jojoki
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Just wanna vent. I quit my job to become a stay at home mum after delivery. I am mommy to 8 month ol baby girl.
My hubby doesnt supports us. I survive on a rental of $500 a month. I seriously dont know how I survive as out of that 500 around $50 is used to pay for my pa insurance and my hubbys pa.$60 for internet and around $100 fr hp bill. I'm left with $200 plus to survive.
Hubby earns 2.5k lik dat, he only needs to pay for pub bills, conservancy and buy baby diapers... n groceries like once every two weeks. (most of the times i pay fr the groceries too!!)
I used to have some savings but have used it to pay his debts (twice!! each time more than 10k) bought tv, fridge, sofa washing machine when we moved in to our flat , paid for my own maternity fees, including consultations, scans, test... and even after baby was born, she was hospitalised again fr jaundice, her vaccinations, etc was all paid by me not to mention, all her stuffs, cot, strollers,diapers, toys, every single thing is paid by me. Of course with all dat, i am totally wiped out, n jobless.
I LOVE being a stay at home mum to my baby girl that is why i'm willing to scrimp n save to be with my daughter.
My hubby has been angry with me recently, n been coming home around 2am! His phone bill has been cut off and to reconnect he needs to pay off his 270 plus outstanding. He conveniently asked me to open a line under my name for him. I told him NO!!! N he got very pissed with me n stopped talking to me fr days. comes home late and did not bother to give me his new hp number (prepaid)
I am all alone with my baby and in case of emergency I have no one tht i can call!! He knows that my baby is very glued to me so I cant do my things/chores if hes not home... even if my baby is sleeping.. she wants me to be in the room with her. So i am now waiting fr him to get his ass back home so that i can go wash my super itchy head!!
I did not want to open a line for him bcos i want him to pay off the bill he incurred! He is always like dat incur debt and expect ppl to pay off for him or he just run away from it. And i want him to be responsible. I do not knw why he is angry with me!! not my phone i dint incur the charges and not that i take money from him n caused him to have no money to pay off his bills.. even pub bills he accumulated to 350!! dunno where all his pay goes to!
Everytime i suggest we sit down n plan our finances.. the mere mention of this will send him hysterical. he will shout and walk off! I told him I;m not asking him to give me control of his income but just dat I will lay out the expenditure n budgeting for him so that he will know exactly how much he can spend a day!
I am really getting tired and do not know when I will explode bearing with all his shit all these years. ever since my baby is born i have always bear with his nonsense and try to avoid any quarrel. I am by nature a VERY VERY HOT TEMPERED person but for doters sake i keep quiet. But "futt tou yau for"... sigh!!
My hubby doesnt supports us. I survive on a rental of $500 a month. I seriously dont know how I survive as out of that 500 around $50 is used to pay for my pa insurance and my hubbys pa.$60 for internet and around $100 fr hp bill. I'm left with $200 plus to survive.
Hubby earns 2.5k lik dat, he only needs to pay for pub bills, conservancy and buy baby diapers... n groceries like once every two weeks. (most of the times i pay fr the groceries too!!)
I used to have some savings but have used it to pay his debts (twice!! each time more than 10k) bought tv, fridge, sofa washing machine when we moved in to our flat , paid for my own maternity fees, including consultations, scans, test... and even after baby was born, she was hospitalised again fr jaundice, her vaccinations, etc was all paid by me not to mention, all her stuffs, cot, strollers,diapers, toys, every single thing is paid by me. Of course with all dat, i am totally wiped out, n jobless.
I LOVE being a stay at home mum to my baby girl that is why i'm willing to scrimp n save to be with my daughter.
My hubby has been angry with me recently, n been coming home around 2am! His phone bill has been cut off and to reconnect he needs to pay off his 270 plus outstanding. He conveniently asked me to open a line under my name for him. I told him NO!!! N he got very pissed with me n stopped talking to me fr days. comes home late and did not bother to give me his new hp number (prepaid)
I am all alone with my baby and in case of emergency I have no one tht i can call!! He knows that my baby is very glued to me so I cant do my things/chores if hes not home... even if my baby is sleeping.. she wants me to be in the room with her. So i am now waiting fr him to get his ass back home so that i can go wash my super itchy head!!
I did not want to open a line for him bcos i want him to pay off the bill he incurred! He is always like dat incur debt and expect ppl to pay off for him or he just run away from it. And i want him to be responsible. I do not knw why he is angry with me!! not my phone i dint incur the charges and not that i take money from him n caused him to have no money to pay off his bills.. even pub bills he accumulated to 350!! dunno where all his pay goes to!
Everytime i suggest we sit down n plan our finances.. the mere mention of this will send him hysterical. he will shout and walk off! I told him I;m not asking him to give me control of his income but just dat I will lay out the expenditure n budgeting for him so that he will know exactly how much he can spend a day!
I am really getting tired and do not know when I will explode bearing with all his shit all these years. ever since my baby is born i have always bear with his nonsense and try to avoid any quarrel. I am by nature a VERY VERY HOT TEMPERED person but for doters sake i keep quiet. But "futt tou yau for"... sigh!!
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