apollo
Well-Known Member
though i've not encounter such pro with my mil but i still can understand how u feel cause i cant imagine one day my mil also do the same thing to me!Hi mummies,
I felt so hurt and depressed too!
today brought my dear son to pediatrician for his ear infection prob with husband... mother in law went with us too! becos i'm working, so mother in law is taking care of my dear son in the day.. husband fetched my mother in law and dear son and then fetched me from my office. So mother in law is carrying my dear son thruout. When we alighted from husband's car, I asked my husband can I carry my dear son. He then told mother in law to let me carry since I had whole day at work. But mother in law has no intention to let me carry at all! She just said " grandma carry " and walked away!!!
husband saw it and we both look at each other. We are still early so we went for dinner 1st. I ordered my food 1st, then once finished, I wanted to carry my dear son so that mother in law can eat her dinner. I asked my dear son, want mummy to carry anot, my dear son was so happy and happily kicking loh. But mother in law said its ok , she carried cos she's not hungry!! I just have this STRONG feeling that she dont wanna let me carry my dear son!!!!!!
husband saw it and asked mother in law to eat some food , then she passed my dear son to me so reluctantly! husband and I went to queue up at the clinic after our food. mother in law came shortly after and guess what??? She asked my dear son want to carry anot and she carry over and walked away again!
I was left sitting in the clinic. husband went up to mother in law and played with my dear son. After awhile husband carry over and dear son is being grouchy and he passed to me saying want mummy to carry, rite?? Then mother in law sit down by my side.
Lucky with husband's help,if not, i tink I dont need to see the doc with my son !! Cos mother in law will surely go in herself carrying my dear son loh!
When husband and I came out after seeing pediatrician, went up to dear son and asked want to carry anot. I kp quiet and husband said, dont want , kp passing here and there, dear son dont like one... Then she give up that thought!
you mummies know what??? On the day of discharge with my son, I'm not the one who carrying my dear son home, its my mother in law loh! I wanted to carry but mother in law didnt give any signal and just asked the nurse to pass her MY BABY!!!! There she go with my baby boy (in my father in law's car) and I was left all alone there to wait for my husband's car...
This is not the 1st time already! I really feel so hurtful and sad! why cant a mummy carry her own kid and still need to like so called " asked for permission"???? I really dont understand why!!!! Lucky, I didnt live with her, if not, tink I no need to carry my dear son at all for sure want!
This have been in my heart for some time already. just wanna rant out my unhappiness here.. Pls pardon me...
as for during discharge she carried the baby, my mum did the same. cause my mum said there's this "law" saying that either one side of grandma must go hospital to carry the baby.. very funny horr?? but the main reason my mum went and carry ds for me was becos she said i was c-sect, cannot carry ds for too long.. u're also c-sect right? maybe ur mil thought that way too??
or we think this way, from the other thread, u post that u're preg again right? maybe she just dont wanna u to be tired... but then again, she shd let u carry ur ds IN THE CAR since he can just sit on ur lap...
and u're lucky, looks lik ur hubby stand by ur side right? get ur hubby to talk to her nicely. u're wking outside and finally aft wk, u get to see ur son, no matter how tired or hungry u're i'm sure u wanna cuddle ur precious son, even it's for 1 min... ur mil is a mother, she shd know what...