Excited Mummy
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Hmm... I wonder if I've too high expectations of my in-laws. I know relationship with in-laws is a touchy issue.
I had always tried to be nice to them but I just feel they are not reciprocal enough.
During festive times, I would definitely buy festive goods for my in-laws. CNY - abalone, bak kwa, golden swallows' bird nest etc, mid-autumn festival - raffles hotel mooncakes... treated them to 5-star hotel dinner too. when my hubby and i went for our honeymoon, i bought branded wallet and handbags for my in-laws, including sister-in-laws. just feel that they aren't appreciative. they probably think my hubby pays for them!
it's ok for them not to give me things but i think it's only considerate and kind for them to at least ask how i am doing during my pregnancy!
I dont have a good relationship with my in-laws cos' I had arguments with them during wedding preparations. They had insisted on their way for some things which were not what I wanted for my wedding and I had to protest. And more than 1 year later, they still owed me $$ for a few wedding tables which they were supposed to be given to me as dowry! My hubby offered to pay me but I said no coz' those were supposed to be from them to my parents. My mother-in-law used to insinuate that I was fat many, many, many times, even though I am not overweight! She insulted me on several occasions. She is not highly educated & I take it as she is jealous that I'm taking away her only son. She herself is not slim! My hubby is on the thinner side. During my wedding dinner, she thought my hair was a wig!!! I have lustrous natural hair. Not fake hair please. She always wants to make me angry by making stupid remarks!
Now that I am expecting a baby boy, the first grandson of the family, they don't even show much care & concern for me and our baby!
It was only until my hubby asked them to prepare some bird's nest for me that they did so ONCE throughout my pregnancy thus far, which was last week. SIGH! When I visit them with my hubby, they don't even ask me how I am with my pregnancy or ask me if I need them to cook anything for me to eat. I'm already 6mth + pregnant but they dont even ask if I would need help with my confinement or whatsover.
It's my own mum who will prepare nutritious meals for me when I visit my parents' place. So my mum will help me with my confinement.
My in-laws treat their own daughters well but not me well. My mother-in-law helped my sister-in-law with her confinement. I do complain to my husband that they are very biased.
Even when we had our house-warming, my parents-in-law did not even bother to come although we invited them - one went overseas, the other had something on. My sisters-in-law came, empty-handed. As usual. They didn't even bother to give an ang pow to us when we got married. Unlike my parents who gave us an ang pow for good fortune and our friends who gave us simple house-warming gifts, from ang pows to photo frame to fair price/cold storage/robinson's vouchers to bless us and our love nest.
I invited them to my place and cooked dinner for them last year when we moved to our love nest. Till now, I had not even done so for my own family.
I tried to be a good daughter-in-law to them but I just feel that since they are not reciprocal, then I should not try so hard to please!
My hubby says we should ask them to help look after our baby when I finish my maternity leave and need to go back to work. But I really think they are not going to treat our baby well. They fuss over my sister-in-law's girl a lot and shower her with too much attention and too little discipline. I also don't like the fact that my mother-in-law would stick food into her mouth before she give to the kid. Very unhygienic!!!
I had always tried to be nice to them but I just feel they are not reciprocal enough.
During festive times, I would definitely buy festive goods for my in-laws. CNY - abalone, bak kwa, golden swallows' bird nest etc, mid-autumn festival - raffles hotel mooncakes... treated them to 5-star hotel dinner too. when my hubby and i went for our honeymoon, i bought branded wallet and handbags for my in-laws, including sister-in-laws. just feel that they aren't appreciative. they probably think my hubby pays for them!
it's ok for them not to give me things but i think it's only considerate and kind for them to at least ask how i am doing during my pregnancy!
I dont have a good relationship with my in-laws cos' I had arguments with them during wedding preparations. They had insisted on their way for some things which were not what I wanted for my wedding and I had to protest. And more than 1 year later, they still owed me $$ for a few wedding tables which they were supposed to be given to me as dowry! My hubby offered to pay me but I said no coz' those were supposed to be from them to my parents. My mother-in-law used to insinuate that I was fat many, many, many times, even though I am not overweight! She insulted me on several occasions. She is not highly educated & I take it as she is jealous that I'm taking away her only son. She herself is not slim! My hubby is on the thinner side. During my wedding dinner, she thought my hair was a wig!!! I have lustrous natural hair. Not fake hair please. She always wants to make me angry by making stupid remarks!
Now that I am expecting a baby boy, the first grandson of the family, they don't even show much care & concern for me and our baby!
It was only until my hubby asked them to prepare some bird's nest for me that they did so ONCE throughout my pregnancy thus far, which was last week. SIGH! When I visit them with my hubby, they don't even ask me how I am with my pregnancy or ask me if I need them to cook anything for me to eat. I'm already 6mth + pregnant but they dont even ask if I would need help with my confinement or whatsover.
It's my own mum who will prepare nutritious meals for me when I visit my parents' place. So my mum will help me with my confinement.
My in-laws treat their own daughters well but not me well. My mother-in-law helped my sister-in-law with her confinement. I do complain to my husband that they are very biased.
Even when we had our house-warming, my parents-in-law did not even bother to come although we invited them - one went overseas, the other had something on. My sisters-in-law came, empty-handed. As usual. They didn't even bother to give an ang pow to us when we got married. Unlike my parents who gave us an ang pow for good fortune and our friends who gave us simple house-warming gifts, from ang pows to photo frame to fair price/cold storage/robinson's vouchers to bless us and our love nest.
I invited them to my place and cooked dinner for them last year when we moved to our love nest. Till now, I had not even done so for my own family.
I tried to be a good daughter-in-law to them but I just feel that since they are not reciprocal, then I should not try so hard to please!
My hubby says we should ask them to help look after our baby when I finish my maternity leave and need to go back to work. But I really think they are not going to treat our baby well. They fuss over my sister-in-law's girl a lot and shower her with too much attention and too little discipline. I also don't like the fact that my mother-in-law would stick food into her mouth before she give to the kid. Very unhygienic!!!