Am I immatured n unreasonable? Shld I ask him to pay?

[-SRI-]

My dh leg hairy leh but my ds not much hairs leh >.<" So far we only shave him bald when he was 4mths old coz he dun haf much hairs so we tot of shave might help to grow more hair BUT till now 10.5mths old yet still nt much hairs although better than b4 he shaved. :nah:

when ur DS son reach puberty den u see follow ur HB or nt..hehehe... my mum said chinese usually shave their bb bald so tt bb hair will be much more thicker..izzit true? i tot of doing tt to my bb in future...

Ooo..ur DS 10.5mths...still young...maybe after a yr, ur DS hair will be thicker than nw...

 

[Porukadotzu]

HUH? my son pics? Where u see it?!

hoii... i saw few at the "photos" in this forum lei... and i think ur face look like my best frend too..

 

[LoVeS]

whahahahahahahaahaha... like tt gd ma.... when u preg him, u keep on smiling n laughing tts y ur bb become like tt..hehe...gd lei...easier to take care of..if keep crying, scared ltr gt colic rite...see bb smile, we as a mother oso feels so happie... ur DS is cheerful la...like happy go lucky... :tlaugh: hw old is ur DS?

alamak..today no scan..only hear bb heartbeat using radiowave i tink..dunno wat the machine is called...but the nurse said on the 29 apr muz come for check up..gt scan..by the time i'll be 5 mths...by den sure gt gender check one...:001_302:

Yes he smile alot BUT he aso CRY alot especially at nite dun wan to slp. He is SUPER cranky bb. Last time i tot my twin cousins r very cranky bb who r very pantang BUT my ds is worse than them tt i can hardly slp much.

When i angry he smile i tink is bcoz he tink tt by smiling i will nt b angry wif him n wont scold him. He is damn cheeky bb lor....KNS~ He is 10.5mths old now.:shyxxx:

 

[Porukadotzu]

My dh leg hairy leh but my ds not much hairs leh >.<" So far we only shave him bald when he was 4mths old coz he dun haf much hairs so we tot of shave might help to grow more hair BUT till now 10.5mths old yet still nt much hairs although better than b4 he shaved. :nah:

:tlaugh:LOL

aioo, ur dh leg hairy coz he's adult lah.. if ur bb also hv hairy leg isn't tat scarry??

btw means ur dh also big fan of mutton satay is it?

 

[LoVeS]

when ur DS son reach puberty den u see follow ur HB or nt..hehehe... my mum said chinese usually shave their bb bald so tt bb hair will be much more thicker..izzit true? i tot of doing tt to my bb in future...

Ooo..ur DS 10.5mths...still young...maybe after a yr, ur DS hair will be thicker than nw...

For my ds yes abit thicker n more hair than b4 he shaved BUT still very little hair sumore alot of bb at his age already got quite alot of hairs liao.

 

[LoVeS]

hoii... i saw few at the "photos" in this forum lei... and i think ur face look like my best frend too..

OHH those fotos r very long ago ones. Abt 5mths old n below. Ur best frd hw old?

 

[LoVeS]

:tlaugh:LOL

aioo, ur dh leg hairy coz he's adult lah.. if ur bb also hv hairy leg isn't tat scarry??

btw means ur dh also big fan of mutton satay is it?

nope n i didnt take mutton during my preg

 

[Porukadotzu]

when ur DS son reach puberty den u see follow ur HB or nt..hehehe... my mum said chinese usually shave their bb bald so tt bb hair will be much more thicker..izzit true? i tot of doing tt to my bb in future...

Ooo..ur DS 10.5mths...still young...maybe after a yr, ur DS hair will be thicker than nw...

my mam never shave my head, and my hair thick like broom..

 

[Porukadotzu]

OHH those fotos r very long ago ones. Abt 5mths old n below. Ur best frd hw old?

update those photos then... ii notice theres no update bb photos in this forums ya? later when i got my bb will go and upload d foto here..

my best friend 1 yr bit younger than me only, bout 28 or so...

 

[LoVeS]

update those photos then... ii notice theres no update bb photos in this forums ya? later when i got my bb will go and upload d foto here..

my best friend 1 yr bit younger than me only, bout 28 or so...

28 ah? icic, ya nowadays mummies nv upload liao coz lazy n tis forum aso more quiet coz last time alot of members quite active one BUT nt anymore.

Me aso lazy upload which i only update on my blog

 

[-SRI-]

my mam never shave my head, and my hair thick like broom..

Thicker hair genes runs in ur family...mine no...my hair ar..thin..if after give birth dunno gt hair loss like my mum or nt...

 

[Porukadotzu]

28 ah? icic, ya nowadays mummies nv upload liao coz lazy n tis forum aso more quiet coz last time alot of members quite active one BUT nt anymore.

Me aso lazy upload which i only update on my blog

ic ic... u've been roaming around this forum for how long?

 

[Porukadotzu]

Thicker hair genes runs in ur family...mine no...my hair ar..thin..if after give birth dunno gt hair loss like my mum or nt...

not really, my sis hair quite thin also, she even buy those hair products to make more thick abit but still no hope hehhee.. mine always ask the salon to thin the hair abit...otherwise would look like Simba the lion..:001_302:

but in indo the elders always say pregnant mummy should eat green bean (kacang hijau) so bb hair grew thick n black

but my MIL here say dun eat too much kacang hijau coz its cooling... instead its ok to take soya bean, also can make bb hair grew thick n black..

 

[vodkager]

hi SRI,

just saw ur topic.. been ages since i enter this forum.. even if i do, i always left w/o posting anything..=x but ur topic somehow interest me.. haha!

how many months are u now? im having my no.2 in e coming july~ yours?

anyway, regarding your qns.. i think in the first place, u shld never ever had get involved w a married man.. 2yrs and e wife knew all along? i wonder how a woman can take it.. i read ur post, i very blur.. he is alr married.. but y they still discussing wedding w u? i mean, can married twice mehs??

of cos, we cannot ALWAYS use preggie as an excuse to throw temper.. but bearing a child is not easy.. furthermore, u're not in good health.. if throw temper he also canot endure for that mere 9 months.. den i think he's really not worth it..

no matter wad happens between u 2.. i agree w many mummies here that he should chip in.. PLEASE F care abt what is going to happen to him.. why do u care whether he lives in luxury when YOU and BABY have to suffer? he should bear the responsibility if he wants to fool around.. and if im not wrong.. as long as DNA he is e father, he is responsible to PAY for the maintenance.. im nt sure how much e legal fees gonna cost etc.. but i think no matter wad, u have to get him PAY! and not let him eat alr, piak his butt and leave!~ and who cares whether u're not in good terms w his parents side? you're not their DIL.. you're not their family.. in times like this, we've to be SELFISH.. or we're at the losing end.. i hope you will start thinking of your child as the priority and not that man!!

 

[-SRI-]

I nw 17 wks.. mine in sept..

in the 1st place he didnt said tt his married..ya..his wife n parents knew all along..during our r/s, we discussing abt marriage...muslim men can marry up to 4 wives but provided they can give his wives financial security..he can oso marry another one if the previous wife cant bear him any offspring...

actually i dunno why when his entourage came n his parents n sis blame me totally n insult me, i feel so agigated...cz all along they noe abt our r/s...i was so dissapointed when they wanna grandchild only but nt me..the very 1st time i shout at him like wat sia under the blk for nt defencing me when his parents insulted me...if nvr defence its ok..juz speak up like dad n mum plz don insult her n continue wit the wedding discussion..But no he NVR even said tt..juz kept mum all the way...

ytd when for counselling n i told them wat happen..they said it muz be difficult for me to bear wat his parents had said, the insults, wanna the grandchild only, blame me totally plus stress wit my sis divorce issue, work n i stress wit the tots of losing my bb n nt in the pink of health which my guy n my parents don give any moral support at tt period of time..my guy at 1st oso gt mention abt abortion lor..so i feel sad...

The cousellor said i hv dunno wat depression due to all tt factors.. hahaha..no wonder tt time i find myself like siao siao..smth wrg wit me emotionally..gt mood swings..i'll reserved myself to one corner..cry for abit thing la...don talk or joke much which i usually do b4 preg...get irritated n tired easily too... aiyah..totally nt me la..i'm happy gal one..always laugh n joke ard..........i miz those days........

Of course I nvr use the excuse juz cz i'm pregnant everyone needs to bear wit my mood swings..i only one HIM to understand wat i been going thru...he's nt in my position..he's nt the one being insulted..its me..why cant he juz understand wat i been thru?? tts y i feel so dissapointed when he use the excuse of his parents behaviour cz they are old ppl...n tts y i use the excuse of me being preg n nt in the pink of health so hv hormone imbalance... bcz of him being my luv ones who cant even understand me emtionally nw, i began to reserve myself frm the others cz i scared other ppl don understand me too....I only mixed wit ppl tt really really understand my plight n emotions tt is my gfs, bfs n mum...its nt easy for me to relate to outsiders of wat i been thru n hw i feel...

cz I can be thrifty type...hehehe..when we wanna get marry, his wife out of the sudden wanna buy HUDC, car n going for vacation..wah..needs alot of $$$$..i still remembers he said to me when we still in r/s "Syg, lucky u thrity type..My wife luvs to spent...so if we together its balance..if u same like her ar..i'm broke...My 1st wife spent n my 2nd wife saves.." tell u ar when he said tt i feel hurt lor..why shld i save n his wife spent?? his wife shld noe the improtance of $$ ma... all the $$ i save if she don hv enough, u going to use it on her?? nt fair lor...

Told the counsellor after bb is born i wanna ask for bb maintainance..cz its my bb rights...nw i heck care of his luxury...cz he leaves me like tis n he can spent all the $$ to his wife but nt to his 1st child?? no way.....

my gf n mum said my weakness is to help n worries abt others 1st but nt myself..being to kind n forgiving towards ppl who hv do me harm...ha.... dunno its my weakness or nt.....I don like to make foes...i really hope they (his parents n wife) tink wat i do is right..for bb..nt for me...so i nt being selfish lor...who don wanna the best for their kids rite...

I was so shocked when his sis called me up n said why u shld be proud of ur pregnancy?? why u hv to tell ur frens @ friendster u single mum?? Why u so happie tt u preg?? I was like huh.. for me its Ridiculous qns rite.. I'm proud n happie tt i preg cz its my bb which comes frm the man i luv which my 1st man, we conceived it on our 1st anni n most impltly, ITS MY CHILD!! why cant i be proud?? cz my child is Illegitimate child?? so wat.... no matter war he/she stills my child...my own flesh n blood...my child is innocent wat.....which mother is tis world nt happie to know abt her pregnancy n acknowledge her child?? only some wont..those who are like tink of sex n lust but nt as in sex like making luv to ur luv ones lor...which i'm nt one of them n abt me saying i'm single mum..its the fact wat...ur bro don wanna marry me..so i single mum la..ha.. i told his sis tt lor... n who is she to ask me tt?? wat rights does she hv??

she even make such stmt.. "my bro n family don want u n bb wat...so nw up to u la wat to do..my bro told u to abort but u don want..he'll pay for the abortion fees wat...nw u face it urself la.....up to u wat to do wit the bb la...its none of our biz animore " i told her, its ok wit my mum support emotionally n financially i can brought up my child...if i abort, yes he willing to pay the fees..but can he pay for my health n my lost?????n u all talking abt my bb..nt urs..of course u can said all tt la... ha... his sis juz keep quiet n talk abt other topic to shoot me....in my heart i was like wat kind of woman are u???? u tink abortion is so simple??? His sis oso tell my fren tt i'm a total bitch!!! its very harsh words lor...hw can she said tt?? does she noe the meaning of tt word?? if i'm a bitch, can i call his bro a BASTARD?? ha.. I nvr lor......but till nw she don dare to tell me directly wats more to mention my name in my friendster tt her shoutout is for me... tis kind of ppl are..talk big only........... act toughn innocent.... She said I'm young n immatured la cz she older than me by a yr... but i tink she is lor..for doing all tt... like small kid...using friendster as a tools to criticise n look dwn on ppl nt for networking...

Ya...my child is my everything.......they are nth to me...cz they nvr even take care of my feelings...

 

[Porukadotzu]

Sri, i think ur bf there actually in the first place just want to fool around with you.. he know tat he can not hv child with his wife then he thought he's save to involve with other women without being scared of bearing a child... but turns out with you he can hv a child... so tats why he die die want to get away with it...

coz if in the 1st place he want to find 2nd wife who can conceive his child then he should tell the truth if his intention rite? And i'm sure his family also hv to be ready bout this and normally 1st wife also hv allow him to take 2nd wife also...

so i think this guy completely just want to fool around and he should responsible fully for this.. coz u are like a victim in the end.

and the marriage talk during ur r/s last time was just a lie to lure u more into his trap.

this type of guy should just washed off from planet earth..!:bmad:

 

[-SRI-]

No la..he noes he gt no prob as they went for fertility check..he went to file for divorce but his wife make a wise move tt is to tell his mum n wanna his mum to console him nt to divorce her n me can be the 2nd wife n she willing to change..so he did listen to his mum...during our r/s we talk abt marriage cz everyone agrees to it..if nt i don even bother to be wit him...don worry..i washed him off completely oredi in my life...hehehe...:tlaugh: but in my heart he still dere somewhr..it takes time to heal.....

 

[LoVeS]

ic ic... u've been roaming around this forum for how long?

Since last yr july n aso tis forum top poster LOLX :shyxxx:

 

[Porukadotzu]

No la..he noes he gt no prob as they went for fertility check..he went to file for divorce but his wife make a wise move tt is to tell his mum n wanna his mum to console him nt to divorce her n me can be the 2nd wife n she willing to change..so he did listen to his mum...during our r/s we talk abt marriage cz everyone agrees to it..if nt i don even bother to be wit him...don worry..i washed him off completely oredi in my life...hehehe...:tlaugh: but in my heart he still dere somewhr..it takes time to heal.....

ic ic... nowonder you explode la...

he already tell u want to divorce but he didnt do it in the end, and promise u for a marriage and also try to get away with it, and some more his wife and family is blaming u instead thou they hv agree on ur r/s, and still ask u to abort too...wow.. where are their brains....?:elvis:

 

[-SRI-]

hahahaha..nw u noe why out of the sudden i explode some more in my bad condition..i find them too much lor...till they want my child but nt me..they tot by paying the $4k, they bought my whole body ar including my eggs?? i was so mad..till i msg him said "if they tink their DIL is so damn gd...I'm so rude n bad wat...den let her bear u a child la...don take mine..my bb is part of my flesh n blood..they need to accept n respect me as the mother den they can be called grandparents to my child...if nt..u can tell them to relax one cosy corner!!" :tlaugh: was really damn mad tt time Poru.........

haiz..i oso dunno...they agreed but still blame me..its nt entirely my fault wat...i told him its me, u n ur wife fault...at 1st why u become like stray cat?? muz hv prob in ur marriage rite? tts the roots of the prob wat b4 i get to noe u... n as a wife knowing ur HB gt prob u still behaving the same till he in other r/s than ur find urself in a shacky position..if nt everytime when probs arise, u promise him u will change but only for awhile...n Him as husband dunno hw to become the leader..firm...let ur wife step all over u...u keep listening to ur parents as if u don hv ur own mind...knowing ur status u don even tell me abt ur status tt u married...n me for being wit married man even after i get the assurance frm all the parties involve...for trusting him...believe in him...

i tink i noe why they wanna me to abort...cz they noe i wont allow them to meet my child at all even after i deliver...its nt tt i don let..but they all insult me n my parents oredi...call me a bitch la.....hw cld i let them see my bb?? i almost forget abt tt issue oredi..let say if i let them see n behind my back they put dirty tots n intention towards my bb hw?? n for me if they cant respect me..i don tink they'll respect my bb lor...fyi, the bb i'm carrying is their 1st grandchild frm their 1st son... they hv 2 grandchildren oredi frm their 2nd son..my guy is their fav son..so u see wat i mean....

ok here..sorry hor if i sounds crude...pardon me k mummies..i tink they all put their brains in the ass!!! fancy wanna me to abort..gt the cheeks to said tt... argh!!!!!! shoot them all dwn la...