I am not against or for abortion as I feel it's a personal decision and whatever you decide is the best thing for YOUR family.
I was 4 months old when my mother fell pregnant with my brother, who was child #3. As I fell pregnant when #1 was a baby (6 months) I talked to my mother about how I would cope (in the end I lost the baby but became pregnant again when #1 was 12 months). I don't have family here to help and I just couldn't see how I would manage. My mother's advice was that it's stressful, difficult and extremely tiring but once you get over the initial months it is all worth it. She also told me that even today she sometimes finds being a mother stressful, difficult and extremely tiring but all worth it even though we're all now adults.
About the comparing, parents will either do it or they won't it doesn't matter how old the children are. Even though I am 13 months older than my brother I was never compared to him, but always compared with my sister who was 24 months older. I remember feeling left out sometimes but what child with siblings has never felt left out?
I also remember for my 2nd & 3rd pregnancies I cried when I found out - the crying was a mix of shock and a little happiness but more saddness for my daughter having to share her parents with another and wondering if I could love another child as much.
Ultimately my advice is that your family need to do what feels 'right' for you, your husband and your daughter. I know this doesn't really help but no one can make the decision for your family. You just need to discuss your feelings and the possibilities with your husband.
I truly believe that in every life situation as long as mummy & daddy are happy then the family will be happy.
I was 4 months old when my mother fell pregnant with my brother, who was child #3. As I fell pregnant when #1 was a baby (6 months) I talked to my mother about how I would cope (in the end I lost the baby but became pregnant again when #1 was 12 months). I don't have family here to help and I just couldn't see how I would manage. My mother's advice was that it's stressful, difficult and extremely tiring but once you get over the initial months it is all worth it. She also told me that even today she sometimes finds being a mother stressful, difficult and extremely tiring but all worth it even though we're all now adults.
About the comparing, parents will either do it or they won't it doesn't matter how old the children are. Even though I am 13 months older than my brother I was never compared to him, but always compared with my sister who was 24 months older. I remember feeling left out sometimes but what child with siblings has never felt left out?
I also remember for my 2nd & 3rd pregnancies I cried when I found out - the crying was a mix of shock and a little happiness but more saddness for my daughter having to share her parents with another and wondering if I could love another child as much.
Ultimately my advice is that your family need to do what feels 'right' for you, your husband and your daughter. I know this doesn't really help but no one can make the decision for your family. You just need to discuss your feelings and the possibilities with your husband.
I truly believe that in every life situation as long as mummy & daddy are happy then the family will be happy.