SunShine07
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hmm, actually my boy not close with his father, and he didn't ask anything or show any sign.........Well i stay with my parents also ..
how do you speak to your kid of your x-spouse ?
hmm, actually my boy not close with his father, and he didn't ask anything or show any sign.........Well i stay with my parents also ..
how do you speak to your kid of your x-spouse ?
hello! Dont keep thinking that u're gonna be "single"! it's just another phrase of life!Hi all!
I'm a mommi with a beautiful 3 YO son.
I'm working and about the be single.
Would like to know more mums and dads for support and guidance.
i am terrified, which is y i quickly return him everything or else he will say he supported me. best scenario is not to let him see my son at all, which i somehow regret giving in to... now since it's like that, i just wanna keep sane (and my mom to stop her guilt trips). will it be possible for him to fight with me? i didn't add his name in BC. oh and the other day when he took photo of my son, he took of me and his mum n my son together, now i recall and i'm wondering what were his intentions. now everything he does makes me suspicious.just tell him straight. call him up and talk to him about it. tell him how you feel towards this and say your son can call him UNCLE, and meet him, but not daddy.
actually imo, now he is already like that, soon, arent you afraid one day he will try to fight custody with you????
i finally gave in coz mom tells me my son is poorthing, i'm evil to keep him away from his father, both of them have the right to see each other. it becomes like an emotional torture to live with that esp since my mum helps me with looking after my boy.actually i dont know what happen btw you and him... maybe during the time he mia, he woke up and realise his mistake? we cant be sure.
even if you didnt add his name in the BC, he can still fight with you as long as he is the natural father, all he needs is to go to court n the judge will request for a DNA test to be taken.
actually in the beginning, you already made the mistake by giving in.. the moment i left my ex, i never ever let him see my girl once. he asked me a couple of times but i jst reject cos i dont want him to be tempted nor want him to carry false hopes. i know ppl like him see once will keep wanting to see many times, so i dont wanna take any risks.
exactly... my dad is on my side, but my mum always argue with him saying he cause his grandson to have no father. i explain to my dad i do it out of goodwill to let him see, but everytime i recall the time when i was preg, and wedding was called off, i was left alone to handle my pregnancy and stress from relatives, that idiot literally disappeared (also in a way i get some peace from him). baby born liao then he reappear and say wanna rekindle. kns!!overall i'm just fearful my son grows up and hates me for not letting him see his father that's y i do it this way.huh.. why your mum like that... shldnt she be on your side? well, if her precious grandchild gets "snatched" then she will know..... (no offence to you, but thats what i honestly think).
i meet him outside, my mum knows i meet him, but she dun wanna openly talk about it, so i also 'secretly' meet him, so that my mum dun do anything funny behind my back. he is those narrow-minded kind of guy, to a point of nerdy, but i know he's not stupid. in fact, i don't know if he has anything up his sleeves by at first giving me money, and being very calculative about how often we meet. even when i give 1 day notice to meet him (coz my work time is unpredictable) and hopefully he can't push away his appt to meet, he still will lor, he's afraid i will accuse him of not being interested. but the thing is he doesn't seem to understand goodwill is not an obligation. ya i think i will change it to fortnightly, except i know he will think coz i return him $ liao then i meet less often.yeah by not taking his money, you have a better chance.
maybe you just slowly try to reduce the no. of time he sees him.
instead of weekly, you change to biweekly, then once a month..
your mum side, just bring your son out weekly, n tell her you bring him see his dad?
actually no offence, but i think your mum doesnt know how to think... i mean come on lorr, a real father/man wont leave his wife/son when they need him the most.
my parents r the one who encouraged me to leave him cos he was so useless and we definately cant count on him.
they dont wry about my girl hving no daddy, bcos she would be better off w/o him anyway.
i regret i never listen to my parents and left him earlier. if not, sure wont put his name in the BC. but thank god, he knows his place and have already stopped asking to see my girl cos he know he can never give her what i can give her. he knows he is a lousy n useless man so he dont dare to snatch my girl from me. and i know also cos now he got the "freedom" to go find other girls, why not?
now, my girl has a daddy and he is my current bf. we r planning to get married and faster settle the adoption process so my girl would be under our parental rights rather than that person.
im not sure, but i think will issue a new BC with it since its under adoption process. though my ex never come bother me, but i still wry one day he might just turn up n take her, so i wanna faster get the things settled n live peacefully!
but better not tell him u r gonna get married soon, or else he will use emotional blackmail then jia lat. prob just use the bait that u sparing him the agony of needing his signature for all her schooling paperwork purposes and that once his name is out, he doesn't need to pay or support or care about pin's life. make it a sweet deal for him.now, my girl has a daddy and he is my current bf. we r planning to get married and faster settle the adoption process so my girl would be under our parental rights rather than that person.
im not sure, but i think will issue a new BC with it since its under adoption process. though my ex never come bother me, but i still wry one day he might just turn up n take her, so i wanna faster get the things settled n live peacefully!