uddermummy
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i must admit that I'm becoming one...
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Helicopter Parents: The Backlash Against Overparenting - TIME
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Helicopter Parents: The Backlash Against Overparenting - TIME
very true!!!The luckiest child on earth is not one that wears the pretties clothes or owns the most expensive toy, but one whom parents are dedicated, prayerful, God-loving and fearing.
yes i try to avoid buying toys dat claims to keep them busy fr hours... just dun buy it and I feel guilty if i leave my child playing on her own for too long. My child yearns for interactions all the times just tht unfortunately theres no one home with her other thn her mama, me.very true!!!
but if you realise, nowadays the more busy the parents are, the more expensive toys they will get for their children... is that a compensation for their kids? or izzit they just mainly want their children to get the 'best'? but is the sp-called 'best' judge by the value of the products? i doubt so... haha...
nth beats seeing our lil ones growing up everyday, reaching diffe milestones right? haha... but i noe some mummies realyy got no choice but hav to go out to wk. but i'm sure most of them will spend time with their children... =)yes i try to avoid buying toys dat claims to keep them busy fr hours... just dont buy it and I feel guilty if i leave my child playing on her own for too long. My child yearns for interactions all the times just tht unfortunately theres no one home with her other thn her mama, me.
Ya some mommies simply wants to give the world to their kids (out of deep deep love fr their child of course) and spend sooo much time working to earn that kind of money to give them the "world". But personally I think my baby wud want mommy to be there for her as she grow. I chose to be stay at home mum surviving on 500 a month so that I can raise her in godlyways so that when she grow up "she will say "NO" to premarital sex, drugs,alcohol, ciggys and she will be strong enuf not to succumb n conform to the wayward society. In a nutshell, I told my hubby that its more important for us to spend time and effort to build her character and eq so that she will be a secured independant God loving and fearing person.
Of course I wont be able to secure her financially for studies in future since I chose to be a stay at home mum. But like said, I dont need her to be rich, or prolific, jst good person.
true, i feel very blessed i can stay home. N being a working mommy is def not easy.nth beats seeing our lil ones growing up everyday, reaching diffe milestones right? haha... but i know some mummies realyy got no choice but hav to go out to wk. but i'm sure most of them will spend time with their children... =)
i dun think i can afford to enrol her in any enrichment or play course.. but i do attend trial classes, so can go n learn some play/teach methods.. thn go home can do with my bbmeiteoh, you're right about the academic part. It really is very competitive here academically.
sometimes i feel sorry for the kids, and for my ger next time, cos kids nowadays really have a lot of stuff on their plates.
I dont't remember having to do so much work, or going for so many enrichment activities when i was young! And childhood was actually quite fun cos i had time to daydream, read and do the stuff that i was supposed to do at my age.
Having said that, I prob will send my ger to an enrichment activity or two.
I just have to make sure that she enjoys whatever she's attending, and i dont't schedule her days back to back with lessons!
i agree! lik my cousin. she sent her boy to enrichment classes when he was ard 14-15mths old i think? dunno hw true it is but a fren whose mother is in childcare line, told her tt never 'force' a kid to study and never start enrichment classes etc too early as it might turn out to be 'fan xiao guo'...I think it's all about that fine act of balancing - something that we have to carry out until our children become adults and after that.
No offence meant to anyone but I do know and have noticed that in Asia, it's all about how the kid performs academically, the pressure to succeed and all but it can be very stifling for the child, especially when that's all the attention s/he gets in return (parents dont't play with him, dont spend time with him - I know of people who are like that; they only talk to their children if they have done something bad OR if they need to check up on their kids' progress at school/nursery/etc).
I have been to other forums and see parents sending their children to enrichment classes before they even turn 2 and things like that, which really bothers me because what about people who dont't have the means for that? Are their children really going to suffer? I believe the answer is no.
What we can do best for our children, even at this early stage in life, is not to repeat the mistakes that others have made in pushing their children to do TOO much at such a tender age. Yes, we want them to reach their full potential but at the same time, lets not forget that children have their childhood with them for only so long. Before we know it, it's time to grow up and well, children NEED to be children. Heck, even adults need the opportunity to be like children at times (carefree and such) because it is relaxing!
And that means playing. Lots of it too. And mind you, playing can be educational...it's all about the approach.
So every time I look around in my apartment, and stare at how it's lacking in toys (no Jumperoo here, no fancy playgym and such), I ask myself what will my Eva really enjoy best and why'know something? It's not a toy but me and my hubby. Sometimes her best moments is just playing with us and being with us. SO even if you do have to work, make some time for your child - take him or her out, play and so forth. You dont't need toys coz you have the best already - your voice, your face, and just you.
ps: Hubs and I find the leash a bit disturbing and bizarre....we never see it in Europe so when we were saw it here, we got a shock. :/
I get anxious only when it comes to hygiene cos my boy's immunity is low so he falls sick easily. Other than that, I will him to learn through the hard way and from his mistakes. I must be the meanest mummy. Muar har har... he falls, i tell him very. good who ask you to be so careless?
haha, jojoki, same, same! actually can also borrow books from the library on games to play with our bbs.i dont think i can afford to enrol her in any enrichment or play course.. but i do attend trial classes, so can go n learn some play/teach methods.. thn go home can do with my baby