if your hubby is the only son then no choice, have to stay with her...I think it is just a matter of time that tis is gonna happen. But I hope to have some advice. Shld we e daughter in law live with our mother in law (no father in law as divorce already) ??? If we dont, is it being not filial?
Totally agree with HoneyLicious. I get along well with my parents-in-law but I will not want to live with them because our daily habits are worlds apart. We travel to JB to visit them every week over dinner.i think in this modern society doesn't mean not living with mother in law means not filial. if given the choice it's better to live without mother in law because when you live together surely will have friction and then your relationship with her will turn sour. if you stay apart from her you can still maintain the good relationship with her. to me being filial means visiting them regularly(every weekend) and being there when they need us(e.g sick/hospitalized) and trying to provide their needs(giving allowance).
How about telling your hubby that if both stay apart is for both of u and his mum good, at least won't have any conflict and both can have freedom, life will be much more easier and happy, maybe can go over his mum house for dinner everyday after work.. :001_302:Thank you so much to all who have shared with me your opinions and experience!!! Really appreciate it! Actually I m also a person who have my own habits and sometimes I want to have e freedom to do thgs e way I want. Even living wit my own parents before marriage, my parents let me have those freedom.
But sometimes my hubby hint hint to me that his mum is old (leg pain) and she had worked her whole life almost 24 hours a day to earn $ when she was young to take care of him and his bro. So I feel bad if I prevent him fm living with her. But I really phobia cos my hubby's brother's wife (sister In law) also cld not live with her. before I was married, my sister In law and brother in law lived with my mother in law for about a your. I think one fine day my sister In law cannot tahan (not sure what issues) already then they bought their own flat.
Aiyo, how ...