Hi noelsmum,How long have you been married?
Hi Edwinie,it's fate that brings man and woman together. it's up to you to cherish. just remember what you loved her for when both of you were dating. what was the feeling when you proposed to her and she accepted.
please do not consider divorce! what female need is understanding. take some time and have a good talk. show your love and care through hugs and words of encouragement. give her surprises. there's many things you can do.
hope it will get better when your children grows up~
Maybe you both should talk things out or go for counselling. I admit that sometimes hubby and me have arguments and sometimes it's can get ugly but at the end of the day, both of us realise that we do want to stay married and both try to compromise and give in. I disagree with Ms Koh's statement that if her husband cannot tahan, he will loose big. I don't believe that one party is more superior over the other and one will lose more than the other. I believe that a marriage is a partnership. Sure, sometimes we can take each other for granted and the marriage can die. Some people stay married for the sake of being married but the husband and wife do not talk to each other. Husband might end up having affairs outside and wife become bitter and angry. That's my take on a marriage. It takes time and effort to stay married and connected to each other.been married for more than 3 years...think you are right that many couple take the easy way out nowadays...looking at divorce rate is quite alarming. Trying to turn a deaf ear when she try to pick on me but always fail to control my temper. well maybe it my fate
Action carries more weight than words. If u claim u feel that way, it will in turn influence ur action while at home. Be it ur facial expression or tone of ur voice. Women are sensitive creature and all these negative signal can be easily picked up by ur wife. In return, she will start to complain this n that and whatever not just to get rid of the frustration she had.Ever since the baby is born, my wife would always like to pick quarrel with me over minor problem at home ranging from cleaniness,walking around the house,must give baby full attention, must be home by 6:30pm to packet dinner(after work), weekend must stay at home ,laundry can only do on sunday, doesn't allow baby to touch here and there.....and many more.
We do not have financial worries, no third party and i always stay at home with family.....occasionally maybe once a month go for my favourite sports..
i'm feel more relieved at work than at home.....married life really unthinkable
Hey wanderful,Hi noelsmum,
been married for more than 3 years...think you are right that many couple take the easy way out nowadays...looking at divorce rate is quite alarming. Trying to turn a deaf ear when she try to pick on me but always fail to control my temper. well maybe it my fate
I am a SAHM with a preschooler and 7mo bb, my hubby is always busied with work, technically, we only meet on Sunday when he is off. Lot of pressure, stress and matter cook up in me, everyday I only keep thinking why why why I am the only one who face all the shitty home staffs. Then the actions started, lot of nagging,lot of complaint, showing rusty face etc. I think my hubby feels shitty too. Till one day, I cried and talk to him about how much I hate myself behaving like " drama housewife', only then he start to realized I got hard time trying to catch up with him. He slow down, share time with me and I really appreciate I am holding on his hands once again. Maybe you can try to hand your wifey hands again, reasonalise yourself ( since I cam sense your unhappiness here, I believe your wife can feel it even stronger). dun give up upon your wife, help your marriage by helping your wife. Btw, I am married for 11 years now, and this kind of situation does happen again. So holding hand with your heart is important.thank you mummies for the advice & encouragement. Been busy away from the forum because of the election & family matter
will take each step one at a time...never know what will happened next with e weekend coming.
will keep everyone update.