My mother-in-law, Mdm L rom hell

[peppermint]

hubby very good temper person , so he very chin chai plus maybe he ownself cant tahan his own mother .. his mom nags at him even more , wen she keep nagging until i bth , even she say dont wake my hubby up let him sleep , i still wake him up so his mom can change target to nag

i hope next time she comes , i'm not home !! then make her wait outside if she never bring our home keys , cos yest also like that , ask us open and use our keys to lock the door before she go , like she never bring our keys like that

cfm naggy , super 100% naggy , i told my mom ''i thought you very lorso last time , now i met more power one then you'' my mom laugh so loudly over the fone last nite LOL

i tink she dont dare nag your hubby quit smoking cos she scare your hubby later dont like her and keep away fm her then she cham , cannot ill treat you anymore LOL

how old your mother in law? mine alrdy 60+ , still shld be healthy , altho complain some problems sometimes but she still able to work and she cant stop working cos she very like 'like money type'

Gosh!! You gave her keys to your house?? I WILL not. Yea, you are right. She is the sort of mother who allows her son to do whatever he likes, even so it will harm him. I think it is more of her being afraid that her son will to give her money anymore. As I've said earlier, she will be that sort who doesnt want us to have kids because she is worried that once baby comes along, her son will give her less allowance and of course, less attention. Evil heart she is!! She didn't do her part as a mother last time, cos she's always out for MJ and because of bad influence, my husband also plays MJ daily since secondary school, even during exams period. But luckily, he is smart and now doing well in a bank.

My in-laws are not highly educated - think secondary. The witch should be 63 (born in the year of Tiger) works as a clerk in the government board - the really 9 to 5 job. When she found out that me and hubby always worked till very late, she will tell us she doesn't because her colleagues will say that she is trying to show off and she said,"if I finished my work today, then tomorrow do what?". So it's really the old school gov sect style. Good life isn't it? And the thing is, she doesn't even has to take on a second job, her free time is go play MJ, go Bottomslim centers, go diamond peel facials. And yet, she always tell her son this,"Mummy very Poorthing and Sua Koo (mountain tortoise)"

Before she is about to retire, she act like she's a saint. Said her plan is to go Kong Meng San temple to do volunteer work aft her retirement - that's why she move over so close to us at Sin Ming (w/o us knowing) And she used to stay at Lakeview - just 5 mins away. I am glad that we have now move out of Sin Ming and far away from her. Bet she's jumping mad but she wouldn't show, she will start all sort of nonsense to hint to us - which she already started.

Now that she retires, she goes play MJ daily. Never hear her mention abt going to Kong Meng San to do volunteer work. She said her Niece has a small office, asked her if she wants to go over to do part time. Witch said she doesn't want to work anymore, she wants to enjoy old age and so what if niece offers to pay her, she is not interested. Arrogant right?!! Because you know why? Her son gives her money every month to enjoy. And she sold Lakeview for $900k, so much cash she has, she don't need to work at all! She doesn't even need to withdraw cash from her CPF, says she wants to keep it there for high interest rates. And yet, she always tell her son that,"mummy very poor wan, mummy need to save money for retirement age, mummy very poor never have branded bags, etc". Isn't she already at retirement stage? So she's a lazy bum, doesn't want to work yet wants to control all our money. Just On Sunday, she was telling us her friend's daughter who is a lawyer, is very good to the mother. She knows that her mother now old already and retired with nothing to do, so she got her mother the membership to the Casino - that she is such good girl and treats the mother so well. Ahem! What is she trying to hint?!!

Luckily my husband now smarter, as in I managed to talk him into looking at our future instead. Saving up for our futureand our kids if we have any later. And he's doing it well, if not, I tell you he will save all his money with his mother!!! And at the end of the day his money becomes her money. And it happened to us before.

When we got married, we bought a condo at Sin Ming. My husband told his mother that he needs the cash in the bank account (these are my husband's money! All his bonuses, etc). Inititally I didn't know he took the money out from their joint account. Many years later, his cousin told me that that witch was bitching to her that WE actually went to BEG her for cash to pay the first installment for the condo!!! I was mad. I went back to question my hubby and he explained to me. He said mummy was very ok for him to take the money out and those were his money!! I said, "your mother has been telling other that WE BEG HER FOR IT!". My husband even tell me that he puts the money back to the account within two months. The part which the witch didn't tell others. Now he knows what sort of mother she is.

 

[peppermint]

At 1st we had a lots of fights because of her....then I started to ignore him....One day, I told him I cant take it anymore..If he doesnt want to solve the problems and do it my way...then we are finish...

From that day, things go in my way and I dont fight with him....learn to use talk to him and use a little tears to win....

By the way, still hate her as she had also caused our marriage to broke... I dont talk or call her...

She act like everybody is trying to steal her $$$...can u believe that when she go shower..she will lock her room...

She keep telling ppl on the phone loudly (from India) everyday that she is not a trouble maker, how her MIL love her so much, worse she once said she will get ppl to beat me up...what a hateful person... all problems come from her!!!

Beat you up??!!!! You know you can go report police that she threatens you?? Really you should. Get that protection from the police. Er, so she is not going back to India anymore??

 

[Excited Mummy]

monster-in-law hv no choce but to buy Si Dian Jin cos my parents say it's a MUST!! so she LL lo. else she confirm cn save $$$ on Si Dian Jin de.

My MIL also didnt want to buy Si Dian Jin for me initially (even though she is a Teochew & should know)! In fact, my in-laws claimed that they don't know the traditions and customs too as 1st time they are getting a daughter-in-law and that when one of their daughters got married, they said their daughter's in-laws didnt gv them anything. My MIL wanted to just pass me a jade bangle that supposedly her MIL gv to her. But I dont wear jade bangle at all.

Princessyuki, i really feel very sorry for you. Your in-laws are really scary! Goodness. Dont even treat people with compassion. How can they make such comments and subject you to such treatment! caused you to lose your 1st baby...

I know my MIL also secretly wishes my hubby and I would always quarrel and we would end up in a divorce. In fact, before he wanted to marry me, she said a lot of nasty things about me to him etc. (In fact, I think my MIL is also capable of saying the things your MIL said - whether my baby is fathered by my hubby.)

But my hubby is too much of a mummy's boy to put an end to her nonsense. He thinks that as younger generation, we should always give in to them. But I said not when they make sarcastic comments, or being insensitive.

I really dislike my in-laws. in fact, one of my hubby's sisters even once said that if he marry me, she would die for him to see cos she did not like me and deliberately swept the dishes on the table and splashed hot soup onto me during a dinner. That was after my hubby (then bf) told her not to pick at the food and pick the piece she wanted to eat, to avoid her saliva all over the food. She was very irritated and flared up at me and said i don't share the same surname as them & I should just get out of the house. I rem these wods she said but I dont recall her shouting that if he marry me, she would die.

My hubby told me about her words after his sister really died of an illness. I felt very bad. He said he felt worse. Even though i know she died of an illness and it's through no fault of mine, these words pierce through my heart like needles. In fact, when we were about to have the wedding dinner, she had a relapse and everyone's mood was affected. I was very upset and kept crying at home because I was afraid I would be perceived to be a jinx to the family. My mum said I should not be so upset. And when I'm pregnant this year, his sister passed away.

I really don't understand. I used to treat them very well. But after putting up with the way they treat me, i decided I should give tit for tat or simply not go to their place. Although I'm not fat, well within normal range of BMI, my hubby and his sisters are really skinny. Not only his mum used to insult me about my weight, even his sister would say stupid things like "who is fatter, you or the maid?" SO RUDE! (1) How can she compare her future sister-in-law to the maid? (2) I'm definitely not even as heavyweight as the maid.

Quarrelled with hubby last nite cos of them again. Some times, I really feel that if I have known his family is like that, I would not have started the relationship with him... I think I need to be strong, or else I may lapse into post-natal depression.

 

[princessyuki]

Excited Mummy, my sil also once mentioned that i shld get out of the hse since i not realted to them and so unhappy staying there. Make me so pissed

 

[noelsmum]

Excited Mummy, my sil also once mentioned that i shld get out of the hse since i not realted to them and so unhappy staying there. Make me so pissed

That's why I insisted that we get our own flat before getting married. And now that we sold our flat, whenever we're back in Spore, we NEVER stay with my in laws. We always stay with my parents. Not going to give them chances for them to complain that I'm messy or dirty and anything like that. Whenever they ask, I always say that it's easier since my mum has a helper.

 

[princessyuki]

That's why I insisted that we get our own flat before getting married. And now that we sold our flat, whenever we're back in Spore, we NEVER stay with my in laws. We always stay with my parents. Not going to give them chances for them to complain that I'm messy or dirty and anything like that. Whenever they ask, I always say that it's easier since my mum has a helper.

for me is opp, they dont clean their hse at all. always wait for me to clean. i cant stand it if the floor is too dusty n stuffs. and on top of that the bitch gt a dog which she dont care. neglect the dog until the dog always come n find me to play. and yet mentioned to hubby to ask me to stop bringing his dog into our room, whn is the dog come into our room on his own accord

 

[peppermint]

My mother in law also didnt want to buy Si Dian Jin for me initially (even though she is a Teochew & should know)! In fact, my in-laws claimed that they dont't know the traditions and customs too as 1st time they are getting a daughter-in-law and that when one of their daughters got married, they said their daughter's in-laws didnt gv them anything. My mother in law wanted to just pass me a jade bangle that supposedly her mother in law gv to her. But I dont wear jade bangle at all.

Princessyuki, i really feel very sorry for you. Your in-laws are really scary! Goodness. Dont even treat people with compassion. How can they make such comments and subject you to such treatment! caused you to lose your 1st baby...

I know my mother in law also secretly wishes my hubby and I would always quarrel and we would end up in a divorce. In fact, before he wanted to marry me, she said a lot of nasty things about me to him etc. (In fact, I think my mother in law is also capable of saying the things your mother in law said - whether my baby is fathered by my hubby.)

But my hubby is too much of a mummy's boy to put an end to her nonsense. He thinks that as younger generation, we should always give in to them. But I said not when they make sarcastic comments, or being insensitive.

I really dislike my in-laws. in fact, one of my hubby's sisters even once said that if he marry me, she would die for him to see cos she did not like me and deliberately swept the dishes on the table and splashed hot soup onto me during a dinner. That was after my hubby (then bf) told her not to pick at the food and pick the piece she wanted to eat, to avoid her saliva all over the food. She was very irritated and flared up at me and said i dont't share the same surname as them & I should just get out of the house. I rem these wods she said but I dont recall her shouting that if he marry me, she would die.

My hubby told me about her words after his sister really died of an illness. I felt very bad. He said he felt worse. Even though i know she died of an illness and it's through no fault of mine, these words pierce through my heart like needles. In fact, when we were about to have the wedding dinner, she had a relapse and everyone's mood was affected. I was very upset and kept crying at home because I was afraid I would be perceived to be a jinx to the family. My mum said I should not be so upset. And when I'm pregnant this year, his sister passed away.

I really dont't understand. I used to treat them very well. But after putting up with the way they treat me, i decided I should give tit for that or simply not go to their place. Although I'm not fat, well within normal range of BMI, my hubby and his sisters are really skinny. Not only his mum used to insult me about my weight, even his sister would say stupid things like "who is fatter, you or the maid?" SO RUDE! (1) How can she compare her future sister-in-law to the maid? (2) I'm definitely not even as heavyweight as the maid.

Quarrelled with hubby last nite cos of them again. Some times, I really feel that if I have known his family is like that, I would not have started the relationship with him... I think I need to be strong, or else I may lapse into post-natal depression.

Please stay strong, you have a baby to look forward too. Perhaps the man will change once you have a baby? *hugs*

 

[Eliza]

Hi, just managed to read this thread.
Guess all MILs are the same. Mine also started when we were just dating. I was older than my then boyfriend and the first remark his mother passed was: wah.. she is older than you.. do u know that women gets old faster after they gave birth? My FIL didn't help either.. my boyfriend was studying overseas and his father told his mum that this relationship will not last coz I'm in Singapore and he is overseas. My boyfriend only comes back every six months (btw, overseas uni. gets a school holiday quarterly) and in his last year his mum insists on him to only come back after his graduated. Meaning I won't get to see him for a year and a half. On the other hand, his younger brother gets to come back as an when he likes. Seems like he was never studying overseas!!
Back to the topic, my boyfriend was also quite dense back then coz I'm his first gf and he was a mummy's boy. Back then, sometimes I was thinking what the heck I was doing with a guy younger and suffer in silence for how his parents treated me. His dad treats me like invisible and his mum pretends to like me but back stab me in front of her neighbour who happened to attend the same church as I was. That's how I get to know abt all her 'complaints' abt me. His dad is some bigshot in some MNC and his mum will only like to be known as a 'golf tai tai' or xiao jie. Never AUNTY. The only consolation back then was his younger bro who is nice to me but now changes also becoz he has a 'bxxxx' as a gf. Btw, she went after him and not the other way round. And the parents absolutely love her. The grandma loves me at the same time also praises the 'b' in front of the parents because her is what she says: she (the 'b') wanted me to what.. that's why she is so nice to me. I've done her (the 'b') a good job and now my tasks is done.. Is the granny cute or what? =)
Anyway, into the second year of my boyfriend's uni, he proposed. I was rather hesitant but ultimately accepted becoz he said he'lll start facing his parents. We kept it a secret becoz I'm always a v. private person. But due to peer pressure in the uni. to join all sorts of activities, my boyfriend's grades dropped. For his career, getting a 2/2 in grades is a no no. So after much deliberation and thinking of our future, I quit my job and went overseas to join him bringing all my savings with me. I know it's a bold move but I have this feeling that I'm doing the right thing. Not knowing that I'm joining my bf and tot that she has convinced my bf not to come back for holiday, she was shocked when my bf informed her to pass his fees to me as I would be joining him. U should look at her face. ha..ha..
Fast track, bf graduated with honours and we came back. They were shock that we're getting married. When bf asked her abt his FD savings, she said she has used it for his uni. fees.?? What the?? Not only that his dad promised that he will foot all the bills for the wedding (not that we are counting on it), he backed out in the last minute. After much cold treatment from my bf, he unwillingly handed the check only mins later his mum came and told us that she will be getting all the red-packets from us. Not wanting to argue I told bf to just give all to her. On that day she really took away all our wedding red packets.
Fast track again, now my bro in law is going overseas to study. He incidentally placed his uni. check on the living room and my hubby happened to past by. He saw a GBP 19,500 written on it. My BIL is studying a course that costs much lesser than my hubby and he has this obscene amt to spend and my hubby had merely GBP 15,000 and need to pack 10 chicken legs from market every week back to his hostel which is a few kilometres away coz the chicken legs only costs GBP 2 to let him survive for the whole week wherelse my BIL has catered meals in the hostel and go clubbing every weekend!! AND don't forget my MIL uses my hubbys FD savings to pay for his studies!!
Fast track again, hubby get a respectable job and earnings are passable, we were looking for a flat and I was pregnant. Hooray!! Tot everything will tone down and go on smoothly. How wrong I was. MIL didn't make life easy. She told us no need to get a bigger flat (5room) just get a small studio or 3room flat coz her friend's dog is staying in one room...?? She is comparing her unborn grandchild to a dog?? Also, coz I was pregnant, granny refuse to let us moved out. MIL bought king mackerel as fish for me every week! King mackerel ?? hello, high in mercury and bad for baby's brain? Bought all the white vegetables and no green vegetables. If not for the fish oil, calcium and folic acid prescribed by my doc. I really don't know where I'm going to provide all these when my baby was in my tummy. Also, my iron was low so the doc recommended me to stay in bed and ate more red meat ie. beef. After much argument with my hubby (and my hubby paid her), my MIL unwillingly bought tiny amt of beef for me and chicken for the rest of the family for my whole pregnancy. She claims that the beef has reach the budget for the grocery exp and they can't afford other things (don't forget, they are rich) sounds like she is trying to get my brother in law and my granny in law to hate me right. The worst that I felt during this whole situation wasn't pity for myself, rather I pitied my granny in law coz my MIL has never been nice to her before and in this situation, she is stuck with chicken, no pork or fish as I can't share beef with her becoz she is a buddhist. While my MIL and FIL always dine out on Tues, Fri, Sat and Sun. After much calculation of how much nutrition I need for my whole pregnancy throughout, I had mee suah soup with sliced pork/ beef, spinach or broccoli and whole egg for lunch (hubby bought all these and stuffed into the freezer) and he packed nutritious dinner when he comes home after work. In between I snack on crackers. My MIL complained abt how much things we stuffed in their fridge and how much space we used for to store the baby stuffs.
Almost to the end of my pregnancy, I had little complication and had to go to the hospital. Hubby do not know the route and asked if she knows. She has no compassion. Saying that this is part and parcel in the pregnancy. There is no need to rush. This time round, my FIL finally had a little bit of humane. He told me to pack my bag and he is sending me directly to the hospital. I was in there for 2-3 days before discharging and throughout, only my family and granny came to see me. Her reaction: she (me) is not giving birth yet what! That was the time I felt like I was having a holiday in the hospital and reluctant to get discharge.
Fast track again, I was abt to give birth. Returned home to pack all stuffs and granny was worried.. as usual.. =) In the hospital for 2 nights and then emergency c-sect becoz baby refuse to descend. They came and visit and claimed that baby looked like them!! Again, in the hospital, everything was fine.
Back home, becoz of all the stairs at home, I was confined in the room and with a c-sect, I can't lift anything not even my legs high up. Know what? I tore my stitch on the first week. Reason? As you know confinement women always use a kind of herb to shower right and more or less it's black. MIL told my confinement lady: Don't stain my bathroom floor!! Period. So my confinement lady told me to climb into the bathtub to shower and that tore my stitch!! I did not scold my confinement lady and she was so guilty as she saw how much pain I was in. At night, hubby came back and found out what happened. He was super pissed. But again, cannot move out coz I had c-sect and still in confinement. So had to wait until everything is over. Worst of all, I had to be opened up and stitch back again! But I waited until my baby was fed with breastmilk for 4 months before I agree to be open up for stitching again coz after that, my breastmilk dried up. Also, she kept asking me how long I intend to breast feed my baby? She says she only fed my hubby one month and my bro in law, 2 weeks. She says it's very troublesome. Then why do u have kids for? Just enjoying the process of making and not bother abt how to raise them?
Fast track, baby was sick refuse to eat and drink. She says no need to send to hospital (by then we move already and she invited herself over) just give over counter medication. During then, H1N1 was on the rise. In my heart I know something was wrong. I called a cab and went to the hospital with my baby and my new maid coz she refuse to send us there and I don't have a license yet. Doctor diagnose baby caught H1N1 virus. She just kept quiet when she was finally there with my FIL. My FIL insisted on coming to visit baby after work(lucky he still has his humane side, otherwise I will ban them from seeing their grandchild). Hubby didn't talk to her throughout. Baby still didn't drink water and she force fed him water until he vomitted. That was the last straw. I chased her out of the hospital room.
From then on, she called, hubby didn't pick up. She called me, I passed the phone to hubby. She complained we didn't visit them.. those went deaf ears becoz they only want us to go over when they are not playing golf or when it is raining or when it suits them. Not us and not their grand child. We are and never will be their priority. In fact, we did go over to visit granny. Just that they were out playing golf. They showered all their friends and their friends kids with attention and pays for everything. But NEVER to their sons and now grandchild. I am blessed that my hubby can turn from a mummy's boy to a grown man in such short time and I know some pple are still suffering from this. Honestly all that I've written above I've also suffered for ten years or more.. I just want to say that there is light at the end of the tunnel and just stay strong. Don't let them wear you down or beat you out. I'm now praying that my granny will find the light at the end of the tunnel soon coz she is still being bullied..

 

[peppermint]

Hi, just managed to read this thread.
Guess all MILs are the same. Mine also started when we were just dating. I was older than my then boyfriend and the first remark his mother passed was: wah.. she is older than you.. do you know that women gets old faster after they gave birth? My father in law didn't help either.. my boyfriend was studying overseas and his father told his mum that this relationship will not last coz I'm in Singapore and he is overseas. My boyfriend only comes back every six months (btw, overseas uni. gets a school holiday quarterly) and in his last year his mum insists on him to only come back after his graduated. Meaning I won't get to see him for a year and a half. On the other hand, his younger brother gets to come back as an when he likes. Seems like he was never studying overseas!!
Back to the topic, my boyfriend was also quite dense back then coz I'm his first gf and he was a mummy's boy. Back then, sometimes I was thinking what the heck I was doing with a guy younger and suffer in silence for how his parents treated me. His dad treats me like invisible and his mum pretends to like me but back stab me in front of her neighbour who happened to attend the same church as I was. That's how I get to know about all her 'complaints' about me. His dad is some bigshot in some MNC and his mum will only like to be known as a 'golf tai tai' or xiao jie. Never AUNTY. The only consolation back then was his younger bro who is nice to me but now changes also becoz he has a 'bxxxx' as a gf. Btw, she went after him and not the other way round. And the parents absolutely love her. The grandma loves me at the same time also praises the 'b' in front of the parents because her is what she says: she (the 'b') wanted me to what.. that's why she is so nice to me. I've done her (the 'b') a good job and now my tasks is done.. Is the granny cute or what? =)
Anyway, into the second year of my boyfriend's uni, he proposed. I was rather hesitant but ultimately accepted becoz he said he'lll start facing his parents. We kept it a secret becoz I'm always a very. private person. But due to peer pressure in the uni. to join all sorts of activities, my boyfriend's grades dropped. For his career, getting a 2/2 in grades is a no no. So after much deliberation and thinking of our future, I quit my job and went overseas to join him bringing all my savings with me. I know it's a bold move but I have this feeling that I'm doing the right thing. Not knowing that I'm joining my bf and thought that she has convinced my bf not to come back for holiday, she was shocked when my bf informed her to pass his fees to me as I would be joining him. you should look at her face. ha..ha..
Fast track, bf graduated with honours and we came back. They were shock that we're getting married. When bf asked her about his FD savings, she said she has used it for his uni. fees.?? What the?? Not only that his dad promised that he will foot all the bills for the wedding (not that we are counting on it), he backed out in the last minute. After much cold treatment from my bf, he unwillingly handed the check only mins later his mum came and told us that she will be getting all the red-packets from us. Not wanting to argue I told bf to just give all to her. On that day she really took away all our wedding red packets.
Fast track again, now my bro in law is going overseas to study. He incidentally placed his uni. check on the living room and my hubby happened to past by. He saw a GBP 19,500 written on it. My brother in law is studying a course that costs much lesser than my hubby and he has this obscene amt to spend and my hubby had merely GBP 15,000 and need to pack 10 chicken legs from market every week back to his hostel which is a few kilometres away coz the chicken legs only costs GBP 2 to let him survive for the whole week wherelse my brother in law has catered meals in the hostel and go clubbing every weekend!! AND dont't forget my mother in law uses my hubbys FD savings to pay for his studies!!
Fast track again, hubby get a respectable job and earnings are passable, we were looking for a flat and I was pregnant. Hooray!! thought everything will tone down and go on smoothly. How wrong I was. mother in law didn't make life easy. She told us no need to get a bigger flat (5room) just get a small studio or 3room flat coz her friend's dog is staying in one room...?? She is comparing her unborn grandchild to a dog?? Also, coz I was pregnant, granny refuse to let us moved out. mother in law bought king mackerel as fish for me every week! King mackerel ?? hello, high in mercury and bad for baby's brain? Bought all the white vegetables and no green vegetables. If not for the fish oil, calcium and folic acid prescribed by my doc. I really dont't know where I'm going to provide all these when my baby was in my tummy. Also, my iron was low so the doc recommended me to stay in bed and ate more red meat ie. beef. After much argument with my hubby (and my hubby paid her), my mother in law unwillingly bought tiny amt of beef for me and chicken for the rest of the family for my whole pregnancy. She claims that the beef has reach the budget for the grocery exp and they can't afford other things (dont't forget, they are rich) sounds like she is trying to get my brother in law and my granny in law to hate me right. The worst that I felt during this whole situation wasn't pity for myself, rather I pitied my granny in law coz my mother in law has never been nice to her before and in this situation, she is stuck with chicken, no pork or fish as I can't share beef with her becoz she is a buddhist. While my mother in law and father in law always dine out on Tues, Fri, Sat and Sun. After much calculation of how much nutrition I need for my whole pregnancy throughout, I had mee suah soup with sliced pork/ beef, spinach or broccoli and whole egg for lunch (hubby bought all these and stuffed into the freezer) and he packed nutritious dinner when he comes home after work. In between I snack on crackers. My mother in law complained about how much things we stuffed in their fridge and how much space we used for to store the baby stuffs.
Almost to the end of my pregnancy, I had little complication and had to go to the hospital. Hubby do not know the route and asked if she knows. She has no compassion. Saying that this is part and parcel in the pregnancy. There is no need to rush. This time round, my father in law finally had a little bit of humane. He told me to pack my bag and he is sending me directly to the hospital. I was in there for 2-3 days before discharging and throughout, only my family and granny came to see me. Her reaction: she (me) is not giving birth yet what! That was the time I felt like I was having a holiday in the hospital and reluctant to get discharge.
Fast track again, I was about to give birth. Returned home to pack all stuffs and granny was worried.. as usual.. =) In the hospital for 2 nights and then emergency c-sect becoz baby refuse to descend. They came and visit and claimed that baby looked like them!! Again, in the hospital, everything was fine.
Back home, becoz of all the stairs at home, I was confined in the room and with a c-sect, I can't lift anything not even my legs high up. Know what? I tore my stitch on the first week. Reason? As you know confinement women always use a kind of herb to shower right and more or less it's black. mother in law told my confinement lady: dont't stain my bathroom floor!! Period. So my confinement lady told me to climb into the bathtub to shower and that tore my stitch!! I did not scold my confinement lady and she was so guilty as she saw how much pain I was in. At night, hubby came back and found out what happened. He was super pissed. But again, cannot move out coz I had c-sect and still in confinement. So had to wait until everything is over. Worst of all, I had to be opened up and stitch back again! But I waited until my baby was fed with breastmilk for 4 months before I agree to be open up for stitching again coz after that, my breastmilk dried up. Also, she kept asking me how long I intend to breast feed my baby? She says she only fed my hubby one month and my bro in law, 2 weeks. She says it's very troublesome. Then why do you have kids for? Just enjoying the process of making and not bother about how to raise them?
Fast track, baby was sick refuse to eat and drink. She says no need to send to hospital (by then we move already and she invited herself over) just give over counter medication. During then, H1N1 was on the rise. In my heart I know something was wrong. I called a cab and went to the hospital with my baby and my new maid coz she refuse to send us there and I dont't have a license yet. Doctor diagnose baby caught H1N1 virus. She just kept quiet when she was finally there with my father in law. My father in law insisted on coming to visit baby after work(lucky he still has his humane side, otherwise I will ban them from seeing their grandchild). Hubby didn't talk to her throughout. Baby still didn't drink water and she force fed him water until he vomitted. That was the last straw. I chased her out of the hospital room.
From then on, she called, hubby didn't pick up. She called me, I passed the phone to hubby. She complained we didn't visit them.. those went deaf ears becoz they only want us to go over when they are not playing golf or when it is raining or when it suits them. Not us and not their grand child. We are and never will be their priority. In fact, we did go over to visit granny. Just that they were out playing golf. They showered all their friends and their friends kids with attention and pays for everything. But NEVER to their sons and now grandchild. I am blessed that my hubby can turn from a mummy's boy to a grown man in such short time and I know some pple are still suffering from this. Honestly all that I've written above I've also suffered for ten years or more.. I just want to say that there is light at the end of the tunnel and just stay strong. dont't let them wear you down or beat you out. I'm now praying that my granny will find the light at the end of the tunnel soon coz she is still being bullied..

End of the day, we need to stand by our husband. Be there for them always. That's when he will understand who is true to him.

 

[Excited Mummy]

Please stay strong, you have a baby to look forward too. Perhaps the man will change once you have a baby? *hugs*

Thank you, peppermint, for your encouragement. *Hugs*
Last nite, my hubby and I had a big arguement again bcos of them. He said even if they don't change, I should be the one who change.

 

[Excited Mummy]

Eliza, thank you for your sharing. You really have the resilience to put up with them. I'm happy that your husband stands by you and supports you.
*Hugs*

 

[noelsmum]

Last nite, my hubby and I had a big arguement again bcos of them. He said even if they don't change, I should be the one who change.

I think it's time that you and your husband have a talk. Ask him point blank who is more important? But talk in a calm manner and discuss with him. You have to convince him that you're priority now. And if you're staying with your in laws, then it's time to move out asap. I strongly believe that living with in laws can cause a lot of friction. Plus some of these MILs give their daughter in laws the same treatment as their MILs give them. They think that it's normal. To them, you have to prove to me that you deserve my love. And worst case scenario, you have to show that if everything does fail, you're willing to walk away with your head held high. That's what I told my husband once. I told him that if he lets his parents come between us and not protect me, I will not hesitate to walk away with my head held high. I told him that I do not need his financial support and I can support myself and my bestie in States is always there with her arms and door open for me. And he knows that very clear. Sometimes MILs and husbands walk all over their daughter in laws and wife because we allow them to do it in some ways by keeping quiet and not fighting back. And I'm not encouraging you to fight back but rather stand up for your own rights and if you do, they'll respect you more.

 

[xiaodaisy]

Gosh!! You gave her keys to your house?? I WILL not. Yea, you are right. She is the sort of mother who allows her son to do whatever he likes, even so it will harm him. I think it is more of her being afraid that her son will to give her money anymore. As I've said earlier, she will be that sort who doesnt want us to have kids because she is worried that once baby comes along, her son will give her less allowance and of course, less attention. Evil heart she is!! She didn't do her part as a mother last time, cos she's always out for MJ and because of bad influence, my husband also plays MJ daily since secondary school, even during exams period. But luckily, he is smart and now doing well in a bank.

My in-laws are not highly educated - think secondary. The witch should be 63 (born in the year of Tiger) works as a clerk in the government board - the really 9 to 5 job. When she found out that me and hubby always worked till very late, she will tell us she doesn't because her colleagues will say that she is trying to show off and she said,"if I finished my work today, then tomorrow do what?". So it's really the old school gov sect style. Good life isn't it? And the thing is, she doesn't even has to take on a second job, her free time is go play MJ, go Bottomslim centers, go diamond peel facials. And yet, she always tell her son this,"Mummy very Poorthing and Sua Koo (mountain tortoise)"

Before she is about to retire, she act like she's a saint. Said her plan is to go Kong Meng San temple to do volunteer work after her retirement - that's why she move over so close to us at Sin Ming (w/o us knowing) And she used to stay at Lakeview - just 5 mins away. I am glad that we have now move out of Sin Ming and far away from her. Bet she's jumping mad but she wouldn't show, she will start all sort of nonsense to hint to us - which she already started.

Now that she retires, she goes play MJ daily. Never hear her mention about going to Kong Meng San to do volunteer work. She said her Niece has a small office, asked her if she wants to go over to do part time. Witch said she doesn't want to work anymore, she wants to enjoy old age and so what if niece offers to pay her, she is not interested. Arrogant right?!! Because you know why? Her son gives her money every month to enjoy. And she sold Lakeview for $900k, so much cash she has, she dont't need to work at all! She doesn't even need to withdraw cash from her CPF, says she wants to keep it there for high interest rates. And yet, she always tell her son that,"mummy very poor want, mummy need to save money for retirement age, mummy very poor never have branded bags, etc". Isn't she already at retirement stage? So she's a lazy bum, doesn't want to work yet wants to control all our money. Just On Sunday, she was telling us her friend's daughter who is a lawyer, is very good to the mother. She knows that her mother now old already and retired with nothing to do, so she got her mother the membership to the Casino - that she is such good girl and treats the mother so well. Ahem! What is she trying to hint?!!

Luckily my husband now smarter, as in I managed to talk him into looking at our future instead. Saving up for our futureand our kids if we have any later. And he's doing it well, if not, I tell you he will save all his money with his mother!!! And at the end of the day his money becomes her money. And it happened to us before.

When we got married, we bought a condo at Sin Ming. My husband told his mother that he needs the cash in the bank account (these are my husband's money! All his bonuses, etc). Inititally I didn't know he took the money out from their joint account. Many years later, his cousin told me that that witch was bitching to her that WE actually went to BEG her for cash to pay the first installment for the condo!!! I was mad. I went back to question my hubby and he explained to me. He said mummy was very ok for him to take the money out and those were his money!! I said, "your mother has been telling other that WE BEG HER FOR IT!". My husband even tell me that he puts the money back to the account within two months. The part which the witch didn't tell others. Now he knows what sort of mother she is.

my hubby gave it to her de , he gave 1 set to my mom and he asked could he give his mom also ? i was like , to be fair lor .. wat to do , altho my family didnt really like my hubby but my mom sometimes oso will say me of not doing my duty as wife and side hubby a little whereas his mom is totally side him no matter who is right .. sickening

yest ask hubby how old is his mom , 65 , heng she's not lazy and like to work therefore she only able to come when she got off days .. phew ~

ur hubby giving her money every mth? she asked for it ? my hubby nvr give his mom a single cent cos we always say we're poor , own family alrdy got problem , where got money give his mom .. so his mom is the one giving us money instead , partly also bcos of the only grandson left in family lor , else guess she wont be so nice either

his mom like to be saint huh , beg her for the money like u all very pathetic for her money like tat .. so mean of her to say those lor

My mother in law also didnt want to buy Si Dian Jin for me initially (even though she is a Teochew & should know)! In fact, my in-laws claimed that they dont't know the traditions and customs too as 1st time they are getting a daughter-in-law and that when one of their daughters got married, they said their daughter's in-laws didnt gv them anything. My mother in law wanted to just pass me a jade bangle that supposedly her mother in law gv to her. But I dont wear jade bangle at all.

Princessyuki, i really feel very sorry for you. Your in-laws are really scary! Goodness. Dont even treat people with compassion. How can they make such comments and subject you to such treatment! caused you to lose your 1st baby...

I know my mother in law also secretly wishes my hubby and I would always quarrel and we would end up in a divorce. In fact, before he wanted to marry me, she said a lot of nasty things about me to him etc. (In fact, I think my mother in law is also capable of saying the things your mother in law said - whether my baby is fathered by my hubby.)

But my hubby is too much of a mummy's boy to put an end to her nonsense. He thinks that as younger generation, we should always give in to them. But I said not when they make sarcastic comments, or being insensitive.

I really dislike my in-laws. in fact, one of my hubby's sisters even once said that if he marry me, she would die for him to see cos she did not like me and deliberately swept the dishes on the table and splashed hot soup onto me during a dinner. That was after my hubby (then bf) told her not to pick at the food and pick the piece she wanted to eat, to avoid her saliva all over the food. She was very irritated and flared up at me and said i dont't share the same surname as them & I should just get out of the house. I rem these wods she said but I dont recall her shouting that if he marry me, she would die.

My hubby told me about her words after his sister really died of an illness. I felt very bad. He said he felt worse. Even though i know she died of an illness and it's through no fault of mine, these words pierce through my heart like needles. In fact, when we were about to have the wedding dinner, she had a relapse and everyone's mood was affected. I was very upset and kept crying at home because I was afraid I would be perceived to be a jinx to the family. My mum said I should not be so upset. And when I'm pregnant this year, his sister passed away.

I really dont't understand. I used to treat them very well. But after putting up with the way they treat me, i decided I should give tit for that or simply not go to their place. Although I'm not fat, well within normal range of BMI, my hubby and his sisters are really skinny. Not only his mum used to insult me about my weight, even his sister would say stupid things like "who is fatter, you or the maid?" SO RUDE! (1) How can she compare her future sister-in-law to the maid? (2) I'm definitely not even as heavyweight as the maid.

Quarrelled with hubby last nite cos of them again. Some times, I really feel that if I have known his family is like that, I would not have started the relationship with him... I think I need to be strong, or else I may lapse into post-natal depression.

gosh , ur hubby rly quite a mummy boy , bear with it , maybe aftter baby is out will be better as he will be a higher rank of being a daddy and might change for th ebetter

 

[Eliza]

His mother will always use this statement. "I am the mother what, why I cannot do this?" "This is my son's house, why I must call?" She always abuses her authority.

Oh did I tell you, now that I moved out of my condo, she has been walking over there to swim weekly!! Unbelievable right?? Seriously, why so hard up on swimming?? Grandma said, and I bet you these are his mother's words, "last time when you all (me and K) stayed there, she seldom go over to swim. now she goes over weekly, she is so happy." Maybe I should burn her a swimming pool next time. *evil*

And they say we must try to communicate with MILs right? You tell me, my mother in law will always treat me as 'not there'. Like when we were shifting house, etc. She will ask only the son, "Do you need mummy to come over to help you?" She wouldn't talk to me.

Actually some MILs are quite stupid. They think that by attacking the DILs, they can get away with it and perhaps can get rid of the DILs. Actually, they give us the upper hands to deal with them even better!!

I hope when our generation becomes MILs next, please please dont't behave like them, the nasty ones. Work things the smart way!

Gosh, my MIL said that too!! But my hubby did reply to her: becoz that's RUDE!! hahas..

 

[cseen]

I agree! living together, there's bound to have friction.. imagine our upbringing and hb's are already different, don't you think to live with hb and to give and take and nonsenses already take alot of effort so to live with their mums will definitely not be easy..after reading thru the forum, i realise I am very fortunate thou I used to have alot of conflicts with MIL, i used to dislike her, but now she's looking after my baby so give and take also.. although sometimes she gives me nonsense esp now baby is having solid food, I am so scare she anyhow feed my baby with stuffs which I don't allow.Hb is somewhat in the middle of me and his mum, he trys to stay very neutral, but I will always talk sense to him if I find anything wrong.
I am lucky, we move out before decided to get married, if not I think I will go bongus also to stay with her..she doesn't like me too and always complain abt me to BIL when I used to stay there ( back than hb still my bf) now we stay like 2 bus stop away which is gd enough la if anything happens.. occasionally if I don't like something I will tell her straight on the face, don't care you like it anot. Example she keep wanting to feed my 2mo baby water where I explain to her no need coz she's a full bfeeding baby, there's enough water content.. she keep saying baby hiccups and v heartache to see baby like this. Come on, I'm the mother if there's anything wrong I will be more heartache and moreover I do my read up also. and best part she knows she can't convince my hubby to give baby water, she go and tell hb's elder bro who has 2 big boys and hb's bro come and tell me to give waste WTF right, who is the mother now? I told him on the face , breastfeeding baby doesn't need water , don't you know that? or yr 2 boys isn't on bmilk???? don't like my baby to put baby powder she also need to tell my BIL, funny anot?
I have my reasons right.. how you brot up your kids that's your problem and how I want to raise my child is my problem too.. sometimes i regret to let her look after but to see she loves my baby also , i feel safe rather to let baby put in infant care and get sicks all the time. the most recent nonsense is she gives baby fish, which I don't want to because I'm afraid of allergy , already agree to let her try pork and she keep on wanting to try her luck to give other stuff.. you have your whole life to eat, why is there a need to be so anxious?? and don't come and tell me how you raise your kid, I'm not keen at all and to know that how veg are planted now, how animals are rear and how fishes are injected with toxins just to get the colour etc..
and to put something in a 6mo mouth , do I as a mother who is educated need to think through? i rather been called a kiasu mum than to risk my baby's little gut.. so back to the fish story, baby end up react to the fish and she faster defend herself by saying it could be heat rash .. whatever it is , you should just listen to us and ped right?
anyway after hb scold her, she stick to veg again..
there's never ending also to all this.. but what I wana say is either ignore MIL's nonsense or don't get so "involved" AT ALL.

 

[Eliza]

yes, karma!!
whn she knew i was preggie she wished that I abort it away. asked me to clean this n that, climb here n there, paint the house, clean the window. (all these was done before we rom) she have gt 2daughters but do not understand why she can't ask her daughters to do it.

whn I miscarriage she wished that her son will not marry me anymore cos no more baby, but still hubby wanna go ahead wid what has been planned, be it wid baby or w/o. I was so devastated wid the loss of our little one and she have the cheeks to call hubby while we r in the hospital n rush hubby to go home for dinner (we are waiting for the cleaning surgery of miscarriage as our little one die insides me) never once did my 'mother in law' or 'father in law' acc us to hospital, it's always my parents who put off their work n come b wid us.

After ROM she wished we would divorce and even told my mum I have no upbringing n my brains grow grass. I shld have rebutted on the upbringing part cos both the daughters have none of it. they never once call me 'dao sao' or even acknowledge me and yet they have more upbringing then me?? tsk tsk. I srly have no idea what are they thinking.

'father in law' thinks his 2daughters very precious and said 'I no son nvm one. I still gt my 2 baobei daughterand many godsons' Now are the daughter gonna pass dw his surname or his godson will follow his surname?? srly no brains. and even told hubby wife run away thn find new one !! like srly as if they very rich like that.

we dont't even have a wedding banquet (partly cos I dont't want it and another part is they can't even afford to open just 1 table!!) say rom jiu can no need customary or what. wtf!! and say until I after their money (they r poor ass wid no savings, father in law have to bootlick sister In law's bf family) father in law never once saw my parents! never even come up to my house to discuss about wedding stuffs, never turn up for our rom(claims that gt to work!! whn my whole family put off their work to attend my rom!!)

we moved out of their house after knowing I was preggie again, never once did they ask about this baby. after I gave birth, my mum was nice enuff to let my hubby inform his parents. they came to the hospital the next day n never even acknowledge my parents whn saw them!! best was I'm bf-ing behind the curtains n they just opened it!!! lucky I finish bf-ing!!! afterwhich they never cane to visit me n even ask hubby to bring Bby go his grandma house let grandma see. I was like ' my grandma have to come visit me frm so far so what makes your grandma so big that I have to bring Bby to HDR personally!???' I was still doing my confinement!!!

we never went back for cny this yr n I'm not gg back next yr too. baby have not once set foot in their house yet and will never do so.

Ur situation is so similar to my sisters'. Yes both my sister and I have crap in-laws. I have an updated version of my story in the earlier post. My sister has a heart condition and an even hard time trying to concieve and to have a child is a dangerous thing. When she was in her last trimester her in-laws (her husband is NSmen) made her go downstairs of their flat coz her husband's elder brother and SIL don't like her. Imagine what if she collapse downstairs!
Anyway, they never treated her husband nicely when he was younger favouring the elder son. So when my BIL heard what they did to my sister after he went home at night, he called my elder bro and my elder bro rushed down to move both of them to my parents place. But my BIL was still in touch with his younger sis and when my sister gave birth, his younger sis informed their parents. My sister's FIL did not inform anyone that he is coming and just appeared after my sister gave birth. She was still in her hospital gown resting and just gave birth and managed to escape death (her heart stopped for a few second!!) and this stupid idiot just barged in and flung the curtain opened!! I was overseas back then and if I were there, I'll definitely make sure this stupid bugger gets what he deserve for treating my sister like crap. Anyways, my sister gave birth to a healthy baby boy. But that didn't stop there. They kept calling my BIL and tell him to put their name in my sisters flat (my BIL and my sister were getting a flat). hello, my sister paid for it. Why should they put their bugger names on it? Luckily my father has retired and I was earning rather well before I left for overseas. So their financial was alright and my parents helped take care of my nephew. Then two years later, my sister and her family moved to her current place. Guess what? The in-laws somehow managed to stalk them to their new home. My sister saw them at the void deck and she got frightened. She called my father and me and we rushed down to her home. My father armed with broom (LOL) and I was ready to whack the hell out of them if they dare to show up and grab their unacknowledged grandson. My BIL rushed back from his camp and it was like a world war III at the void deck. My BIL told them to bugger off. That was seven years ago. Now, they tried sms my BIL to go back for CNY and my BIL told them he is busy with my parents who treated him more like a son than they do and he is not interested in keeping contact with them.

 

[Eliza]

A few years ago, we were already living in HK at that time, in the course of hubby's weekly conversation with his mum, he found out that his dad lost all his teeth and that it'll take forever to wait for his turn at the polyclinic to get his dentures made. On top of that, he's diabetic and so it complicates things. He was losing lots of weight by them and he was basically eating congee. My mum is a dental assistant in a private clinic, I took the initiative to call my mum and get my mum to fix appointment for FIL, and told her that we'll pick up the tab. Clinic is in Orchard Road and then specialist in Joo Chiat. When we came back for a 4 week holiday, I ferried by FIL up and down to get his teeth fixed. When he saw the dentist, the dentist was alarmed and he said that my FIL was malnourished. What made me mad was my brother in law, husband's younger brother and wife live in Spore. Every day, they drop their kid off there and have dinner in my laws place and they don't see that my FIL had issues with his teeth. They simply didn't care. Freaking selfish. And when I stepped in to help and fix things, no word of thanks and now, I've no family upbringing. And yes, we picked up the bill. I told hubby to tell his parents not to worry as we'll pick up the tab.

That's so nice of you to do that. I hope in their heart they will appreciate what you did for them.

 

[Eliza]

My MIL is also very health-conscious and always like to say this is unhealthy, that is unhealthy etc.
I know everything needs to be taken in moderation. I cannot take it when she keeps on saying and nagging. My MIL is into direct sales mkting and she will sell various products at different times, depending on the latest fad. Different types of health supplements. She will give some of the products to her children to try (son & daughters) but she has never offered to me anything.

During my several mths of pregnancy (34 weeks now), only once they prepared bird's nest soup for me and asked my hubby to bring to me. It was because my hubby asked them to prepare for me. You think they would do it on their own initiative? So what if the baby boy I'm carrying will help to carry on the family lineage? They don't even show enough care and concern to me.

In fact, for our housewarming, they didn't even give us any ang pow! I'm not expecting a lot. Just a token sum for blessing. Neither did they bother to attend our housewarming lunch reception. MIL busy with her direct sales seminar. FIL was overseas. In contrast, my parents attended and gave us an ang pow to give their blessings.

For our wedding, my parents-in-law only gave us the ang pow during tea ceremony. Actually my FIL still owed me the $$ for 2 tables as he donated the ang pows away. I paid for the wedding dinner reception using my credit card. I didn't ask him for it until this year (more than 1 year later) and he still doesn't pay me back. He said my husband should be the one who pays me. But he was the one who donated the money to his association!

Both my hubby and I paid a lot of money for our wedding expenses (honeymoon, photo shoot, wedding dinner) and our own home & renovation. I don't expect my parents-in-law to pay anything for us, but at least they should not make things worse! (They are super stingy! They didn;t even bother to give token sum ang pows to my 3 'jie meis' during my wedding when we went over for tea ceremony... My parents, unlike them, gave ang pows to everyone, including my hubby's 3 'xiong dis', make-up artist, videographer, photographer.)

The things I have done for them I do not wish to repeat, as I have mentioned them in the Jan 2012 Mummies page. It is just not reciprocal.

I wonder when our baby boy is born, whether they would even give an ang pow or buy a set of baby clothes for our baby!

Ur MIL is really similar to my MIL. Don't even bother to wonder will they give ang pow or not. Just concentrate to give birth to a healthy, happy and cheerful baby and after that just surround your world with your new baby. When u have a baby, u will uncover the kind of energy and courage that you never had. I had always tried not to be bothered with my in-laws until my baby was born. I often swallowed whatever they threw at me until the day my baby was born and when he got sick. That's when I reached my tolerant level and blasted. My sister always said that I'm a tigress (I'm NOT born in the year of tiger) at home how come after marriage I'm becoming a hermit. So that's when I've become back to my old self. Not to be bothered by anyone or anything. In fact, my hubby loved it when I'm back to my old self and not being suppressed by his parents. If u have your husband to back u up, good. Not not, seek refuge in ur own family and try to find ur old self back before all these nonsense started. Have confidence in urself especially u will have a young one to look after soon. PM me if u need to talk.

 

[princessyuki]

Ur situation is so similar to my sisters'. Yes both my sister and I have crap in-laws. I have an updated version of my story in the earlier post. My sister has a heart condition and an even hard time trying to concieve and to have a child is a dangerous thing. When she was in her last trimester her in-laws (her husband is NSmen) made her go downstairs of their flat coz her husband's elder brother and SIL don't like her. Imagine what if she collapse downstairs!
Anyway, they never treated her husband nicely when he was younger favouring the elder son. So when my BIL heard what they did to my sister after he went home at night, he called my elder bro and my elder bro rushed down to move both of them to my parents place. But my BIL was still in touch with his younger sis and when my sister gave birth, his younger sis informed their parents. My sister's FIL did not inform anyone that he is coming and just appeared after my sister gave birth. She was still in her hospital gown resting and just gave birth and managed to escape death (her heart stopped for a few second!!) and this stupid idiot just barged in and flung the curtain opened!! I was overseas back then and if I were there, I'll definitely make sure this stupid bugger gets what he deserve for treating my sister like crap. Anyways, my sister gave birth to a healthy baby boy. But that didn't stop there. They kept calling my BIL and tell him to put their name in my sisters flat (my BIL and my sister were getting a flat). hello, my sister paid for it. Why should they put their bugger names on it? Luckily my father has retired and I was earning rather well before I left for overseas. So their financial was alright and my parents helped take care of my nephew. Then two years later, my sister and her family moved to her current place. Guess what? The in-laws somehow managed to stalk them to their new home. My sister saw them at the void deck and she got frightened. She called my father and me and we rushed down to her home. My father armed with broom (LOL) and I was ready to whack the hell out of them if they dare to show up and grab their unacknowledged grandson. My BIL rushed back from his camp and it was like a world war III at the void deck. My BIL told them to bugger off. That was seven years ago. Now, they tried sms my BIL to go back for CNY and my BIL told them he is busy with my parents who treated him more like a son than they do and he is not interested in keeping contact with them.

i guess my in-laws are worse..

there was once i argued wid hub and thn he banged the table, mil immed called fil and say: u still dont wan come home ar.. the hse gonna be tear down by both of them le.. ur son n dil.
i was so pissed i left the hse w/o the keys.

Whn fil home, he asked my hub where am i and said to call me to come bk WITHIN 5MINS! and even wanna change the lock so that i cant come home. im nt a dog that hv to listen to him. and even told my hus 'wife run away thn nvm la. find new one' max pissed...

my parents treated my hub much more better thn hw in-laws treat me..

 

[Excited Mummy]

noelsmum, nope, we are not living together. we bought our own place. i told my hubby b4 we got married that i wld only marry him if we live on our own. but we live 2 streets across his parents. he thinks it's very far! he actually prefers to live next door to his parents or in the same block, which i don't want. anyway, when we were about to buy our place, there was no ad of any unit for sale in his parents' block.
i actually told my hubby that i'm financially independent and able to bring up our kid on my own. and if he really thinks i'm the one who cause his sister's death, i can file for a divorce any time.