CanCanMum
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hi all mummies and daddies,
i tot of writing this for some advises and views, as my current circle of friends and acquaintances are limited.
just put down the phone with my best friend an hour ago.:nah:She recently has this problem with her hb which makes me very worried about her relationship with her hb. I have known her and her hb since poly days and the last thing i wish to see is their relationship getting sour or any worse. any1 out there can share their views on this?
A few weeks back, she found out that her hb has been receiving smses on his hp after working hours and even weekends, from a lady. And everytime they are on family outings her hb will be busy replying her smses because he thinks its rude to ignore or reply at a later time.
after she questioned him he claimed that this female colleague is just his friend.
like most woman, my gf gets angrier everytime this girl sends an sms to him, and sometimes it can be 10 to 20 times per day, reporting everything she does, what she saw, anything she finds interesting etc and etc. As if very close friends.
although my gf gets to read every single sms that comes in, she is still unhappy. So far her hb has been quite open abt letting her see the smses though...
if u asked me i will, too be unhappy if i see smses from a female friend or colleague in my hb's hp everyday, and flooding his hp. So i totally ustd my gf's feelings.
but my gf's hubby is not willing to let go of this friendship for her. He says it is a matter of principle, not that they are having an affair or what. And that my gf "thinks too much". He says if he let go of this friendship does he mean that everytime he looks for a friend he has to ask for her permission 1st? And he just doesnt ustd why she cant accept this friend of his.
so this has been dragging on for weeks, with quarrels almost everyday and everytime they rake up this issue and finally, yesterday my gf had a really big fight with him and moved to her mums place to cool down.
seems like he will not give in and my gf cannot stand them having a close relationship in which he claims to be platonic.
personally i think that he should give up on this, if its what he claimed to be, close friendship, if it really makes my gf so miserable and uncomfortable, so as to assure her security and lifelong happiness. Who knows what might happen?? But my gf is also worried that if he really does that, he might hate her for the rest of his life for interferring his way of socialising. Isn't it a dilemma or contradictory??? i am really at a loss to how i can advise my best friend.
they are married since 2002 and have 2 kids. My gf's hb is quiet, unassuming, and hardly have any friends. :embarrassed:
i tot of writing this for some advises and views, as my current circle of friends and acquaintances are limited.
just put down the phone with my best friend an hour ago.:nah:She recently has this problem with her hb which makes me very worried about her relationship with her hb. I have known her and her hb since poly days and the last thing i wish to see is their relationship getting sour or any worse. any1 out there can share their views on this?
A few weeks back, she found out that her hb has been receiving smses on his hp after working hours and even weekends, from a lady. And everytime they are on family outings her hb will be busy replying her smses because he thinks its rude to ignore or reply at a later time.
after she questioned him he claimed that this female colleague is just his friend.
like most woman, my gf gets angrier everytime this girl sends an sms to him, and sometimes it can be 10 to 20 times per day, reporting everything she does, what she saw, anything she finds interesting etc and etc. As if very close friends.
although my gf gets to read every single sms that comes in, she is still unhappy. So far her hb has been quite open abt letting her see the smses though...
if u asked me i will, too be unhappy if i see smses from a female friend or colleague in my hb's hp everyday, and flooding his hp. So i totally ustd my gf's feelings.
but my gf's hubby is not willing to let go of this friendship for her. He says it is a matter of principle, not that they are having an affair or what. And that my gf "thinks too much". He says if he let go of this friendship does he mean that everytime he looks for a friend he has to ask for her permission 1st? And he just doesnt ustd why she cant accept this friend of his.
so this has been dragging on for weeks, with quarrels almost everyday and everytime they rake up this issue and finally, yesterday my gf had a really big fight with him and moved to her mums place to cool down.
seems like he will not give in and my gf cannot stand them having a close relationship in which he claims to be platonic.
personally i think that he should give up on this, if its what he claimed to be, close friendship, if it really makes my gf so miserable and uncomfortable, so as to assure her security and lifelong happiness. Who knows what might happen?? But my gf is also worried that if he really does that, he might hate her for the rest of his life for interferring his way of socialising. Isn't it a dilemma or contradictory??? i am really at a loss to how i can advise my best friend.
they are married since 2002 and have 2 kids. My gf's hb is quiet, unassuming, and hardly have any friends. :embarrassed: