relatives like to compare!

[apollo]

i've recently ust gave birth to my baby boy..

my relatives came to visit me and ds recently and asked what brand milk powder i gave him.. when i told them i'm giving him friso, they keep asked me y i dun wanna give him those brand like similac or enfalac which are more good..

but they keep sounds lik even if my finance is only normal and not those well off kind, also must get those best brand for ds... and partly becos my cousins gave their baby similac/enfalac so it seems lik i'm a stingy mother cos i chose friso for him.. some keep asked me to change to the other brand asap cos friso is not good and cause their baby to hav constipation... but me, hubby and my mum feel tt there's no nd to change as my ds is okay with friso so far...


another thing is, they keep compare my ds with my cousin's.. saying hw come my ds is so small compared with my cousin's, why my ds has lesser hair, y my ds is not as chubby as my cousin's...

I really hate it!!!!!!! now i still can dun care them but i dun wish when ds grow older they still compare! i noe the feeling of being compare by adults and i dun wish ds to hav this kind of "stress" in future cos of those relatives comparing his height, look, hair, results etc...

and 1 of the relatives asked me if i have bathe ds befoe on my own, i said no, so far CL is doing it and she said "wow u so hao ming! anything also dun nd to do and dun hav to learn hor?" tt time i just gave birth less than 2 weeks,everyone including CL, family, relatives asked me not to touch water if can and can only learn hw to bathe baby aft 2 weeks yet she said tt! And she asked again what I knowhow to do other than just resting at hm? i was so pissed off and reply her "other than bathing my son, everything i also know! changing diaper, clean his poo, wipe him, feed him....."

i'm so sad and bothered abt their sarcastic comments,though sometimes they didn't make it too straight.. i'm doing partial BF-ing but no one "praise" or encourage me at all... all they know is to give sarcastic remarks..

 

[Ashbaby]

I have a cousin who is like tt. I just cant careless.

 

[Phoebii Cheng]

Relatives are like tht....dun bother too much by what they say lah......

It's ur own child, so u give to ur child the best that u think u can give...so long as they r healthy and well, who cares abt which brand of milk powder right? Hey, my son is oso drinking Friso......ancing_wub:

And it is good that u r oso BF ur son too, cos' in the beginning I oso partial BF my son.....hehehe

Actually, the CL is suppose to take care of bb so tht u hv enough rest......& it includes bathing the bb too. Is ur relatives those aunties? Normally it is those aunties who like to compare and talk......just dun bother, tht time during my confinement, my sis in law oso said a lot of things plus my MIL, but just take it with a good heart.....after all they dun stay with me, so I just do what I deem fit.

 

[elainesoh07]

Ppl love to compare so you just ignore what they say. As long as you find that your bb is growing and healthy is the most important thing. Cos not all bb is fit to drink every milk powder in the market. Furthermore you also half breast feed your bb which is good also.... Dun take it to heart just take it as they are singing lor...

 

[Queenbabe]

Regina ,

Jus dont care about what people say , is their mouth .. we cannot do anything also .... just smile at them will do ... then they will automatic shut their mouth ... :001_302:

 

[apollo]

Relatives are like tht....dont bother too much by what they say ......

It's your own child, so you give to your child the best that you think you can give...so long as they are healthy and well, who cares about which brand of milk powder right? Hey, my son is also drinking Friso......ancing_wub:

And it is good that you are also BF your son too, cos' in the beginning I also partial BF my son.....hehehe

Actually, the CL is suppose to take care of baby so tht you have enough rest......& it includes bathing the baby too. Is your relatives those aunties? Normally it is those aunties who like to compare and talk......just dont bother, tht time during my confinement, my sis in law also said a lot of things plus my mother in law, but just take it with a good heart.....after all they dont stay with me, so I just do what I deem fit.

ya tt's y i'm taking this chance to rest before the CL left.. but was so shock was she said tt since i'm so free at hm y dun i bathe my own baby... when they're here i cant even rest.. they played mahjong, so loud tt i slp halfway gonna wake up and no one feel paiseh at all...

there was once when she saw me when i was preg and tt time i wasn't wking.. she said i'm a "xian ren" means extremely free person with lotsa time at hm!!

ya they're those aunties who speak without thinking..

they used to take me and other cousins and compare..i know my family is not as well off and i'm not as socialise but sometime their words really hurts.. for me, i somehow immune le but just dun wanna their them to take my ds to compare cos i dun take other ppl to compare... haiz..:embarrassed:

 

[apollo]

Ppl love to compare so you just ignore what they say. As long as you find that your baby is growing and healthy is the most important thing. Cos not all baby is fit to drink every milk powder in the market. Furthermore you also half breast feed your baby which is good also.... dont take it to heart just take it as they are singing ...

tt's y my mum said dun change if friso is okay as currently my ds is okay with it.. (cross my finger) :tlaugh:

 

[apollo]

Regina ,

just dont care about what people say , is their mouth .. we cannot do anything also .... just smile at them will do ... then they will automatic shut their mouth ... :001_302:

smile at them?? i alrdy feel lik slapping them alrdy hw to smile?? HAHA!!! :001_302:

 

[Queenbabe]

smile at them?? i alrdy feel lik slapping them alrdy hw to smile?? HAHA!!! :001_302:

The more u angry the more they r happy hahahaha .......

 

[flyaway]

*Hugs*
Don't bother about these 'sian ren'... They are too free to make such comments. Afterall its your son mah, why they wanna kapo so much? I think I would just laugh and comment, "Aiyah, its my son lar...My son drinks what I bought...unless u wanna sponsor??" *evil grin*
Its easier for those relatives to make such loose comment easily. They are not the one forking out the money. One tin of Enfa milk powder cost close to 40 bucks. So siong to let our darlings drink the so-called premium brand. I am feeling the pinch too hence switch from Enfa to Friso but unfortunately my darling is not reacting well to Friso, seemed to have phlegm ever since we start her on Friso. MIL said we should give the better formula to baby even though its more costly. Who doesn’t want to give their baby the best? Now, I am trying to give my DD breastmilk and supplement with formula milk. Somemore, I am trying my best to boost my breastmilk supply to the extend of taking domperidone. Domperidone pills are also expensive...Haiz, its so expensive to give our babies the best. But I think if we shower our babies with most care and love, this one is priceless lor...Got money also cannot buy.

 

[Queenbabe]

you are welcome Regina ...... anything 1 2 complain can come here ..... just remember to SMILE at them without saying anything hahaha ....... :tlaugh:

 

[apollo]

*Hugs*
dont't bother about these 'sian ren'... They are too free to make such comments. Afterall its your son mah, why they wanna kapo so much? I think I would just laugh and comment, "Aiyah, its my son ...My son drinks what I bought...unless you wanna sponsor??" *evil grin*
Its easier for those relatives to make such loose comment easily. They are not the one forking out the money. One tin of Enfa milk powder cost close to 40 bucks. So siong to let our darlings drink the so-called premium brand. I am feeling the pinch too hence switch from Enfa to Friso but unfortunately my darling is not reacting well to Friso, seemed to have phlegm ever since we start her on Friso. mother in law said we should give the better formula to baby even though its more costly. Who doesn’t want to give their baby the best? Now, I am trying to give my dear daughter breastmilk and supplement with formula milk. Somemore, I am trying my best to boost my breastmilk supply to the extend of taking domperidone. Domperidone pills are also expensive...sigh, its so expensive to give our babies the best. But I think if we shower our babies with most care and love, this one is priceless ...Got money also cannot buy.

even they wanna sponsor i also dun wan.. wat if ds dun suit tt brand?? one of themeven keep criticise ds's name say how come so diffi to pronouns, sounds lik girl's name.. i then reply "diffi to pronouns meh?? all my frens n even MIL can pronouns correct, maybe their english better!"

btw wat's the domperidone?? can realli increase BM?? where to get it an hw much?? anyone also can take?? no side effects?? hehe..:tlaugh:

 

[apollo]

you are welcome Regina ...... anything 1 2 complain can come here ..... just remember to SMILE at them without saying anything hahaha ....... :tlaugh:

ya tt's y i post this thread.. realli bth lo.. even my hubby's salary also wanna compare.. so i always tell my mum if they ask hw much my hubby earns, just tell them 10K per mth!:001_302:

 

[flyaway]

I think usually for no underlying medical condition, you can take domperidone provided that you have tried other methods to increase ur breast supply. If not, see GP or lactation consultant first if you are worried. Taking drugs is usually the last resort.

Think you could get from pharmacies with a pharmacist. The estimated cost is 50 cents plus per pill. For me, I took 2 pills x 3 times a day. That work out to be 3 dollar plus per day and I think need to take for at least 2 weeks? You can read more from here:

kellymom.com :: Newman :: Domperidone

 

[jazz_sofia]

haiz...i also suffer from this kind of stress...when i gve birth to my gal, my sil 'visited' me...the moment she went inside the hse, she looked at my gal and commented: 'hah, my daughter sarah is prettier than ur baby'...and some more side comments...whenever they see anything new in my hse, they comment "wow, new seats...tsk tsk...look at what money can do to peoples lives'....im pissed...but i replied to her "ahhh...i need to buy sofas so when u come here, u have sofas to sit down to' (then grin)...whenever she/they say something, i make sure i have an answer to throw back at them.

 

[apollo]

sigh...i also suffer from this kind of stress...when i gve birth to my gal, my sister In law 'visited' me...the moment she went inside the house, she looked at my gal and commented: 'hah, my daughter sarah is prettier than your baby'...and some more side comments...whenever they see anything new in my house, they comment "wow, new seats...tsk tsk...look at what money can do to peoples lives'....im pissed...but i replied to her "ahhh...i need to buy sofas so when you come here, you have sofas to sit down to' (then grin)...whenever she/they say something, i make sure i have an answer to throw back at them.

ur sil very thick skin leh say her own daughter prettier.. *shake head*

i also hope i can just shoot them back anytime but they r my aunties anf i know if i wan to be sarcastic, i can be VERY sarcastic... so everytime family gathering v stressful...

 

[Spiralng]

i've recently ust gave birth to my baby boy..

my relatives came to visit me and dear son recently and asked what brand milk powder i gave him.. when i told them i'm giving him friso, they keep asked me why i dont wanna give him those brand like similac or enfalac which are more good..

but they keep sounds lik even if my finance is only normal and not those well off kind, also must get those best brand for dear son... and partly becos my cousins gave their baby similac/enfalac so it seems lik i'm a stingy mother cos i chose friso for him.. some keep asked me to change to the other brand asap cos friso is not good and cause their baby to hav constipation... but me, hubby and my mum feel that there's no need to change as my dear son is okay with friso so far...


another thing is, they keep compare my dear son with my cousin's.. saying hw come my dear son is so small compared with my cousin's, why my dear son has lesser hair, why my dear son is not as chubby as my cousin's...

I really hate it!!!!!!! now i still can dont care them but i dont wish when dear son grow older they still compare! i know the feeling of being compare by adults and i dont wish dear son to hav this kind of "stress" in future cos of those relatives comparing his height, look, hair, results etc...

and 1 of the relatives asked me if i have bathe dear son befoe on my own, i said no, so far CL is doing it and she said "wow you so hao ming! anything also dont need to do and dont hav to learn ?" that time i just gave birth less than 2 weeks,everyone including CL, family, relatives asked me not to touch water if can and can only learn hw to bathe baby after 2 weeks yet she said that! And she asked again what I knowhow to do other than just resting at hm? i was so pissed off and reply her "other than bathing my son, everything i also know! changing diaper, clean his poo, wipe him, feed him....."

i'm so sad and bothered about their sarcastic comments,though sometimes they didn't make it too straight.. i'm doing partial BF-ing but no one "praise" or encourage me at all... all they know is to give sarcastic remarks..

Cool down...there are bound to be BIG mouth aunties...who like to give a lot of comments. My relatives also did the same thing. I just give them the BLUR look....then look behind them and say...ehh...someone calling me must go .....Don't pay attendtion to wat they say.

All the mummies here are very proud of you including me for partial bf cos i know it's not easy. U should rest more, they are not the ones taking care of the baby that's why they can pass loads of stupid remarks. Watever it is, just post your fustration here. If not, look at your cute little prince and block out their remarks mentally....ancing_tongue:

 

[EforEileen]

人比人比死人...
Just ignore them... the more u care the more angry u feel...
No need to get angry to tis kind of people who likes to show-off.

 

[apollo]

Cool down...there are bound to be BIG mouth aunties...who like to give a lot of comments. My relatives also did the same thing. I just give them the BLUR look....then look behind them and say...ehh...someone calling me must go .....dont't pay attendtion to what they say.

All the mummies here are very proud of you including me for partial bf cos i know it's not easy. you should rest more, they are not the ones taking care of the baby that's why they can pass loads of stupid remarks. Watever it is, just post your fustration here. If not, look at your cute little prince and block out their remarks mentally....ancing_tongue:

one thing i feel weird is, all my cousins didnt BF at all and some even took pain to stop the BM, no one criticise them.. 1 of my cousins even ask me remember to get pills from gynae before i discharge to stop the BM before it starts to flow out.... and those aunties of mine say until BF-ing is SO EASY even if one is doing total BF-ing!!!

ya whenever i see my ds, all the stress and xinku can be tempo thrown away.. :001_302:

 

[apollo]

人比人比死人...
Just ignore them... the more you care the more angry you feel...
No need to get angry to tis kind of people who likes to show-off.

hw i wish they understand this.. haha... i wont show them tt i'm angry but only "complain" to my family after they go back hehe:tlaugh: