nice mother-in-laws or the mild ones. Lucky you!

It's not easy to have a one-on-one talk with the mother-in-law, especially those from hell. Like how and what to say?

My mother-in-law, Mdm L used to tell us that her nephew's wife, Jade is such a good DIL, that she buy all the furniture for her MIL's house, etc. All these while, I kept quiet. Neither did I complain to my husband about what his mother said. And I think I did the right thing! One year after their marriage, their family had an ugly argument. So bad that Jade and husband moved out, leaving just the mil at her house. And I don't see Jade and husband at family gatherings anymore. Even on CNY, I only see Jade's husband and he only stays for a short while, claiming that he has work to do. And of course, Mdm L stopped praising them. They have been married for 1 year and such ugly stuff surface so quickly and I thought she's wonderfu DIL?? No offense to you, Jade (if you happened to read this). I know for a fact that it's not you being difficult.

I took this opportunity to tell my husband about what his mother is trying to do by telling me how good Jade was. I also took this opportunity to talk to my man and he understands. He appreciate that I didn't raise my voice at his mother or make an ugly scene for the family, but he tried to talk me into getting to know his mother better - cos he thinks his mother is not as bad as she behaves (which I know now he's taking back his words because he experienced what a bitch she is) I told him she always makes me uneasy and I find it hard to talk to her - which I quoted him examples - evidences . I told him that I will keep my distance but will still give her the respect - he agrees.

Some tips for my dear DIL khakis.
- Try to play her game. She's acting nice to you for others to see, you do the same.
- Do not complain every single thing to your husband. He will find you too long-winded and in turn dislike you.
- Find the right opportunity and hit back 'nicely' and gracefully (to your husband only) with a big bang. Show him the big picture, also to brainwash him. I know it's hard to keep your sanity like me but there's where I turn to forums like this and friends for a listening ear.
- Never never rebuke his mother even though she's a hell because she can and is able to give you hell even more when you does that.
- have a one-one-one talk with her may not help because she can see your weak points. Even though she claim she understand and promise not to do it the next time, all love and kisses, she will still use your weak points to hurt you even more. And not forgetting, not all mother-in-laws are open for such talk.

Good luck DILs!

I hope it helps because I'm still working on these tips. Anyone with any more tips? Also feel free to share with us your stories. It willbe better to let off your steam.

 

[peppermint]

Haha! All the horrible MIL's seem the same! my MIL like o keep those microwave-able containers and always end up got mold on them cos she never wash them properly.My MIL now that she's renting a room outside, every 1st of the month she will call hubby and ask for the rental $$. not that she's broke but she just thinks its her way of punishing her son! Even when my sis-in-law passed her $3000 when she came back, she told her own daughter off for chipping in when she already made er own son pay for the rent. Mind you lo! my sis-in-law quote high flyer lo, she makes $10k plus/month and is divorced without kids! both hubby and me are working but now we are paying for mortage, her rental and we have a 2 year old daughter to feed lo. she somehow has this mindset that we are very rich but just don't want to give her any $$$. Sis-in-law gives her $1000/mth an hubby used to give her $500/mth when she was still staying with us and everything in the house we pay. The whole 7 years she atying with us never even se her buy a spoon or anything!! Now hubby just pays for rent and refuse t give her any more $$$.

Best is her own brother also know her pattern. don't even wanna let her stay in his house even though he has an extra room. When she shift out he know how to call us and advise us to let her move in say what must be filial etc etc. Then we shoot him back ask him to let my MIL stay with him he say inconvenient lo.Rubbish!!

i very convenient la hor??? lol!

Good job!! Hahaha

 

[xiaodaisy]

my MIL like o keep those microwave-able containers and always end up got mold on them cos she never wash them properly.ubbish!!

same !! but after she leave , i will dump them into rubbish chute and wen she ask again , i say donno where it gone , ask ur son LOL !!!!

 

[babymoo]

Wow !!! My MIL likes to ask those 3 GI 6 por go her place to play mj n she purposely hang up a family photo in the living rm to hao lian.... N she like to go genting a lot oso.... Keep claiming no money but keep visiting genting oso... Lol... Seems like our in law is damn alike hahahahhaha !!!

Great! This is the second Tiger that I know who is a evil MIL. Does she like to play MJ? Mine does. And she goes to illegal gambling cruise at batam and I suspect, she hangs out at the casinos. She goes Genting and star cruise so often and she claimed that she got points to go cos she's some VIP diamond or gold membership.

 

[babymoo]

I hope I can go thru ivf at cny to skip the cny hahaha... N I keep reminding my hubby... 2ww for ivf very very impt... Cannot STRESS hahahah.... I hope I no need to face her this cny... Let me have a peaceful one...

Oh my, I'm so sorry to hear that. But at least you moved out now and you are staying with your mum.which I doubt she will be able to do much during CNY. Let's hope our CNY will be a better one.

 

[babymoo]

Same here !!! She think we r damn rich just cos I have a few branded bags n I have a lot of pretty stuffs... She keep thinking is my hubby who don wanna give her money too..... So nw she keep digging from her elder son till my hubby sister in law cannot take it oso hahahah !!!

Haha! All the horrible MIL's seem the same! my MIL like o keep those microwave-able containers and always end up got mold on them cos she never wash them properly.My MIL now that she's renting a room outside, every 1st of the month she will call hubby and ask for the rental $$. not that she's broke but she just thinks its her way of punishing her son! Even when my sis-in-law passed her $3000 when she came back, she told her own daughter off for chipping in when she already made er own son pay for the rent. Mind you lo! my sis-in-law quote high flyer lo, she makes $10k plus/month and is divorced without kids! both hubby and me are working but now we are paying for mortage, her rental and we have a 2 year old daughter to feed lo. she somehow has this mindset that we are very rich but just don't want to give her any $$$. Sis-in-law gives her $1000/mth an hubby used to give her $500/mth when she was still staying with us and everything in the house we pay. The whole 7 years she atying with us never even se her buy a spoon or anything!! Now hubby just pays for rent and refuse t give her any more $$$.

Best is her own brother also know her pattern. don't even wanna let her stay in his house even though he has an extra room. When she shift out he know how to call us and advise us to let her move in say what must be filial etc etc. Then we shoot him back ask him to let my MIL stay with him he say inconvenient lo.Rubbish!!

i very convenient la hor??? lol!

 

[babymoo]

Acting nice to MIL first does really helps cos I have been doing that to her all these yrs. every of occasions I will find places n treat her gd food till she herself make nonsense. Slowly I open up one by one telling my hubby by letting my MIL'd fox tail come out. So nw my hubby was so angry tt e don even giving his mum allowance cos she will only spend away on junks. Hubby at first will side his mum but lucky thing it took me only 1/2 yrs to let hubby realize his mum actions. Though he still will not Tok back to her but at least he understands. So it took me another 4 yrs+ to let him really give up on his mum hahahahha!!! We r not bad by making all these things happen but it's all her own doings tt these thins r happening. And best part rite nw his elder bro oso moved out already and not going Hm oso...,
Nw cos of tt stupid bitch sister in law creating trouble his elder brother come n quarrel with my hubby his mum even more angry. Cos she is there saying " die already later c 2 women fighting at her funeral" N just cos tt woman give her a grand daughter she's giving me a hell time.

I am glad that I found listeners to share my (and our) stories.

Sometimes, it frustrate me because people doesnt understand the difficult situation we have to go through. They in turn said that we are difficult DILs and who doesn't care for someone who bore and look after your husband all these years. I suppose these are the people who are lucky enough to have nice mother-in-laws or the mild ones. Lucky you!

It's not easy to have a one-on-one talk with the mother-in-law, especially those from hell. Like how and what to say?

My mother-in-law, Mdm L used to tell us that her nephew's wife, Jade is such a good DIL, that she buy all the furniture for her MIL's house, etc. All these while, I kept quiet. Neither did I complain to my husband about what his mother said. And I think I did the right thing! One year after their marriage, their family had an ugly argument. So bad that Jade and husband moved out, leaving just the mil at her house. And I don't see Jade and husband at family gatherings anymore. Even on CNY, I only see Jade's husband and he only stays for a short while, claiming that he has work to do. And of course, Mdm L stopped praising them. They have been married for 1 year and such ugly stuff surface so quickly and I thought she's wonderfu DIL?? No offense to you, Jade (if you happened to read this). I know for a fact that it's not you being difficult.

I took this opportunity to tell my husband about what his mother is trying to do by telling me how good Jade was. I also took this opportunity to talk to my man and he understands. He appreciate that I didn't raise my voice at his mother or make an ugly scene for the family, but he tried to talk me into getting to know his mother better - cos he thinks his mother is not as bad as she behaves (which I know now he's taking back his words because he experienced what a bitch she is) I told him she always makes me uneasy and I find it hard to talk to her - which I quoted him examples - evidences . I told him that I will keep my distance but will still give her the respect - he agrees.

Some tips for my dear DIL khakis.
- Try to play her game. She's acting nice to you for others to see, you do the same.
- Do not complain every single thing to your husband. He will find you too long-winded and in turn dislike you.
- Find the right opportunity and hit back 'nicely' and gracefully (to your husband only) with a big bang. Show him the big picture, also to brainwash him. I know it's hard to keep your sanity like me but there's where I turn to forums like this and friends for a listening ear.
- Never never rebuke his mother even though she's a hell because she can and is able to give you hell even more when you does that.
- have a one-one-one talk with her may not help because she can see your weak points. Even though she claim she understand and promise not to do it the next time, all love and kisses, she will still use your weak points to hurt you even more. And not forgetting, not all mother-in-laws are open for such talk.

Good luck DILs!

I hope it helps because I'm still working on these tips. Anyone with any more tips? Also feel free to share with us your stories. It willbe better to let off your steam.

 

[Excited Mummy]

oh dear, i thought my MIL is bad.. but a no. of you have even worse MIL.
when i was only dating with my hubby, my MIL made nasty comment about my weight even though I'm within the BMI and not fat.
she also said and did other things which made me upset and strain our relationship.
have posted on another forum - mummies jan 2012...
i keep a distance from her and though i do greet her and make some small talk, i don't see her as often as my hubby.
we live nearer to his parents than my parents.

 

[ali50n]

Actually not all MIL born in Tiger are bad, is depend on character.

Although I have no problems with my mil, I have a collegue her character is just like ur mils n she is not born in Tiger.

She like to take advantage of ppl including collegues, like if u r good in baking she will want u to bake but she dun wanna come out money.

She also very stingy to her children, if her children want to food which cost less than $5 she also scold them n said money is very hard to earn. FYI, she is not poor her 1 month salary is more than $3k. Now her son is small, I will pity her future dil as we (collegues) cannot stand her dun say her dil.

 

[babymoo]

Oh ya n not forgetting my MIL likes to take fake LV and Other fake branded goods. Best part is her watch is a fake Chanel and when ppl ask her she still got the cheek to ans " oh it's Chanel" is like wtf sia... Im so ashamed to bring her out cos I'm taking original n she's taking all those fake LV and she still can tell me u got LV I oso have ....

And oso peppermint my MIL n urs r same age !!! Hahaha...So is same age tiger....

Ali50n: mayb age + tiger = same species.I'm not surprised if both of our MIL born around same timing

 

[xiaodaisy]

oh dear, i thought my MIL is bad.. but a no. of you have even worse MIL.
when i was only dating with my hubby, my MIL made nasty comment about my weight even though I'm within the BMI and not fat.
she also said and did other things which made me upset and strain our relationship.
have posted on another forum - mummies jan 2012...
i keep a distance from her and though i do greet her and make some small talk, i don't see her as often as my hubby.
we live nearer to his parents than my parents.

my mil almost same but she use another way like

'my son is very handsome last time de etc etc etc'

saying until like , i should be very blessed that her son married me

so i told her

'before i married ur son , i'm very young and pretty and slim also leh'

she keep quiet and change another topic LOL

sometimes , they always tink only their son is the best but nvr see how hard being wife is ..

lucky i only see her few times a year and wen i see her , i always hide very far to avoid talking to her .. =x