OMG WIN HAHAHA "act blur if you can" ?!?!? I hv to try it some day :')allele:662848 said:Yah.. I would say Im the lucky ones out of the rest. But if you left with no choice but to stay with ur in laws, I would advise u to be patient, try not to argue with them even though they can be nasty as times coz at the end of the day u will still have to face her as u all live under the same roof. The art of survival is to respect them, no argue back no matter wat n act blur if u can. Even though u know u r right, once u both had quarrelled u'll definitely get negative impression for her. That's solely my personal opinion.. This applies to u whereby u got no choice but to stay with ur in laws forever. Good luck!
as the saying goes... "act blur, live longer"...OMG WIN HAHAHA "act blur if you can" ?!?!? I hv to try it some day :')
Same kinda feeling.. and worse of all, the flat is under his mum's name.. and we have no luck w BTO all this time.. sians..Better don't stay with in laws. I am staying with them because still don't have the ability to move out yet. Everyday feeling very low because I am stuck with them. Sian ar!
hi Chewysee , I cn emphatize w you hehehChewysee:663437 said:At least you all can try BTO. We cant even afford cause our marriage was unplanned. If i go back to mum's or dad's, they will think my hubby never protect me enough. later more problems. Aiya... i think this is my life bah. What to do? who ask me to be so careless. Feel so unwelcome here. everytime have to tahan their attitude. really pek chek. sometimes really thinking if this is all worth it anot. I really just want a life alone with my bb.
Haha. Thanks! I really appreciate this website. Can share our feelings. It is good to know that i'm not alone hehehi Chewysee , I cn emphatize w you heheh
i can understand what u mean.. i always go to my parent's place to hide, but i nv tell them what happen.. i always use the excuse that the weather v hot.. i need to slp in air-con rm.. coz my mil dun allow us to install air-con coz she say not gd for the body.. but the weather is super hot.. then if i shower too many tyms or on too many fan, she will say that i waste electricity and the bills will be v costly.. haix.. i dun dare to tell my hubby what happen.. coz i dun want him to flare at his mum coz his mum will bear grudges against me..At least you all can try BTO. We cant even afford cause our marriage was unplanned. If i go back to mum's or dad's, they will think my hubby never protect me enough. later more problems. Aiya... i think this is my life bah. What to do? who ask me to be so careless. Feel so unwelcome here. everytime have to tahan their attitude. really pek chek. sometimes really thinking if this is all worth it anot. I really just want a life alone with my bb.
yea.. this forum is gd for us to vent out our frustrations, share our feelings and clarify our doubts...Haha. Thanks! I really appreciate this website. Can share our feelings. It is good to know that i'm not alone hehe
Wahh... Envy you leh. My hubby already knows how I extremely hate his mother. I am somebody who cannot keep things in my heart. But I think he going crazy soon if I keep complaining because he keeps getting stuck in between situations. So in order not to make his life difficult, I try to keep my feelings to myself. Which is extremely depressing. so nowadays, whenever I get angry, I try to think of bb and calm myself downyea.. this forum is gd for us to vent out our frustrations, share our feelings and clarify our doubts...
my hubby thinks its a gd webby too.. he reads from time to time to understand how i feel and all..
my hubby prefers me to complain to him whenever things happen, even if it is every nite, rather than i explode all at once to him or explode at his mum.. but there are times nowadays (think it is the hormones part) tt i will just cry and won't say anything that drives him mad..Wahh... Envy you leh. My hubby already knows how I extremely hate his mother. I am somebody who cannot keep things in my heart. But I think he going crazy soon if I keep complaining because he keeps getting stuck in between situations. So in order not to make his life difficult, I try to keep my feelings to myself. Which is extremely depressing. so nowadays, whenever I get angry, I try to think of bb and calm myself down
I try to feedback to him everynight, but he gets very annoyed. Then when I explode all at once, he say I'm being mean. Then when I ask him to be empathetic, he says he don't mind if my mum was like his. Then I will tell him "ofcourse you're saying things so easy la! Cause it's just an example what, and my parents are very understanding, they don't nag at you or scold you" i was scolded by his mother several times you know, like she literally shout at me infront of hubby but he does nothing! He just stand there and keep quiet. And because I have to respect that she is his mother, I keep quiet, then I go toilet and cry. You see, what kind of person I am with? She can go around scolding other people's daughter like that? As If I don't have mother or father? I don't even dare to tell my parents about this. What the hell?! You think this kind of husband can mah? Arbo I ask his mother to come up to my house and I ask my parents to scold her son infront of her la. See how she feels.my hubby prefers me to complain to him whenever things happen, even if it is every nite, rather than i explode all at once to him or explode at his mum.. but there are times nowadays (think it is the hormones part) tt i will just cry and won't say anything that drives him mad..
i guess hubby must b understanding, especially when u r staying w his mum.. coz it is for u to fit into a different lifestyle, ask ur hubby to imagine staying with ur mum.. ask him to put himself in ur shoes.. thats wat i ask my hubby to do..
but i guess i am lucky coz my hubby noes what his mum character is like..
Why mus it always be us to stay wif husband family? I oso haf to stay with husband family. We cannot apply for new flat haf to wait for at least 4-5 yrs. even If we apply Liaw, his parents have to move in with us, as e current place is under his & his mother name.