Throwing tantrum

[CocoaBear]

How to handle toddles of age 2 years old (cannot talk yet) who started throwing things about like books, toys at you when angry or start hitting toys, you or own self?

What age does toddles speak? Is it normal at this age, still unable to talk properly?

 

[Phoebii Cheng]

Hi my son is 2yrs old too.....but he is able to speak sentences and lots of words.....

Is your child currently in PG? if he is he should be picking up lots of new words everyday....

And if a child has anger management, you have to be firm with him, let him cool down first, you hv to let him know that you mean it - disciplining him, one way is to use the naughty chair or corner somewhere in ur house. Let him cool down there for 2 mins, if he still like tht another 2mins till he finally cool down after tht u explain to him why is his behaviour not acceptable and get him to take ownership of his wrongdoings and finally tell him that u love him

That is what I do with my son.....he is v scared of naughty corner :tlaugh:

 

[Phoebii Cheng]

Oh btw, my son's CC is also using the same method of discipline...:tlaugh:

 

[eissacsirhc]

My girl is abt 20mths and she can speak a few words but cant yet string a sentence tgt.. So when she wants smth and we dun noe wat exactly she wants she sometimes does throw tantrums and hit us and shouts.. I tink they're juz being frustrated and stressed out that they canot get the msg across to us.. exactly like how we feel when we duno wat they wan..

 

[CocoaBear]

I have tried the naughty high chair, my kid refused to sit, only stand there screaming. When I say "NO" he will throw more tantrum like screaming and waving his arms all over. Hitting table.

Will he grow up with anger management problem?

I have not placed him in cc yet, hopefully, he will learn to speak in full sentence. Currently, he only understand what I am talking about, when I said come, he will follow. Speaking of bb language, blabbing... Should I be concerned on this?

 

[Phoebii Cheng]

Hi, my answers in red.....the naughty corner is how I discipline my son, but not all parents use this method

I have tried the naughty high chair, my kid refused to sit, only stand there screaming. When I say "NO" he will throw more tantrum like screaming and waving his arms all over. Hitting table.

Then u just leave him alone when he throws tantrums for two minutes, if he does tht again, repeat the procedure again and again until he gets it. When he is in the naughty corner / chair leave him there and u go and do ur things, don't mind him, cos' the more u mind him the more he will scream, and in the end it will be u tht breaks........

You can borrow the video super nanny and see how she deals with children I think even worse thn ur child and she manages to handle them, by using repetition and low firm voice, children needs a lot of repetition likewise my son, repeat and repeat to him until he gets it



Will he grow up with anger management problem?

I don't think so, it is a phase that every child goes thru, even when they are a bit older sometimes they will tend to behave tht way

I have not placed him in cc yet, hopefully, he will learn to speak in full sentence. Currently, he only understand what I am talking about, when I said come, he will follow. Speaking of baby language, blabbing... Should I be concerned on this?

I think different child develops differently....just like some walks faster, some slower, however if you are concerned you can bring your child to a specialist in tht area

 

[viva848]

Saw a report on Sunday... about parents should just ignore their kid who is throwing tantrum... so that they know they won't get what they want...
works for me... but not all the time...

 

[pkshl]

my son seems to be gg through this phrase now. he gets angry when a toy gets stuck somewhere & he can't get it out, he will cry & scream until that toy is out. when im frustrated due to his constant screaming, sometimes i tend to spank him alittle. i know its not right but ive no choice. my hb doesn't spank him at all, only gets angry. i felt that my son is being spoilt by my mil. he do wrong things she never scold him, no need to say spanking cos she will never do that.

 

[AugBoyz]

I have tried the naughty high chair, my kid refused to sit, only stand there screaming. When I say "NO" he will throw more tantrum like screaming and waving his arms all over. Hitting table.

Will he grow up with anger management problem?

I have not placed him in cc yet, hopefully, he will learn to speak in full sentence. Currently, he only understand what I am talking about, when I said come, he will follow. Speaking of baby language, blabbing... Should I be concerned on this?

Did you explain to ur child reason for making him sit on the chair? U mean he will stand on the HIGH CHAIR? Thats very dangerous! Either ensure he sits down or find another safer place to be the nottie area. If he moves away fm the nottie area, bring him back, keep repeating till he sit down for 2 minutes. Of coz throughout the process you must communicate with him, tell him the reason for punishing him. Dun just keep saying NO NO n bring him back to the nottie area.

 

[AugBoyz]

my son seems to be gg through this phrase now. he gets angry when a toy gets stuck somewhere & he can't get it out, he will cry & scream until that toy is out. when im frustrated due to his constant screaming, sometimes i tend to spank him alittle. i know its not right but ive no choice. my husband doesn't spank him at all, only gets angry. i felt that my son is being spoilt by my mother in law. he do wrong things she never scold him, no need to say spanking cos she will never do that.

Why do u spank him for telling you that his toys are stuck at some place and he needs help? Not sure how old is ur child and whether he can speak or not though. If ur child is young n still unable to communicate using simple words, then crying n screaming is the only way they know how to get help and attention.

 

[AugBoyz]

Saw a report on Sunday... about parents should just ignore their kid who is throwing tantrum... so that they know they won't get what they want...
works for me... but not all the time...

Ignore yes, but also have to tell the child the reason for ignoring him.
e.g if he is screaming, crying, shouting, stomping his feet etc which is an unacceptable behavior, tell the child firmly that you will not talk to him unless he stop screaming/crying etc and calm down.

 

[CocoaBear]

Did you explain to your child reason for making him sit on the chair? you mean he will stand on the HIGH CHAIR? Thats very dangerous! Either ensure he sits down or find another safer place to be the nottie area. If he moves away fm the nottie area, bring him back, keep repeating till he sit down for 2 minutes. Of coz throughout the process you must communicate with him, tell him the reason for punishing him. dont just keep saying NO NO n bring him back to the nottie area.

I have put him on high chair once after he is being notti, next minute he does the same thing again after out of the high chair.

He refused to sit back on the chair, so I have put him else where to stand.

Stand only few seconds then run away, then I have pull him back he run off again. Sigh! Tried to explain the first time but I think he is still too young. So maybe listen awhile then started his screaming so cannot hear what I said.

I made him pack his booksback, sometimes work, but sometimes he just run off when I tried to ask him to pick his stuffs to put back in the correct place. In the end I pack all books back by myself. At times, I will punish him by packing up the books and do not let him touch them for a half an hour as punishment. He will start to throw tantrum when he saw that I have placed the books somewhere he can see but cannot touch.

 

[Phoebii Cheng]

I have put him on high chair once after he is being notti, next minute he does the same thing again after out of the high chair.

He refused to sit back on the chair, so I have put him else where to stand.

Stand only few seconds then run away, then I have pull him back he run off again. Sigh! Tried to explain the first time but I think he is still too young. So maybe listen awhile then started his screaming so cannot hear what I said.

I made him pack his booksback, sometimes work, but sometimes he just run off when I tried to ask him to pick his stuffs to put back in the correct place. In the end I pack all books back by myself. At times, I will punish him by packing up the books and do not let him touch them for a half an hour as punishment. He will start to throw tantrum when he saw that I have placed the books somewhere he can see but cannot touch.

Hmm my son when he runs off, I will bring him back, and tell him firmly tht I want him seated on the naughty corner and not to move.....maybe cos' the CC also does tht, but you need to repeat it again and again and again no matter how long it does......until he gets it tht u mean it for him to be seated there

For me too, no matter how long it takes me....just repeat it again until my son gets it.

Hmmm have u brought ur son to see a specialists for his ange? does ur son does it often? i mean the anger and throwing tantrums? if he does mayb he needs to see a physciatrists? or a specialists in this area......besides throwing tantrums, is ur son super duper active like cannot keep still?

 

[pkshl]

Why do you spank him for telling you that his toys are stuck at some place and he needs help? Not sure how old is your child and whether he can speak or not though. If your child is young n still unable to communicate using simple words, then crying n screaming is the only way they know how to get help and attention.

Even after i take the stuck toy out for him, he still continues to scream & cry nonstop.

when i said spank, i juz gently spank him on his hands & telling him next time if there is a toy stuck or he cant reach it, he can call us for help, there is no need to scream & cry nonstop.

 

[CocoaBear]

Hmm my son when he runs off, I will bring him back, and tell him firmly tht I want him seated on the naughty corner and not to move.....maybe cos' the CC also does tht, but you need to repeat it again and again and again no matter how long it does......until he gets it tht you mean it for him to be seated there

For me too, no matter how long it takes me....just repeat it again until my son gets it.

Hmmm have you brought your son to see a specialists for his ange? does your son does it often? i mean the anger and throwing tantrums? if he does mayb he needs to see a physciatrists? or a specialists in this area......besides throwing tantrums, is your son super duper active like cannot keep still?

He will throw tantrum when refused to eat, too tired or too hungry. Almost everyday throw tantrum at least twice.

Which specialist to go to? Can say my kid is kind of active. Sit for at least 3 minutes if the book is interesting, if not, run away again.

I have tried repeating pull him back to stand at that same spot. Stand hardly a minute, then run off to play...

 

[CocoaBear]

Hmm my son when he runs off, I will bring him back, and tell him firmly tht I want him seated on the naughty corner and not to move.....maybe cos' the CC also does tht, but you need to repeat it again and again and again no matter how long it does......until he gets it tht you mean it for him to be seated there

For me too, no matter how long it takes me....just repeat it again until my son gets it.

Hmmm have you brought your son to see a specialists for his ange? does your son does it often? i mean the anger and throwing tantrums? if he does mayb he needs to see a physciatrists? or a specialists in this area......besides throwing tantrums, is your son super duper active like cannot keep still?

My kid never been to CC, hope mine got trained this way too next time if go to CC. Hopefully can get him to behave better.

 

[Mummy to Baby V]

My boy is 18 months old and expresses his needs through many words / phrases and hand signs. We taught him baby hand signs since he was little so that he can express himself without frustration.

Using hand signs with words enable us to understand him better as his pronunciation is still inaccurate.

Does he have a regular nap time? Insufficient quality sleep can lead to bad temper. Teach him to tell you when he feels tired. Or ask him when he looks tired.

Let him have regular healthy snacks so that he is never too hungry?

If boy is deliberately being difficult, I use the time-out corner (we don't use "naughty"). It can be a corner in the room or a neutral chair. Try to avoid using the highchair cos it is a place for eating and it is better to associate good feelings / experiences with it.

Sequence:
- I bring him to the corner
- tell him what he did wrong
- tell him what he should do
- tell him to apologize (he can use the hand sign for "sorry")
- say he can learn to be a good boy, Mummy loves him
- bring him to correct the act / mess, if needed

 

[CocoaBear]

My boy is 18 months old and expresses his needs through many words / phrases and hand signs. We taught him baby hand signs since he was little so that he can express himself without frustration.

Using hand signs with words enable us to understand him better as his pronunciation is still inaccurate.

Does he have a regular nap time? Insufficient quality sleep can lead to bad temper. Teach him to tell you when he feels tired. Or ask him when he looks tired.

Let him have regular healthy snacks so that he is never too hungry?

If boy is deliberately being difficult, I use the time-out corner (we dont't use "naughty"). It can be a corner in the room or a neutral chair. Try to avoid using the highchair cos it is a place for eating and it is better to associate good feelings / experiences with it.

Sequence:
- I bring him to the corner
- tell him what he did wrong
- tell him what he should do
- tell him to apologize (he can use the hand sign for "sorry")
- say he can learn to be a good boy, Mummy loves him
- bring him to correct the act / mess, if needed

Good idea to use hand sign, but don't work for my son. Tried to teach, but he don't seems interested to learn.

For nap, he don't take during afternoon. Even if he is very tired, he still choose to play about.

 

[Mummy to Baby V]

Good idea to use hand sign, but dont't work for my son. Tried to teach, but he dont't seems interested to learn.

For nap, he dont't take during afternoon. Even if he is very tired, he still choose to play about.

Use hand signs to him as you talk. Hold his hands gently to make the sign. After a while, he should get it and find it an easy way to communicate to you.

Children up to 4-5 years old still need to nap. Important for their mental devopment too. When child is over-tired, he can have a second burst of energy to play, but become very short-tempered.

When my boy is tired (since a baby), he gets "high", talking loudly and getting hyper. I put him down to nap immediately.

Try having a nap routine? E.g. after lunch, go to room, draw curtains, play soft music, read bedtime story, sing lullaby, encourage him to lie down to rest. Room must be clutter-free, no toys, no stimulation. Even if he does not sleep, resting is still good.

Try reading No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers by Elizabeth Pantley.

 

[Phoebii Cheng]

Good idea to use hand sign, but dont't work for my son. Tried to teach, but he dont't seems interested to learn.

For nap, he dont't take during afternoon. Even if he is very tired, he still choose to play about.

I think decide what u want for your son, dun allow his behaviour to decide for u........cos' if you think it is unacceptable, then when u decide to put him in CC he might think his behaviour is acceptable but it is not then it might affect him.....he might not like CC or sch?