My mother-in-law, Mdm L rom hell

[peppermint]

Wow !!! My MIL likes to ask those 3 GI 6 por go her place to play mj n she purposely hang up a family photo in the living rm to hao lian.... N she like to go genting a lot oso.... Keep claiming no money but keep visiting genting oso... Lol... Seems like our in law is damn alike hahahahhaha !!!

Sorry - replied to the wrong post earlier. Wanted to reply to xiaodaisy's post.

 

[peppermint]

same !! but after she leave , i will dump them into rubbish chute and wen she ask again , i say donno where it gone , ask ur son LOL !!!!

I throw some of her ultra old Tupperware away too! That is whenever Mdm L made us bring home the chrysanthemum tea that she claimed she boiled. Oh well, it's only 600ml - enough for who to drink man?? Then she will say very loudly, "bring home to share la, you all should drink more cos weather no good.". How thoughtful of her right?? See, that's what i mean by her doing it for others to see only. Whenever my mum boils, she will make sure husband and I have at least two cups each. Anyway, I don't drink the stuff made or handled by Mdm L, maybe just make a little lip contact - that's just for show. But if i am back home, i will just leave it there for my husband to clear it. Who knows if she added black magic or what.

And you know what? I suspect the chrysanthemum tea is not boiled by Mdm L because it taste exactly as those I buy from Hock Hua ready-made tea. A couple of times, I caught some loopholes. Grandma will be surprised to know that Mdm L boiled chrysanthemum and grandma will casually question her when did she boiled it. Then there will be limited serving, grandparents didn't even get a cup.

Mdm L is a very lousy cook and lazy too. She can tell all of us that what for waste time and money to cook, just go out and pack is way much easier. Up till now, she cannot even made a proper agar agar. No kidding, even her son, my husband also 'suan' her into her face that for 30 over years (since my hubby was a kid) she still cannot make a good agar agar - those with coconut layer on the top. She is only making two layers and yet she still can't do it. Always her coconut layer and the green agar agar bottom will merge or slanted. So stupid right?? She said he rather go out and buy ready to eat ones - save her time.

 

[peppermint]

Wow !!! My MIL likes to ask those 3 GI 6 por go her place to play mj n she purposely hang up a family photo in the living rm to hao lian.... N she like to go genting a lot oso.... Keep claiming no money but keep visiting genting oso... Lol... Seems like our in law is damn alike hahahahhaha !!!

Maybe my mil knows your mil?? Hahah. Mdm L goes to people's house to play mj for the whole day! I think she 'hangs out' ard Bishan / Upper Thomson. She claimed that Aunty so and so will cook dinner, dessert and supper for the mj khakis. That Aunty so and so has a maid la, so lucky. She's hinting to us that she wants a maid. I suspect part of her reason why she shifted so near us the last time because she said after I give birth (supposedly I have a kid that time), she says the maid can over walk with baby whenever we go to work. She already prepared a single bed in her spare room. Say my maid can help her with housework.

I'm sure she wants to be a host and have her mj sessions at her own house but she can't because grandparents, her in-laws are there. She's been wanting to get rid of the older folks. Once, grandma even ran away from home because of her and the bitch said with crocodile tears that she didn't kick grandma out, that grandma likes to throw tantrum.

My mother-in-law always hints loudly (with me standing near her) to her son, my husband that daughters-in-laws will never get along with mothers-in-law. I kept quiet - act blur live longer. But wtf!! If neither party provokes the other, there's no such thing as not getting along. In her case, she is so stupid that asked for it!!

And you know how I managed to make her spill all her gambling habits at those illegal dens and how she spend her time gambling away after she retired?? I mentioned before that I don't talk to her right?? This time, I acted like an airhead and start throwing bimbotic questions abt casinos (at the right opportunity, say at dining table when everyone is seated together - my purpose is for them to listen, esp for her son). Mdm L got so excited that she talks none stop about it! Feeding us all her gambling incidents. My husband heard and he is disgusted with it. He didn't say but I can sense it. My husband works in the finance industry and most of his colleagues' family are rather well behaved, decent and such, different lifestyle from what his parents does. So it can be quite disgraceful for him. Not that they don't gamble but my in-laws are really the hard core gamblers. I can also sense that my husband talk more to my mum than to his mum. With my mum, they discussed almost everything like his work, the US economy, etc. With his mum, it's nothing but just listening to his mother's gossips.

 

[peppermint]

Wow !!! My MIL likes to ask those 3 GI 6 por go her place to play mj n she purposely hang up a family photo in the living rm to hao lian.... N she like to go genting a lot oso.... Keep claiming no money but keep visiting genting oso... Lol... Seems like our in law is damn alike hahahahhaha !!!

Oh ya, and she told us she know of this old lady at the casino that she gambled away her 3 bedroom flat. We were all shocked!! Then stupid me went to up ask her where is she going to stay then and Mdm L replied with that smirk look, "she went to stay with her son lo". Omg! Please don't do that to us.

 

[peppermint]

I hope I can go thru ivf at cny to skip the cny hahaha... N I keep reminding my hubby... 2ww for ivf very very impt... Cannot STRESS hahahah.... I hope I no need to face her this cny... Let me have a peaceful one...

Me too! I'm planning IVF in Jan because we wanted a dragon year baby but hubby said Jan is the festive season. I was like - er so?? He said he don't want me to be suffering during the festive season. Really??!! I almost wanting to tell him that he should priorities. Our family is more important than having to attends numerous houses and see the same faces ar each house and get so bloody tired during CNY period. Most likely you and I have to meet our mothers-in-law la unless she's not ard lo.

Good luck to both of us on IVF. Keep each other posted ya?

 

[peppermint]

my mil almost same but she use another way like

'my son is very handsome last time de etc etc etc'

saying until like , i should be very blessed that her son married me

so i told her

'before i married ur son , i'm very young and pretty and slim also leh'

she keep quiet and change another topic LOL

sometimes , they always tink only their son is the best but nvr see how hard being wife is ..

lucky i only see her few times a year and wen i see her , i always hide very far to avoid talking to her .. =x

Only a few times a year?!! Lucky you!! I see her every Sunday at lunch. *faint*

 

[peppermint]

Oh ya n not forgetting my MIL likes to take fake LV and Other fake branded goods. Best part is her watch is a fake Chanel and when ppl ask her she still got the cheek to ans " oh it's Chanel" is like wtf sia... Im so ashamed to bring her out cos I'm taking original n she's taking all those fake LV and she still can tell me u got LV I oso have ....

And oso peppermint my MIL n urs r same age !!! Hahaha...So is same age tiger....

Ali50n: mayb age + tiger = same species.I'm not surprised if both of our MIL born around same timing

I tell you, even should my mother-in-law carries the real stuff, it still looks fake!!!! Heheh heheh
First, mannerism
Second, posture
All gone down the drain.

 

[peppermint]

my mil almost same but she use another way like

'my son is very handsome last time de etc etc etc'

saying until like , i should be very blessed that her son married me

so i told her

'before i married ur son , i'm very young and pretty and slim also leh'

she keep quiet and change another topic LOL

sometimes , they always tink only their son is the best but nvr see how hard being wife is ..

lucky i only see her few times a year and wen i see her , i always hide very far to avoid talking to her .. =x

Oh ya, my husband said it infront of his mother and grandmother that I have a nice fortune nose. That I brought him luck. When I know him, he was just a junior officer. Then everything went on very very well and smoothly when we got together. Firstly, I don't really believe in this fortune nose thing because luck hadn't really been on my side for many years but since he said it, I just let be. You should see his mother's reaction. Hahaha. Jealous and disapproving of course!!!

 

[peppermint]

Actually not all MIL born in Tiger are bad, is depend on character.

Although I have no problems with my mil, I have a collegue her character is just like ur mils n she is not born in Tiger.

She like to take advantage of ppl including collegues, like if u r good in baking she will want u to bake but she dun wanna come out money.

She also very stingy to her children, if her children want to food which cost less than $5 she also scold them n said money is very hard to earn. FYI, she is not poor her 1 month salary is more than $3k. Now her son is small, I will pity her future dil as we (collegues) cannot stand her dun say her dil.

Good luck to your colleague's future DIL. Pity you that you have to work with her.

 

[peppermint]

oh dear, i thought my MIL is bad.. but a no. of you have even worse MIL.
when i was only dating with my hubby, my MIL made nasty comment about my weight even though I'm within the BMI and not fat.
she also said and did other things which made me upset and strain our relationship.
have posted on another forum - mummies jan 2012...
i keep a distance from her and though i do greet her and make some small talk, i don't see her as often as my hubby.
we live nearer to his parents than my parents.

Same same. And my mil is not slim either but she will comment abt me. Then she will get jealous whenever I lost some weight. Couple of times, my husband commented to Mdm L that I've lost weight. She was unhappy and her response, "no la, where got.".

You are staying near her? You bought a place near her or like my situation - she bought a place near you?? Has she been giving you problems? She has the keys to your house?

 

[xiaodaisy]

I throw some of her ultra old Tupperware away too! That is whenever Mdm L made us bring home the chrysanthemum tea that she claimed she boiled. Oh well, it's only 600ml - enough for who to drink man?? Then she will say very loudly, "bring home to share , you all should drink more cos weather no good.". How thoughtful of her right?? See, that's what i mean by her doing it for others to see only. Whenever my mum boils, she will make sure husband and I have at least two cups each. Anyway, I dont't drink the stuff made or handled by Mdm L, maybe just make a little lip contact - that's just for show. But if i am back home, i will just leave it there for my husband to clear it. Who knows if she added black magic or what.

And you know what? I suspect the chrysanthemum tea is not boiled by Mdm L because it taste exactly as those I buy from Hock Hua ready-made tea. A couple of times, I caught some loopholes. Grandma will be surprised to know that Mdm L boiled chrysanthemum and grandma will casually question her when did she boiled it. Then there will be limited serving, grandparents didn't even get a cup.

Mdm L is a very lousy cook and lazy too. She can tell all of us that what for waste time and money to cook, just go out and pack is way much easier. Up till now, she cannot even made a proper agar agar. No kidding, even her son, my husband also 'suan' her into her face that for 30 over years (since my hubby was a kid) she still cannot make a good agar agar - those with coconut layer on the top. She is only making two layers and yet she still can't do it. Always her coconut layer and the green agar agar bottom will merge or slanted. So stupid right?? She said he rather go out and buy ready to eat ones - save her time.

i throw alot of her stuffs LOL !! she dont stay with me yet she put her stuffs in my place , how sickening , machiam my place is her storeroom !! so i just throw until i clear all of her stuffs haha

my mil is not a great cook either , she LOVES to cook but her cooking is all bland , i know its healthy style but we totally cannot take it , esp my boys , they dread seeing her or go out eat with her , totally no freedom of eating what they like to eat or what they wanna drink

everytime she cook , i will eat 2 mouth of rice and wen she scoop 1 big bowl of soup which taste like plain water to me totally , i will nudge my hubby and he will pour away to basin wen his mom not looking LOL !!

i rather eat maggi mee den eat her food !! LOL

Only a few times a year?!! Lucky you!! I see her every Sunday at lunch. *faint*

usually will be once a year during cny , now i just move to my own place , she asked me if she can come stay over once a while ..

tell me how to say ''NO'' =.=''

Oh ya, my husband said it infront of his mother and grandmother that I have a nice fortune nose. That I brought him luck. When I know him, he was just a junior officer. Then everything went on very very well and smoothly when we got together. Firstly, I don't really believe in this fortune nose thing because luck hadn't really been on my side for many years but since he said it, I just let be. You should see his mother's reaction. Hahaha. Jealous and disapproving of course!!!

mil always praise her son in front of me only when her son is not around ..

tis yr happen to see her a few more times as we just move to new place and she coming over to say wat we lack and she sponsor for us ..

when she see her precious son handwash clothes for me , doing housework and cook for the me and the kids .. she comment ''my son really dote u so much , doing everything for u that he last time never did''

i told her ''if ur son wanna marry me , i tink its the way he should be helping out with me with all these stuff as wen we're dating , he knows very well i donno how to do all these , yet he choose to marry me den he have to do for me lor''

guess , his mom is just jealous as ur mil LOL !!

cos my hubby nvr did those for her and she is the one who still do all this for him afterall yet hubby is doing for me haha !

 

[peppermint]

i throw alot of her stuffs LOL !! she dont stay with me yet she put her stuffs in my place , how sickening , machiam my place is her storeroom !! so i just throw until i clear all of her stuffs haha

my mother in law is not a great cook either , she LOVES to cook but her cooking is all bland , i know its healthy style but we totally cannot take it , esp my boys , they dread seeing her or go out eat with her , totally no freedom of eating what they like to eat or what they wanna drink

everytime she cook , i will eat 2 mouth of rice and wen she scoop 1 big bowl of soup which taste like plain water to me totally , i will nudge my hubby and he will pour away to basin wen his mom not looking LOL !!

i rather eat maggi mee then eat her food !! LOL



usually will be once a year during cny , now i just move to my own place , she asked me if she can come stay over once a while ..

tell me how to say ''NO'' =.=''



Eek! Has she come over to stay so far? Does she go through you stuff?

 

[peppermint]

Re: My mother-in-law from hell

It's sunday tomorrow. Meaning I have to go back to monster-in-law house for lunch. Not looking forward to it at all. Sigh!

 

[vinder79]

Hi ladies sorry for interupting reading ur post has made me wanna tell u the story with my MIL.
Well i have been married to her son almost 10 yrs and am plump.
When i gave birth in 2008(1st baby) my DH uncle came over to my hse to see my son 1st time. Came with his family and my DH grandma and my mil.Well firstly i haaven finesh confiment but cause they wanted to see baby i brought him home from my mum hse.
After some time wit them suddenly his uncle points out that my MIL (40KG) LOOKS MORE LIKE MY HUSBAND'S WIFE than me. I got frustrated as i was very edgy with them and their remarks already so i told him off.My DH already knew i didnT have much patience for his family as in 6 yrs of marriage(at that time) they nvr bothered abt us. Not even to attend our wedding( No one from his mum side came).He distracted me to the room.
I brought my baby in as i wanted to feed him and next thing my MIL ENTERS MY ROOM(dOOR IS CLOSED) i stared at my hubby and he shouted at his mum to leave the room.
This came ard as the day i gave birth this sickening woman came with my DH stepfather after to the hospital and after smoking wanted to carry my bb, my sis told her to wash and disinfect hand and take a drink first.She got very angry but shut up as DH had already been warning her throughout the yrs abt her attitude to me.Well in my hse when they came to visit she and my DH granny cornered me in the kitchen say bb 1st mth must make grand his family very big if dont his granny wanna talk to my mum etc. I ans her that no need talk to my mum ask granny talk to me as its my child. I also have very big family and they have functions for bb as well. That time bb was only 2 weeks old.
When bb turn 1 mth my mum ask my hubb to do 40 days celebration instead as i am sikh and he is chinese.My DH agreed but said if his mum side wanna do 30 days let them.
During my son 1st mth celebration which we paid for my son's ang pows, jewerly and clothes/gifts never reached us.My mil took it all.That really opened my DH EYES. wHEN MY SON's 40 days paid by my mum, ang pow/ gifts/jewererely came directly to us as mum told guest to give us.
That gesture won my DH heart. He was nvr the same with my mil.
After that several times he saw me making an effort 2wards hiis mum and the way she rebuffs me.
1st major eye opener 2009 baby in hospital, MIL comes in hot pants and is gossiping with other beds instead of seeing her grandchild.DH tells her to fuck off and get out of hospital.
2nd eye opener- 2008 baby 2nd birthday MIL LIGHTS UP IN FRONT OF KIDS and DH blows his gasket.
MIL and DH dont talk for 10mths. Only i go see her alone.DH does not let kids go.
In april 2010 my sis was getting married so i invited my MIL and her whole family.
Dont know why after that day she started treating me better.
only thing i know on 17th April she came to my new hse(1st time) gave me 4 pcs jewerely and i was shit worried.
OMG WHAT DOES SHE WANT NOW??
Then she commented that my extended family was very big and even though my dad not ard looked like everyone supported us in all we do.
She was also talking abt my immediate and extended family and their relationship with my sons and her son.
I TOLD HER THAT MY FAMILY COMES IN A PACKAGE: My DH told her that my family is such that to have him and her grandsons she has to treat me right.
We all had a very good talk that day.
FINALLY my MIL said that she was proud abt the way i kept my family.
It has been going good for us from then till now(touch wood)Nowadays she evens calls me just to chat and when i have problems i can talk to her(of course i dont tell her everything)
Deepavali is something i also celebrate and surprisingly this year she actually came to stay wit us during that time and even went to visit my mum.
I really hope all who have MIL problems do improve. I took me 10 yrs might take some ppl more but ultimately we have to realise that our hubbies are not blind just take some time before they get wise.Husbands out there take note u cant play both good and bad.U were born by ur mum its polite for your wife to respect her but u also married ur wife its also justified to ask ur mum to respect her as a DIL.
Ladies we all have sons and dreams for our sons and daughters but too have their spouses mouth off to us is something we also wont like to endure.
Ladies and gents this is just my 2 cents worth so pls dont get offended by my words. I just hope to share something my mum taught me.

 

[vinder79]

Re: My mother-in-law from hell

It's sunday tomorrow. Meaning I have to go back to monster-in-law house for lunch. Not looking forward to it at all. Sigh!

Understand that feeling( Hope this week turns out better than the last. Thats what i use to tell myself:)

 

[vinder79]

My mil also went through my stuff even commented abt her son eating less(but putting on weight).
For going through my stuff what i did was i took out 2 bags next time i went to see her in front of hubby said mummy that day u looking through our cupbord i saw u looking at these bags u want take la.My hubby was shocked that she went through our stuff. Good $200 loss but she learnt a lesson.
During my first 6yrs of marriage everytime use to get comments her son losing weight my food not cooked nicely. One day bought chk ask her make curry. During cooking suddenly turns to me ask if got msg. I told her no as i dont use in my cooking.Then i go into living rm tell hubby go buy msg ur mum say no msg cant cook.
After that day no comments abt my cooking either.
Nowadays when she comes ask me to cook curry.
Recently when she came saw me opening abolone to make porridge for my boys.
Later she directly ask me abt grocery bill.When i told her amt she told me very high.When i did a division foor her she understood.last time she would have directly bitch to my hubby abt it.

 

[xiaodaisy]

Eek! Has she come over to stay so far? Does she go through you stuff?

i moved haven 1mth , like 2wks + only , so far haven lor , donno in future will she come not

doubt she dare go thro my stuff , i'm very straight forward type , wen the 2nd time she personally bought 2 packs of stuff over to my place , i told her my hse not use as a store room for her and i'm keep space for my 3rd baby to let her run abt wen she's out and much bigger so refrain urself fm taking more stuffs anymore

she tried explaining that stuffs she took is to help us save money , i told her tots is there , i'm thankful but i dont like things stuffing up at my place , since then the 3rd visit , she came with empty handed

hope tml will be well for u !! hope she dont cook tml ya LOL !!

mother in law and dear husband dont talk for 10mths. Only i go see her alone.dear husband does not let kids go.

I really hope all who have mother in law problems do improve. I took me 10 yrs might take some ppl more but ultimately we have to realise that our hubbies are not blind just take some time before they get wise.Husbands out there take note you cant play both good and bad.you were born by your mum its polite for your wife to respect her but you also married your wife its also justified to ask your mum to respect her as a daughter in law.
Ladies we all have sons and dreams for our sons and daughters but too have their spouses mouth off to us is something we also wont like to endure.
Ladies and gents this is just my 2 cents worth so pls dont get offended by my words. I just hope to share something my mum taught me.

ur really very nice to ur mil , i and hubby married for 11yrs , i nvr alone went to visit mil before =x

actually , so far i dont really have big problems with mil , just recently i dont like she put stuffs over my place as i'm someone who hate my hse being packed with stuffs ..

basic respect is always there for her as long she dont step over my line , i'm a straight forward person so i dont like keeping my unhappiness inside me ..

During my first 6yrs of marriage everytime use to get comments her son losing weight my food not cooked nicely. One day bought chk ask her make curry. During cooking suddenly turns to me ask if got msg. I told her no as i dont use in my cooking.Then i go into living rm tell hubby go buy msg ur mum say no msg cant cook.
After that day no comments abt my cooking either.
Nowadays when she comes ask me to cook curry.
Recently when she came saw me opening abolone to make porridge for my boys.
Later she directly ask me abt grocery bill.When i told her amt she told me very high.When i did a division foor her she understood.last time she would have directly bitch to my hubby abt it.

altho my mil didnt complain i grow fatter while hubby go more skinny LOL !! but everytime she see her son , she will comment that her son grows thinner and thinner

but too bad , i'm someone who donno how to cook , so she find nobody to blame LOL !! other to blame on hubby's work too tiring for him haha ..

 

[babymoo]

Oh yeh oh yeah gd luck to us man !!! My hubby didn't object and I ren told him abt this forum and ur mother in law is soooo similar to his mum and somemore same age he laugh... He take it very easy nw... I don think MIL plays mj with urs cos she only act rich only so she doesn't have rich friends.... N mj is at her place at admiralty...
For getting pregnant there's no such things tt festive or not la... Let's say of u r abt to give birth around cny does it mean u must hold back ur baby till after cny? Nonsense rite.., haha

Me too! I'm planning IVF in Jan because we wanted a dragon year baby but hubby said Jan is the festive season. I was like - er so?? He said he don't want me to be suffering during the festive season. Really??!! I almost wanting to tell him that he should priorities. Our family is more important than having to attends numerous houses and see the same faces ar each house and get so bloody tired during CNY period. Most likely you and I have to meet our mothers-in-law la unless she's not ard lo.

Good luck to both of us on IVF. Keep each other posted ya?

 

[babymoo]

For mine is opposite..my hubby is her maid + money tree so after we got married and move to our own place se demanded my hubby to help her clean her Hm every house cleaning before cny... But Cos last time I work retail hrs so yr end very busy... I told my hubby out house not in time to clear up so he clear our own house till no time go over lor...

i throw alot of her stuffs LOL !! she dont stay with me yet she put her stuffs in my place , how sickening , machiam my place is her storeroom !! so i just throw until i clear all of her stuffs haha

my mil is not a great cook either , she LOVES to cook but her cooking is all bland , i know its healthy style but we totally cannot take it , esp my boys , they dread seeing her or go out eat with her , totally no freedom of eating what they like to eat or what they wanna drink

everytime she cook , i will eat 2 mouth of rice and wen she scoop 1 big bowl of soup which taste like plain water to me totally , i will nudge my hubby and he will pour away to basin wen his mom not looking LOL !!

i rather eat maggi mee den eat her food !! LOL



usually will be once a year during cny , now i just move to my own place , she asked me if she can come stay over once a while ..

tell me how to say ''NO'' =.=''



mil always praise her son in front of me only when her son is not around ..

tis yr happen to see her a few more times as we just move to new place and she coming over to say wat we lack and she sponsor for us ..

when she see her precious son handwash clothes for me , doing housework and cook for the me and the kids .. she comment ''my son really dote u so much , doing everything for u that he last time never did''

i told her ''if ur son wanna marry me , i tink its the way he should be helping out with me with all these stuff as wen we're dating , he knows very well i donno how to do all these , yet he choose to marry me den he have to do for me lor''

guess , his mom is just jealous as ur mil LOL !!

cos my hubby nvr did those for her and she is the one who still do all this for him afterall yet hubby is doing for me haha !

 

[babymoo]

Re: My mother-in-law from hell

Lucky me I don have to c her !!! Haha.... And best part is usually for MIL n DIL birthday we gt to attend but I always have hOliday plans at tt period cos it happens to b my anniversary hahahahha....
My hubby just change a car in march and we intending to change again nw due to tt car have serious probs with sales n service... I wonder if by cny I got a new car wats his mum reaction !! Hahahaha !!!

It's sunday tomorrow. Meaning I have to go back to monster-in-law house for lunch. Not looking forward to it at all. Sigh!