wow! thats a good idea! i've heard of baby sign langague but i didnt realise that there are parents that actually does it.when my son was younger (now 26th month), he will hit us as well. What I did was to hold his hand and tell him, cannot hit mummy/daddy, why did you do it? Say sorry now. If he refuses, then I or my hubby will ignore him. After awhile he will come running to us and say sorry. Before he can speak, we taught him sign language for sorry, thus he will still be able to apologize.
Meaning to say that I should never hit dear daughter when she misbehaves?My son have been showing his tantrums ever since hes about 20 months old as well. can b from whining to crying to sitting on the floor in public places.
He used to hit when he's angry but he hit the butt (which usually is mine or hubby's) simply because i told him naughty boy mummy will hit butt butt.. i realise that n i stopped saying that as well. we went to the library and borrowed a book that talks about hands. It has something that says hands r not for hitting, for cuddling, drawing and stuff. we read it before bedtime at a period of time and when he throws tantrums n shows signs of frustration i talk to him about the book and gives him a big cuddle.
He stopped the hitting thingy ever since n it lasted ever since.
i usually leave him in the car seat throwing tantrums in the car, i will tell him that mummy will talk to u only if u stop. he understands n shows me the hand sign for sorry as he hasnt started saying sorry yet.
when we r out n he throws tantrums in the mall, i will leave him as it is, bee it sitting on the floor or crying it loud and he stops when he understands that it doesnt help.
Just keep repeating and your toddler will get it. but all parents have their own sign language. so you and your hubby just have to be consistent with the signs you want to use for each action. :001_302:wow! thats a good idea! i've heard of baby sign langague but i didnt realise that there are parents that actually does it.
how long did it take for him to learn the basics like thank you, hungry, sorry, sleepy, pee & Poo ..etc?
Despite countless times of telling dear daughter that hitting anyone is wrong, she still does it.
She also hit my niece when she goes near her, it can be when she is protective over what she is holding or even for no reason.
She get angry and hit me when I don't give her what she wants and if I leave her alone, she will roll on floor, scream and cry extremely loudly.
Very often when we are in the car, she will also hit me when I refuse to let her play with the compartments or player. Since both of us are stuck in the car, I can't walk away or ignore her.
Nowadays I find it really hard to change her diaper, she will kick with force in protest and it's kinda dangerous now since I am pregnant. I also cannot leave her naked and diaper-less in case she catches a cold.
I am lost.
Regarding car trips, perhaps it's time to invest in a car seat? Safety is definitely number 1 for our precious little one right?Thanks mummies.
My dear daughter wouldn't care if I just leave her by herself without diaper, she will be happily climbing around etc.
My husband and I are attempting the no-hit method at the moment but it doesn't work in the car. I am carrying her cause we don't have a baby car seat.
Regarding car trips, perhaps it's time to invest in a car seat? Safety is definitely number 1 for our precious little one right?
And I find it easier to handle son. If he kicks a fuss, I'd sit really far away from him until he calms down.
Usually, I let him hold a Favourite little toy while on the ride. Or feed him some snacks on the way.
Aside from the safety issue, if you think your girl is really trying her luck now and sometimes may get out of hand, a few smacks on the bottoms will do wonders!Thanks mummies.
My dear daughter wouldn't care if I just leave her by herself without diaper, she will be happily climbing around etc.
My husband and I are attempting the no-hit method at the moment but it doesn't work in the car. I am carrying her cause we don't have a baby car seat.
I think you are right about the car seat. The problem is that my husband is driving a company's car and the company is very particular about the baby car seat leaving a mark or dent.Totally agree! Car seat for our kids is very important!
Triquetra: Reading from your previous post, I hope you are not carrying her and sitting at the front passenger seat?! If so, please stop. It's too dangerous! You may think that accidents can never happen to us cos we are careful drivers. But it just have to take another reckless driver and everything can happen in 1 min. Be safe for our precious little ones. They dont know what is right and safe. It's up to us parents to protect them.
Sorry I may sound harsh, but I'm very against parents carrying their baby/toddler and sitting infront. For obvious reason. Even when seated at the back without car seat, if accident happen, the kid will still be in danger. Best is to just secure her safely in car seat. It's not ex. You can invest in one that can convert into booster seat.
LOL! I don't think this will work for me, she will think it is funny and try to provoke that reaction more often.my boy has very bad temper and he always hit ppl if he's angry.
me,hubby,my MIL,FIL,SIL and maid. I used to be hard on him whenever he hit BUT no use. Till i changed, i CRY when he hit me and ever since he DARE NOT hit me anymore. But he still hit the rest of family members except me.
So whenever he wanna hit me i will show that cry face he will sayang me instead of hit. When my hubby ask him come hit me i will show cry face and he will sayang me and go hit his dad instead.
I shall try this one! Sound workable~And I just remember this:
Teach child to express his feelings. I taught my boy hand sign for "upset" and "angry" when he was very young.
For toddlers, can teach them the words.
This way, when he's upset / angry, he may show / tell me.
Else, I ask him with the hand signs / words and he'd reply.
When the child knows his feelings are being understood, he may calm down and listen.
Now sometimes when he misbehaves and I become stern, he'd say "Mummy's upset / angry". Then he'd correct himself.
So I conclude that helping him recognise feelings is quite helpful.