Ting
Well-Known Member
at 2 yo, your son shld be able to speak in simple words to tell u what he wants or what he dont like.
at 2 YO, its the terrible 2 stage.
agree with AB, u need to explain WHY they r "punished".
be it naughty corner/chair, cane, spank, ignored.
bcos they r still very young, they dont know how to channelt their emotions properly.
so when they r angry, they scream n shout n hit ppl, when they r happy they jump abt giggling loudly running abt, when they r upset they cry n cry.
unlike adults, we can control our emotions way better.
for pin, she is relatively a gd girl most times, but of cos, she hv her T2 n 3 syndromes.
she does hv a fair share of crying n shouting n throwing things n even rolling on the floor when we r out.
when she was younger arnd 1yr+ to 2, i usu pull her to one side n look sternly at her telling her it is wrong, she shldnt do it n make her apologise for her mistake. i will explain to her like if she throws the toy, it will spoil or hurt someone then how would she feel? sad right?? the person (who kena hit) will be sad too right? then she will think abt it n tell me YES. so i ask: can u do it again? n she will say NO.
the next time it happens, i will remind her our previous convo on this. then she will rmb.
she seldom do it now, but of cos occasionally she will "forget" and do it.
for me, i dont do naughty corner/chair cos it doesnt work on pin. i use the cane.
not to whack her, but to "scare" her.
all it took was one good smack ONCE, n she knows the "power" of my cane. LOL~
so each time she wanna get into trouble, i will ask her: u eat "char kway teow" ??(meaning cane also.) then she will think twice b4 doing it. but also, the cane wont work without reasoning. some parents just keep whacking the kid without explaining, n end up the kid jst get used to the cane n it doesnt wrk anymore.
but imo, i find tt the cane only worked when pin was arnd 2.5 yo onwards.
and usu after a "scolding" session, (not immediately maybe 1/2-1hr later) i will go sayang her. so she knows tt mummy still loves her.
at 2 YO, its the terrible 2 stage.
agree with AB, u need to explain WHY they r "punished".
be it naughty corner/chair, cane, spank, ignored.
bcos they r still very young, they dont know how to channelt their emotions properly.
so when they r angry, they scream n shout n hit ppl, when they r happy they jump abt giggling loudly running abt, when they r upset they cry n cry.
unlike adults, we can control our emotions way better.
for pin, she is relatively a gd girl most times, but of cos, she hv her T2 n 3 syndromes.
she does hv a fair share of crying n shouting n throwing things n even rolling on the floor when we r out.
when she was younger arnd 1yr+ to 2, i usu pull her to one side n look sternly at her telling her it is wrong, she shldnt do it n make her apologise for her mistake. i will explain to her like if she throws the toy, it will spoil or hurt someone then how would she feel? sad right?? the person (who kena hit) will be sad too right? then she will think abt it n tell me YES. so i ask: can u do it again? n she will say NO.
the next time it happens, i will remind her our previous convo on this. then she will rmb.
she seldom do it now, but of cos occasionally she will "forget" and do it.
for me, i dont do naughty corner/chair cos it doesnt work on pin. i use the cane.
not to whack her, but to "scare" her.
all it took was one good smack ONCE, n she knows the "power" of my cane. LOL~
so each time she wanna get into trouble, i will ask her: u eat "char kway teow" ??(meaning cane also.) then she will think twice b4 doing it. but also, the cane wont work without reasoning. some parents just keep whacking the kid without explaining, n end up the kid jst get used to the cane n it doesnt wrk anymore.
but imo, i find tt the cane only worked when pin was arnd 2.5 yo onwards.
and usu after a "scolding" session, (not immediately maybe 1/2-1hr later) i will go sayang her. so she knows tt mummy still loves her.