mummy of three
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I'm a mother of 3 .. age 1, 3 and 5. I'm having a major problem with my anger when my no. 2 (3yo boy) misbehaved, throw tantrums and refuses to co operate. juz ytd nite, I canned him.. after leaving him the cane marks, i feel so bad.. I dun feel bad abt what others may think.. but in fact im more concern abt what I'd just shown him its the negative side. and it really bothers me the whole nite.. till now..
this afternoon, the childcare centre's supervisor called to ask if there's any problem, and she's refering to the marks on his legs.. I felt more lousy after that.. what had i done ? this boy is indeed training my patience.. my limits, my everything..
Sometimes, I feel that I shld care lesser so that I wouldnt have more disagreements with him but I find that hard.. after all he's still my son, I need to know what's he doing? how's he feeling? what does he wants.
I hated him when he falls sick.. and especially when I know that my in laws kept stuffing him with lots of snacks yet no drinking of plain water, he will end up having fever, cough and phlem. and on top of that, as he was a 24 weeks premature baby, every time he cough, my goodness, i will have endless nights of sleep... I really feel so unfair when I say "no more biscuits esp u r gonna hv dinner soon" but my in laws still pushes or ask if he wants this or that. I feel myself no power when my kids are with my in laws. whatever I say no, they will still give or insist.. I feel so tired..
and now, the cane marks will make me feel so bad and lousy till they disappear...
Help.. I dun wanna treat him this way.. can anyone tell me how and what can I do to improve my r/s w my kids, esp my no.2. he is draining my patience and calm. I'm so tired.
I do wish to find an enrichment centre for him to let him stay focus and be occupied. but of course cost is my main concern as my husband is the sole breadwinner of the family and i had juz started my PT job recently after these 5 years being a FT mum..
this afternoon, the childcare centre's supervisor called to ask if there's any problem, and she's refering to the marks on his legs.. I felt more lousy after that.. what had i done ? this boy is indeed training my patience.. my limits, my everything..
Sometimes, I feel that I shld care lesser so that I wouldnt have more disagreements with him but I find that hard.. after all he's still my son, I need to know what's he doing? how's he feeling? what does he wants.
I hated him when he falls sick.. and especially when I know that my in laws kept stuffing him with lots of snacks yet no drinking of plain water, he will end up having fever, cough and phlem. and on top of that, as he was a 24 weeks premature baby, every time he cough, my goodness, i will have endless nights of sleep... I really feel so unfair when I say "no more biscuits esp u r gonna hv dinner soon" but my in laws still pushes or ask if he wants this or that. I feel myself no power when my kids are with my in laws. whatever I say no, they will still give or insist.. I feel so tired..
and now, the cane marks will make me feel so bad and lousy till they disappear...
Help.. I dun wanna treat him this way.. can anyone tell me how and what can I do to improve my r/s w my kids, esp my no.2. he is draining my patience and calm. I'm so tired.
I do wish to find an enrichment centre for him to let him stay focus and be occupied. but of course cost is my main concern as my husband is the sole breadwinner of the family and i had juz started my PT job recently after these 5 years being a FT mum..